Cecis_Mom
Registered: 09/12/08
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| | 02/08/10 at 10:54 PM | | #1 |
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I am so upset.
Update to my "Nightmare" post from last week (top of Page 2 on these boards now).
He met with landlord, and landlord is ordering him to give up the dog.
Neighbors next door expressed fear of the dog after listening to the wife of the man who beat up my boyfriend's adult son and grandson.
I know these landlords as acquaintences and am very upset.
Landlord sided with person who beats up humans because they are friends.
Found fault with the dog for getting out of the front door.
Human beaters got next door neighbors to express fear of the dog.
Basically it's the dog or the housing which they struggled so hard to find.
What upsets me equally is I have always wanted this dog. Dog was left behind by sister of the wife of boyfriend's adult son. At the time, I offered to take the dog, but the family wanted him as they had always lived with the dog. (The aunt had lived with them temporarily before she moved away. She acquired him from a homeless lady when he was just an itty bitty puppy, hence the name Itty Bitty.
I am so upset. I know it is not the right time for me to have a dog and that this dog is a lot younger than a rescue dog I had planned to get a year or two down the line, but I still wanted him.
Boyfriend says place is too small and that the dog needs a yard. I know from experience that if you walk a dog a lot and take the dog to the park , they can get more than enough exercise.
So upset. Seems like he just does not get it. My dog is dead, and he won't give me this beloved boy who desperately needs a home.
They plan to find another home for him, but that means the little guy may move far away to Lake Tahoe, Nevada, and then I would probably never see him again.
Life is so unfair.
I am so sad.
Why do things like this have to happen?
All the dog needs is more training and better precautions taken to make sure he does not bolt through the door. Animal Control made recommendations, but landlord does not agree.
I never even got to say goodbye.
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Cecis_Mom
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| | 02/09/10 at 12:31 AM | | #2 |
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Heartbroken.
It's a done deal.
The dog is leaving for Lake Tahoe.
Little Itty Bitty will now live with my boyfriend's ex-wife's family.
At least, he will be around other dogs and cats. My boyfriend's son takes his own family up there at least two or three times a year.
I asked my boyfriend if he would take me one day, and he said yes. But it is just a pipe dream because we work every weekend like a couple of slaves when everyone else in his family gets to go on trips.
I wonder why I even stay. I am so heartbroken. I can not interfere anymore. Just causes too many problems.
No doubt the neighbors will continue to find ways to retaliate in order to make the court case turn in their favor. Afraid of "vicious" dog--therefore okay to kick dog and beat up his owners. My boyfriend's family is of another culture, and racism is rampant around here. I watched the neighbors all talking about his family on Sunday, and to me it all spelled stereotypes and racism. It is just a matter of time (0r next year's lease renewal) before they still have to find new housing. Life is just plain sick sometimes. I am so sickened that the landlords did not follow Animal Control's recommendation to let them keep the dog and follow through with training and yard precautions.
And through all of this, why is a man seeming to get away with kicking the dog up in the air in the first place? (Twice!) Why does a landlord not see that this is incomprehendable and that is so-called friend has a problem? Why is an innocent rescue dog the problem?
Landlord is afraid of liability. The dog kicker's wife has convinced him that a barking dog may attack them (if he got out again) when they are out walking their dog "off leash." Do not know why they have not even been cited for repeatedly walking the dog "off leash" in the first place. Again racial profiling, I truly believe it--that is why my boyfriend's family has been targeted and not the others. I have seen it even with my own nephews who get followed around stores by clerks thinking they are going to steal based on the color of their skin.
I am rambling right now, but if I do not write, I will continue to cry hysterically.
Somehow I have to make peace with this decision they made and accept the fact that since I am not really a part of their family, my ideas and opinions do not matter in this situation.
My Itty Bitty
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Cecis_Mom
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| | 02/09/10 at 12:46 AM | | #3 |
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Can't stop crying.
This loss feels like death.
Trying to keep telling myself that he is still alive and will have a good life in Lake Tahoe.
Best to be far away from the man who beat him.
Wondering if the dog kicker will even get formally charged with animal abuse. Seems like he gets away with everything and has his wife turning the whole neighborhood against this family. This all feels so surreal.
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ItalianAngel73
Registered: 12/10/09
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| | 02/09/10 at 01:54 AM | | #4 |
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Cecis Mom...
Wow! I don't know what to say. Losing a beloved pet to death is one thing, but to lose your Itty Bitty this way is so sad. I wish I had some magic words to erase the pain. The only thing I can do is give you a big ((hug)) and let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
blessings,
~Michele
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lovemypup
Registered: 12/11/09
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| | 02/09/10 at 02:06 AM | | #5 |
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Karma will get him. His time will come. Give out bad and you will get bad in return.
As for Itty Bitty, be grateful his is far from this wicked man, wife and landlord.
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LindaK
Registered: 07/19/08
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| | 02/09/10 at 06:29 AM | | #6 |
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Dear Robin,
I am so very sorry. I am in shock and disbelieve that they think Itty Bitty is a vicious dog! How stupid can people be. You should have been first choice for taking Itty Bitty. I am sorry for the trauma that sweet little dog has had to endure by that creep who kicked him and now he has been taken away from his home. I pray he recovers both physically and mentally.
I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Mayme
Registered: 09/24/09
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| | 02/09/10 at 11:51 AM | | #7 |
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Dear Robin,
I am so sorry to hear of the out come. My gosh, don't people understand that a dog. or cat or any other Fur Baby, They just don't care where they live, just as long as it is with someone who loves them and takes care of them? I have a German Shepard that weighs over 130 pounds and if she had her way, she would live on my lap! You can still take care of Itty Bitty through prayers. I will help you out there and pray for her long life, health and happiness. And that you do get to see Itty. God Bless.
Love, Mayme ~ Sammy's Mommy
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Cecis_Mom
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| | 02/09/10 at 12:44 PM | | #8 |
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I have to sit next to this person who would not let me have his dog.
I have to work with this person 6 days a week.
They are all fine with the decision because the little dog gets to stay in the family even if he moves all the way to Lake Tahoe which is several hours away.
My eyes are puffy.
We can't even talk about this at work.
This dog is the most loving baby boy who loves to give doggie kisses.
I have begged them to get more training because he is so young and came from such tragic circumstances as a puppy. To my knowledge, he never got the training due to finances. I feel this whole situation could have been avoided if he had been trained better. He is so fearful of strangers at first meeting but warms up quickly. Luckily, he is still going to live with someone he already knows: Grandma. But that does not change how I feel. I have been a big part of this dog's life for nearly two years. And now he has gone away.
My heart is broken once again.
And no one in his family really cares how I feel.
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KatLover
Registered: 09/21/09
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| | 02/09/10 at 02:39 PM | | #9 |
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Hi Robin, this is just so unjust how your boyfriend and his family is being treated here.
I do think Itty Bitty will be just fine though. Try to relax on that issue. Somehow God has a way of making things work out for the best, even though we can't see it at the time. I am glad he is far away from that sick sick man.
There are some pretty important laws against what you fear the landlord is cooking up against your boyfriend. People can't just go around doing that nowadays, and there's legal-aid societies that provide free legal help to people who are discriminated against for whatever reason--race, religion, gender, etc. These people are really putting themselves in a bad position if they're doing what it seems like you're saying.
But don't worry about Itty Bitty--try to think of how he'll be in another state away from that wicked neighbor. You will get your rescue dog. Your boyfriend is going through a tough time too--who would wnat any of that--but there is help available.
Kathy
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Kellie
Registered: 12/02/08
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| | 02/09/10 at 03:01 PM | | #10 |
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Wow. I read through your last post and now this one and I can't believe it. It sounds like that man that kicked Itty Bitty has some serious problems. I'm so sorry your boyfriend wouldn't let you keep Itty Bitty. I know you were attached to him and it is hard to see him go. I will pray that he adjusts and is happy in his new home. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. |
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Cecis_Mom
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| | 02/09/10 at 06:50 PM | | #11 |
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Depressed at work.
Holding back the tears.
Need to use this forum as a blog for my feelings.
I am not even writing in the style I usually write in--this writing almost feels as unnatural as the whole situation.
I am so upset at these neighbors and these landlords.
I have known the landlords for over 10 years through my nephews' sports. Was so excited to find the rental for my boyfriend's large family and so excited to be used as a reference that the landlords felt they did not even need to call. My good name was enough for them. It all was too good to be true. My poor boyfriend's family never seems to be able to fit into suburban neighborhoods around here. They always face discrimination.
Still can not believe that little Itty Bitty had to go away. Oh, why could these landlords not accept the recommendations of Animal Control and give the guy another chance to stay in the house and the yard? To get more training to help him be comfortable around strangers?
Why is a neighbor hitting a father and son so hard that the 15-year-old had to make two ER visits within 48 hours? Why do the landlords think this neighbor (their friend) is less of a threat than the little dog who barked at the same man who kicked him twice, tossing him up in the air?
I am repeating myself, but I just need to keep writing, or I will start crying at work.
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Mare
Registered: 08/27/08
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| | 02/09/10 at 08:09 PM | | #12 |
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Aww Robin....I am so sorry your boyfriend wouldn't let you keep Itty Bitty. He know how much love you have to give to a pet.....it truly doesn't make sense. Life continues to give you challenges that are so painful. I hope Itty Bitty adjusts to his home...it's sad that you weren't able to say goodbye. My heart goes out to you.
Mare
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VinnieBinnie
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| | 02/10/10 at 12:50 AM | | #13 |
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This is outrageous! I cannot believe that the landlord picked their side...when the man hit a child! What is wrong with people???
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Cecis_Mom
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| | 02/11/10 at 12:59 PM | | #14 |
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Turns out little Itty Bitty will move in with great grandma just a few hours away in Morro Bay.
Great grandma Marlene is still pretty spry and loves Itty Bitty.
My boyfriend did, however, express his feelings (via email) to landlord for making him give up a family member while the neighbor (landlord's friend) who injured his dog and his family simply walks free.
I am finding peace with this situation as best as I can, but part of me still hopes for a miracle--that the landlord will support the recommendations from Animal Control to allow this family to keep the dog as long as they get him trained not to bolt from doorways and work on being more comfortable around strangers.
I still can not believe I spent the better part of 10 years around these landlords, chatting in the bleachers at so many basketball games for their boys and my nephews--even taking a trip Las Vegas together for a big basketball tournament in the Summer of 2001--I never would have imagined how cold-hearted they would turn out to be.
Even if I can possibly try to understand their decision to have Itty Bitty leave due to the fear of liability based on the exaggerated story the neighbor friends gave them, I still do not understand how they could not validate or acknowledge in any way the pain and suffering my boyfriend's son, grandson, and little dog experienced at the hands of this violent neighbor.
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VinnieBinnie
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| | 02/11/10 at 02:58 PM | | #15 |
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No offense to anyone, but I hope a huge flock of geese fly over the violent jerk's head and simultaneously decide to release their bowels right on him. :(
And I hope you get to see Itty Bitty again. Looking at his picture, oh yeah, Public Enemy #1. *eye roll*
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Moonlight
Registered: 10/18/09
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| | 02/12/10 at 01:49 AM | | #16 |
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I'm so sorry about this awful situation. Itty Bitty is the cutest boy! I could see why you love him so much. It doesn't make sense to me either that your boyfriend won't let you take the dog, but at least Itty is still alive after being attacked by those nasty people, and at least Itty Bitty will be in a good home. I can see why you are so upset at the landlord. Sometimes people turn out to be completely different then we thought they were and that's when relationships change. I can see why you would feel differently about them from now on and also have a little resentment towards your boyfriend because I would be pretty upset. You know, I have a family member who's 18 year old cat got kicked full force by some nasty woman because "the cat was coming after her". This cat was the smallest little girl and an old lady. Not long after the poor cat passed away and I know part of it was due to the woman that kicked her. She never fully recovered. Some people are just so nasty and cruel. I wish you could file some kind of a charge on those people who kicked Itty. |
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