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Labradorgurl

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When my husband and I started dating 14 years ago we decided to get a puppy. He was a black lab and was the dorkiest of the bunch. We bought a home and realized quickly that he needed a companion as he was full of energy and did naughty things while we worked. I knew I wanted a yellow lab companion to match his age, and just like that an advertisement in the paper for a female lab who was 7 Months old. We would be her third owner’s in this time frame because no one could deal with her energy requirements. She jumped in our vehicle and laid down calmly, just like she knew it was meant to be. When we Introduced the two pups they feel in love and played and played for 16 hours. We finally had to separate them so they could rest. They loved each other as much as we loved them. Best friends forever! If one had a vet appt and the other couldn’t come, they would pant and pace so anxiously. Fast forward 14 years to now, both were deaf and starting to decline. My male had osteoarthritis in his spine and had frequent pain. Showed signs of dementia but other then that he was a happy boy. My female Lacie was actually fine other then urinary incontinence which she was treated for. Out of nowhere she lost weight and became very weak. She constantly soiled herself with urine and a few times I had to hold her up outside so she wouldn’t fall in her poop. Brutus knew and his condition deteriorated with hers. He was now falling more and appeared to have pain I was no longer able to control. We decided they should go peacefully together and spoiled them the entire 4th of July weekend. We knew this was the right decision and our vet agreed. She came to our home and we put them to sleep comfortable together on the 8th. I lost my best friends together on the same day and it feels like I also lost that part of our life with my husband since they were always apart of “us”. The house is incredibly quiet and lonely. For anyone still with me, how does this get easier? Pointers? Gosh this hurts. Thanks to all who read.
InmemoryofRuby

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As hard as it seems, it foes get easier over time. It had been 4 years since I brought my 17 year old buddy to the Rainbow Bridge and the pain had subsided to the point I can laugh and smile at his pictures. But I had to bring my sweet baby girl of 13 years to join him a few weeks ago, and that has been as painful like yours. Expect heartache for a few weeks. I helps to write about them, I found. Read others stories and know that you are not alone in your grief. You had fantastic times with your fur children and you know they loved you more than life itself. They had a life together that was exceptional for any pet and you were there to hive them a peaceful sleep together so they never experienced any grief of their own. How very wonderful. I still have Rubys older sister with us and she is still in great health, and for the first weeks it was heartbreaking watching her constantly go to Rubys spots and try to sniff her out and cry when she went to sleep alone which she has never done her entire life. She too, is adjusting, but is a but more needy. Have strength and remember their love for you 2.
Muleymaggie

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Oh I just feel you were so brave and loving knowing they were both deteriorating and would deteriorate faster without each other. Over time I feel certain you will heal, cry less and remember them with a joyful heart. I’m suffering the sudden lost of a Great Dane and my younger Dane is clearly lonely without her. It breaks my heart seeing her sad and missing Maggie. I’ve lost dogs befor, although never like this without warning. We know they are happy in heaven free from pain and discomfort so it’s up to us to move forward with a new normal. At some point I suspect you’ll be ready to open your heart again but allow yourself time. No one can rush you. There’s a void that takes time, a hole in your heart. Don’t ever listen to those who belittle your sadness. It’s a family member whose been with you everyday for 14 years. I keep busy to help going through the daily routine but life isn’t the same right now. Allow yourself to cry...I helps and I pray everyday reminding God to rub her ears and remind her how I loved her and miss her. I know God hears my request.

choochoo

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your 2 best friends.Its incredibly hard but you had 14 fantastic years to love each other and gave them a great life.And yes they are and always will be a part of your family .They are so lucky that they found you and are looking down from the rainbow bridge thinking please don't be sad we had so much fun and love together.It does get easier over time but now it's tough.try to remember the good times read some stories here' about others who loved and lost.You had 2 which makes its harder but you had 2 times the love for 14 years that you would never give up despite the pain you feel now.In time the pain will subside and you think back with a smile on all the happiness and love you shared.Be proud of all the years you had and try to remember them with love .I have a 17 year old now that I'm faced with similar health problems and will have to let her go like you did to free them.Take care of yourself




Labradorgurl

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@inmemoryofruby , thank you so much for the kind words! We’re not in this alone. I now believe that these losses hurt like a human loss would. I’m very sorry to hear about Ruby and Buddy. They’re together again and at peace. But that doesn’t make it any easier. Thanks for sharing the story of Ruby’s older sister. It’s brings some peace and closure knowing I did the right thing for them together. Hugs from just another broken hearted stranger.
Labradorgurl

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@muleymaggie
Thank you for the kind words and sharing your story. I’m very sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your Great Dane. I hope you are able to find peace and heal. When I read these stories, it makes me sad for being sad, as I didn’t have to lose a pet so unexpectedly without warning. That’s devastating. Be kind to yourself and know your not alone. These reply’s have already given me some peace. Thank you for sharing!
Labradorgurl

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@choochoo
Thank you for the kind words. You’re right, I have 2x the loss but for 14 years, I also had 2x the love, laughter and memories. I hadn’t thought of this. Thank you
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