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Hi All,

Several months ago, I lost my beloved dog. While it wasn't sudden, the grief was and still is completely overwhelming. This came after the sudden loss of my cat earlier this year. I have one surviving cat as well.

Approximately a month after losing my dog, I adopted a dog from a rescue. It became abundantly clear within several days of adoption that she was not going to do well with my kitty- and the rescue happily rehomed her in a cat-free home.

Last week, I adopted a puppy from the same rescue. I was SO sure I was ready to have a dog again...but now I am regretting it. I look at the new puppy, and I tear up with how much I miss my deceased dog. The guilt and sadness is overwhelming- I feel like I have been crying for a week. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this puppy- he is a joy. But I, for lack of a better explanation, don't want him. If I knew the rescue and my family wouldn't judge me, he would be back with the rescue and his foster family today.

Has anyone else experienced this? Should I wait this horrible feeling out?

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Yes, I have experienced similar.  After losing Toby in January of 2015 (Tuffy passed in Februay 2014), we adopted in March.  

The girls we adopted were a joy too.  I cried in grief and laughed at their antics.  It was like this for a few months.  I reminded myself that part of adopting the girls was to honor the boys memory.

The bonding with the boys was instant.  With the girls it took a few months.  But here we are in 2018 and we love them with all of our hearts.  

Give it time.  Be kind to yourself.  

Tuffy, Toby, Ellie and Missy's Dad

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Please return him. He deserves to be wanted and loved. It is not too late. You are just going to destroy him emotionally if you keep him. For the love of God YOUR FEAR OF JUDGEMENT of others shouldn't keep you from doing the right thing for the poor puppy.
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