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Tomorrow will be a week since my Otis left us. Even though his health had be declining over the past 9 months or so, I came to the decision to help him to the Bridge very quickly. I had been in denial for a while, not wanting to realize that things would never improve. But last Thursday, the look in his eyes told me enough was enough. I even asked him if he was ready to go, and he put his paw on my shoulder. And as I was crying, he licked my tears away. At the end, he was comforting me. Now, a week later, I'm still waiting for him to walk in the room. I had a dream the night after he died. We were sitting together, but I knew that he was gone. I asked him if he was OK, and he licked my face and gave me his paw. I know he's so much better now...I just have to figure out how to move on without him. I don't have a clue. Thanks for listening...


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Hi, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved furface. You get through this in your own time. Take the time to grieve and feel all you need to feel. You have lost a very import part of your life and that will impact you allot. I wish you only the best and again I know how hard a decsision it was for you to make. the hardest thing for us to do sometimes is the best thing for the.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult to send our beloved furbabies to the bridge if they are sick or suffering. You must miss your baby so much. It takes time to recover from this loss. Sometimes if we are sad the best is to let the tears flow. Try to remember what a wonderful time you had together, that always helps,
Diana, Jessie's mom.

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I'm so sorry about your loss, my precious cat Bella had to be put to sleep on Monday after a long battle with cancer.  It is hard to face the decision after taking care of a sick animal because we always hope that they just one day get better.  This past weekend her breathing became worse and she was clearly hanging on for me.  She gave me lots of kisses like Otis gave you and she slept next to my chest.  I think Bella was ok with the decision because when going to the Vet's office on Monday she just hopped in the carrier.  It was so hard to make the decision, but at least we know our babies are not in pain and now they can actually be free.  I have my favorite picture up on the mantle and just say hello to her everyday and tell her that I loved her so very much.  I'm am still so sad thinking about living without her, but I try to comfort myself in knowing that I provided such a loving home for her and I did everything I could to help her. 


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Dear Anne,

I am so sorry to hear you had to say farewell to your beloved, Otis.   It is so impossibly difficult to have to help our babies pass on, even when we know it is time for them.  I lost my beloved little 16 year old terrier girl, Betsy Noodle, four months ago to dementia and severe muscle wasting.   It was the worst day of my life so far, and I still cry for her each night as I try to fall asleep.   She was my child.

The silver lining in your dark cloud is that you know your precious boy is no longer suffering.   He knows you loved and still love him, and will always miss him.   And, he still loves you.  How BLESSED you were to have a dream of him so soon after he passed!  And, what a lovely dream it was.   I have had beautiful dreams of Betsy, as well.

I hope you are comforted by all the joyful memories you have of your sweet boy.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Betsy's forever mommy

     My Beloved Betsy Noodle
       Forever in My Heart


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Dear Anne,
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Otis.
He must be a very special baby and the fact that he was comforting his Mom at the end proves that.
You also must be a wonderful Mom.
Many times they come to us in spirit after they have left this earth.
Sometimes it is a sound we hear or sometimes we think we see them in old familiar places.
In some cases they come in dreams.
I believe Otis came to you in that dream to comfort you just the way he did when you asked him if he was ready to leave.
He wanted you to know that he is just fine now and that he has never really left you.
Be patient and look beyond the rainbow and listen with your heart and he will come to you in many ways.
One day you will see him again when it's your time to join him.
He will run to your waiting arms and kiss your tears away.
Those will be tears of joy though because you will never be separated again.
Love and Peace,

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I know what you mean when you say "How do I move on"? I lost my calico friend in Jan. and have 3 remaining pets that all have major health problems. Someday soon, they will all be gone. I ask myself "How do I move on without them?" I"ve cared for them like children. 
But, although I understand that everything changes and we can't hold onto anything forever--it's very hard to let go. They provide a constancy and comfort in our lives--when life can be so unpredictable, they are predictable.
Take care and sorry for your loss of little Otis.

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Anne I lost my cat Lewis on mother`s day May 11 2008 and today is Friday May 16th and the pain is as great as it was on Sunday but sharing my lost here, and the sweet, thoughtful, sincere replies has help me deal better with Lewis's passing. I know Otis was greatly loved by you and Otis has given you precious memories that will always be with you and so he is always with you in heart and thoughts. He is playing in heaven and happy just as Lewis is.


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Dear Jim, Nancee, Kathy, Melissa, cinnamon, Diana, and Loudpurring,
Thank you all so much for your kind words and support. Each day varies with how I can tolerate Otis' loss. Today, I was actually able to look at his picture and smile for the first time since he left...maybe I'm making some progress. But then again, the least little thing can set me off. I am sorry for all of your losses. You all (and others on this site) have been the only ones to truly understand and I really don't know how I would be getting through this if I hadn't found this site.

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I just want to share a picture of my Otis. He's such a sweetheart, and I really miss those eyes...


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Dear Anne, Otis is so cute!!! I like that picture you posted, I can understand why you miss him so much.
Diana, Jessie's mom.
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