Registered: 1280313280 Posts: 596
Has anyone not felt comforted by having their baby's ashes? I still haven't seen Bubba or Sassy's ashes yet. I told my husband to put them someplace I wouldn't stumble on them, and when I asked, he could tell me where they are. I still haven't asked. Sassy died in June and Bubba in July.
It's just too painful to see a box with ashes and think that was my beautiful boy and girl. I am not comforted at all. When we had our own house, I would bury my pets in the backyard. That comforted me. But we sold the house and now we rent, so that's not an option. Maybe someday I'll ask for them, but I think it's going to be a while.
Registered: 1279288501 Posts: 564
Rottiesrule, this isn't exactly an answer to your question, but I think it's related. I was asked at the time of each of my dog's passing whether or not I wanted them cremated. I said no each time, as I had also buried past pets. Now, I have second thoughts.....what if I lose my job and have to move? I wouldn't want to be separated from their remains, even though I know that it's not really my dogs buried out there in the back. One more thing to have second guessed myself on!! LukeAndLilsDad (Rick)
Registered: 1280313280 Posts: 596
Rick, I'm with you. I have never cremated any of my pets ever, and this is very wierd to me. I so see your point about having to leave them. When I sold my old house, I had to leave my babies there. It was very upsetting.
Registered: 1269842402 Posts: 1,901
i guess for me it made me feel better when i brought my babies back home. an attractive urn and a special place to put them did help me. and this way when i croak, i am also going to be cremated and have their ashes intermingled with mine. it's the only way i know of to keep their remains with you permanently. i have some of my pets buried in different places some of which i can no longer visit. i don't like that.
Registered: 1205722371 Posts: 65
I have had all of my pets cremated. As far as seeing their ashes, yes it is painful to see them, but in some ways for me at least, it gives me more of a sense of closure. I always cry when I get the box back, but that is part of the grieving process. I was so upset when my first cat was put to sleep. The vet asked if I wanted her cremated and her ashes returned to me. I said "yes". Her ashes sat in a box on the windowsill for almost a year. I wasn't sure what I was going to do with them. Then, on the anniversary of the day I brought her home from the animal shelter, the sun was shining brightly and I knew what to do. I sprinkled her ashes on the front lawn. She loved to sit on the grass out there and watch the world stroll by. My other cats ashes are planted with a beautiful daylily (her name was lily) in the front yard. I have yet to figure out what to do with the dog's ashes, but I'm sure I will some day. I know I will move from this house some day, but I think my pets are happy where they are resting.
Sorry, that was a long winded answer.
Registered: 1281404317 Posts: 39
Paco is the first I had cremated. My neighbor says it was too much money she is going to put her dog in a shoebox when she (the dog) dies because when they are gone they are gone. I hope she has a place to bury the shoebox and isn't planing to trash her sweet silky terrier.
I don't remember what I did with deceased pets when married to Bill. We had property but I think the vet just took care of it.
Registered: 1276206575 Posts: 628
We lost our sweet Beagle, Bonnie Lou on June 9th of this year. We had that precious baby 13 years. When we lost her, we both we too would die. We had her cremated. I have her box on a shelf in computer room with pictures around it of her. I have one of those flamless candles behind her box.\ I will never let the batteries go in that candles. In fact I put new batteries in it today. It gives me comfort to see the Shrine I made for her. We have said that the first one of us that leave this earth, will take Bonnies ashes with them.