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Les

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Hi all,

A little update on my girl Bella. She suffered a stroke on Feb 9 and had vestibular syndrome. Well after much physical therapy she can actually walk a few steps on her own!! They aren't too steady and she usually falls down as soon as she gets going!! Her Dr calls her a miracle.

But now my dilemma. I found out last week that I have been surplused at work. I have 90 days to find another job in the company, or I am out of a job. I found a job but the commute would be horrendous. And I really don't think it would be good for my girl to spend all day sleeping when she needs to keep her muscles and nerves working. She wasn't that active before when I got home so I don't think that would change. So I might have to find her another home. I only want what's best for her. I talked to the vets wife tonight and said that maybe if I could find someone willing to share her and she agreed that was a great idea. But how would I find a family willing to do that? She even suggested that I could drop her off at the vet clinic before work, but I don't know if I could make it to work on time. And I didn't ask if there would be a charge. I need a job to pay her bills.

I wish I didn't have to go through this. I love my girl, but I know I need to do what is best for her. And I do think she would miss me. Before this, I would have been stressed about the commute, now it's unbearable. I don't think I can afford doggie daycare or even home care with her bills.

I will keep all of you updated. And if anyone has any ideas please share them. I think she needs to be in a home with someone around all the time. Even yesterday I had her outside and went in and when I came back she was doing her shrieky shrilly bark because she was alone. It would be unfair to her to keep her here and have her back all day. It breaks my heart that I am even thinking of this, but I need to look out for her, my little one. I have already talked to her Dr about this and he said that they have become attached to her, so if I need to I can sign her over to them and they would finish rehab and than find her a good home. But the thought of never seeing her again breaks my heart. And no one does silly talk like me!!!!!!

Louise and Bella
Daisymom

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Hi Louise,

I'm glad to hear about Bella and sorry to hear that you lost your job.  Where do you live (city/state)?  Maybe you can find someone who would "share" your dog during the day.  Is there a retirement home that might take her on as a mascot while you're at work?  I'm sure if you give it time, a solution will work itself out that allows you to keep your dog.  I hope everything works out for you.  I'm dogless now, if I didn't work all day (assuming I lived where you do), I would gladly watch your dog for you.
dogrispamela

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Les,

I'm in tears reading about this awful decision that you're faced with your sweet baby Bella.  This awful economy right now is forcing so many people to have to make truly gut wrenching decisions.  I'm at such a loss to even make a suggestion to you.  It does sound like her medical condition would take her will to progress. Is it possible that she would be able to have the will without being part of your life?  I'm sorry that I'm not much help.  I'm just really angry that you're being put into this impossible delima. 

Is it possible that rescues that have foster care could take care of Bella during the day?  They are volunteering to foster unfortunate babies.  This is a baby that is very loved and cared for.  You're just in a precarious condition.  That way you could to some extent stay involved so that she has the will to get thru this.  I have no idea where you live to even know if this is a possibility.  I'm so sorry that I'm not much help. 

Dear, I'll keep you and your precious Bella in my prayers!  Huge hugs at this awful time!  Golda's Mom
Missing_Brat

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Based upon what I read you are already gone a portion of the day working - instead of trying to come up with the money for an entire in-home care person maybe seeing if you could find some one to check in on her some time during the day and spend time say an hour or two working with her.

An older teen or college student - some one you know who could use a little extra money whom you could trust - you may have to show them how to work with her but maybe an option to all day doggie care or signing her over.


She would not be with some one all day but at least she could have some one keep her company and work with her a couple of hours a day. Just an idea I thought I would throw out there.
Loudpurring

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Hi Les,

You've most likely already explored the avenues of trying to work at home. And, I am sure nowon is going to let you take your dog to work.

What if the vet hospital where they are attached to her had you sign her over to them, and then they adopted her back to you when they were done. I mean, I dont think they will have that much luck finding her a home since there are so many dogs that are young and healthy and there is not enough homes for them. But, who knows. I once adopted out,I  from a cat hospita I worked at, a 18 year old hyperthyroid heart disease cat. So mabey
Les

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Just an update.

I talked to the vet clinic yesterday. They think she can be home alone now. But I want to give her a chance to get stronger so we will try her on staying there with no massage or physical therapy. I have to give her meds here, but it will save me some money. And she can walk around the vet clinic during the day.

I've been told that she barks some there and than stops. (Of course she was barking when I drove up to get her so they put her in her carrier and told her her mommy was there.) Silly girl.

So this weekend I will get a room ready for her. They also suggested leaving her carrier open in the room because she will go in and out of it during the day. To offer her food in the morning, if she doesnt eat it than to not leave it in the room. To leave water. And to make certain to give her plenty of time to do her job outside.

Shes come farther than any of them thought she would. I will try anything I can for her. That way if I have to turn her in than I will know I tried.

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers and ideas. This has been a rough few months.

Louise and Bella
conniev1

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Dear Louise-

I am continuing to pray for you and for your beautiful Bella.  You guys have been through so much already.  I really hope that you will be able to come up with a way to keep your beloved baby.  I am happy to hear that she is now able to walk a bit that is remarkable.  Please continue to keep us updated.

ConnieV(Jakie's forever mom)
Les

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Yesterday I took the playpen out of the room I had set up for her and made it comfy for her. She would have nothing to do with it. She did the shrieky shrilly bark and let it be known she did not like that room. She only likes the living room and her bed.
But I just don't think I can handle the stress of a new job, a long commute and worrying about her all day. I just wish there was some other way or solution. Or even if her stroke hadn't been that serious. She needs to be in an environment where she is walking during the day. Even with me she is content to snooze.
We have sometime so I plan on doing everything I can for her. And telling her over and over again how much I love her, my little one.

Thank you for all of your suggestions but I don't think I have any other choice at this point. I know it will break both of our hearts, but I am thinking about her. During the winter, there is a chance I might be looking at a 2 hour commute one way plus an 8 hour day plus another 2 hour commute back. I really hate my company and department for doing this. An employee who can't do the job will be allowed to stay. And because of this, I might have to give away my love.

Louise

I love you my little one. You are such a sweet little girl.
WooWooWoo

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Dear Louise,

Sorry I haven't posted sooner, as I have always followed your posts about Bella.  My gosh, I am just so sorry to hear about your situation.  It is just not fair.  I know you can tell most of us here would LOVE for you to be able to keep your beloved little girl.  But, I also know your dilemma. 

Would someone at your vet hospital, like a vet tech, be willing to "foster" Bella during the daytime hours while you are at work?  You said the vet's wife mentioned dropping Bella off at the clinic on the way to work, but you said you didn't ask if they would charge you.   Please consider going back to the vet and telling them EXPLICITLY what you need, and what you can and can't afford.  You may be surprised at what they are willing to do to help you.  I work in human medicine and I have seen doctors go the extra mile for patients when they are asked.  But, you must ask.   I know you have always felt very overwhelmed by Bella's condition (and who wouldn't), but you have hung in there for her.  Don't give up without exploring the options with your vet and maybe even a rescue agency.  I cannot remember what type of dog your girl is, but maybe rescue could help you.

Please know that I totally appreciate all you are going through and will be here for you, no matter what the outcome is.  You are always in my prayers.

Sending hugs,
Melissa
Betsy's forever and a day mom
robynbythec

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Dear Louise,

I agree with WooWooWoo -- you've done so much for Bella to this point. Maybe you can find another option. I know that when I moved, after being involved in a violent situation, I couldn't have my Jake and Kayla at the shelter with me. I searched and searched for something to do, and couldn't afford boarding (not that I would do that -- I'm not big on boarding places around here). But, finally, I found a rescue place who rented their room in the back of a big pet supply store. They are not allowed to keep dogs there overnight, but the rescue place owner did allow me to "sneak" Jake and Kayla in to sleep at night, after everyone had left. In the mornings, I would pick them up again and spend the days with them. It worked out great until I found a job and my own place to live, and then they all came with me. Maybe something similar to that will work out for you. Please hang in there. I thought I would never find a solution, but I did - almost out of the blue.

What about someone, an older person or student or something, coming to your house part of the day to "Bella sit"? Maybe for a small fee, or just to have some space for themselves to study or something? What about posting an ad, or card, at the local colleges? Do you have any by you? Just a thought...

Check with rescue places too, and see if they might have a volunteer who could help. Or if they have any suggestions...

We'll all with you supporting you in this! Please know that.

Big hugs to you and Bella, the wonder girl.

Robyn
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http://www.petsupports.com/robyn.htm

Les

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Just wanted to give an update -

Bella now has some eye infection. The Dr said the name, it's a long word. When she was on eye drops 3 times a day and 2 times a day, her eyes looked fine. But once a day and the infection is back. So shes back on eye drops twice a day.

The worrisome thing is that this infection is usually caused by something else like ticks or something. Dr said let's not think about that now and maybe the eye drops will clear it up.

My poor girl. I wonder if there is more going on than what we know. I dont know if I can handle taking her to an eye Dr if her eyes haven't cleared up. Maybe this is somehow related to her stroke.

For now I will love her and take care of her as best as I can. But I know if I have to I can sign her over and she will be well taken care of.

My little one.
WooWooWoo

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Dear Louise,
So sorry to hear Bella is battling an eye infection.  It sounds like the vet thinks it is treatable, thank goodness.   I will be saying many prayers for you and her.
Sending hugs,
Melissa
Betsy's forever mom
Les

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I forgot to mention that she's been on these eye drops since April 1. So in my heart I know it isn't a good thing being on eye drops for that long and she still has gunky stuff in her eyes.

We've been through so much but in my heart I know I won't have her for too much longer. How fair will it be to her if we have a storm and it takes me     1 1/2 hours to get home after she's already been here in a play pen for 8+ hours.  I can't put her through that. I wish I had some other option but at this point I don't. I will keep her and love her as long as I can.

Louise

conniev1

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Hi Louise-

I just read your latest update about Bella and wanted to mention that I have been dealing with eye problems for the past 6 years and will have to be on multiple eye drops for the rest of my life. Everytime my doctor tried to cut down my dosage the eye problem came back in full force. I know that animals are different than humans but just wanted you to know my situation. Also, my dad had a massive stroke many years ago and prior to that had perfect vision and afterwards was on multiple eye drops also. Just a thought. I am continuing to pray for you and your sweet Bella.

Kindest regards.

ConnieV(Jakie's forever mom)

Les

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What Bella has is Anterior Uveitis. I google'd it and it doesn't sound good at all.

My poor girl. Why is all of this happening to her? She is one of the sweetest dogs that ever was.

Louise


robynbythec

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Dear Louise,

I'm so sorry that Bella now has this to battle.  You know, that's how it was with my Molly girl, too.  There was just one thing after another...but she hung in there and did the best she could, bless her heart.  And, bless Bella's heart too.  We all are here, saying prayers for her and for you, and supporting you both.  Please know that.

Hugs to you both,

Robyn
HyzenthlayMollyWolf
http://www.mollybooboo.critters.com
http://www.petsupports.com/robyn.htm


Loudpurring

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 Merck Veterinary Manual.com

Try useing this site if you want to look something up. There is so much misinformation out there on the WEB it is frightening. I have seen sites offering cures for just about anything, And, anyone can say whatever they want. It doesn't have to be true.

conniev1

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Dear Louise-

That is exactly what I have wrong with my right eye. I was diagnosed with uveitis over 6 years ago. As I told you in my earlier posting, I have been using eye drops for the past several years and will be on some form for the rest of my life. I am sorry that your Bella has this added problem, but I am hoping that it can be controlled. Please take care.

ConnieV(Jakie's forever mom)

Les

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I will have to tell her Dr that her stools are now pencil thin. It started on Sat and happened again today. I know that in humans that isn't a good sign, and I am thinking it is the same with dogs.

My silly one just ate her breakfast. Yesterday at church she wasn't her usual peppy self either.

This could be why I have the overwhelming sense that something else is going on that we don't know anything about and why I feel like I won't have her for too much longer. Her Dr hopes I'm wrong, but sometimes mommy intuitions are like that.

Louise and Bella


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