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Salemx

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I had to put down my one year old beautiful boy today. He was my only friend and I felt like my heart has been ripped out. I didn’t even get to say good bye properly I also feel so guilty that it’s eating me up I just need someone to talk too

Here is what happened... about a week ago now I noticed Salem wasn’t eating, he was throwing up he had been hiding which wasn’t normal for him as he loves to follow me everywhere and Was my beloved shadow and cuddle bug. . So I took him to vets and they ran lots of tests on him and an X-ray. We found out he had a blockage in his intenstine so we booked him in for the surgery.. they found part of my sons foam play Matt in his belly which he chewed on and ate and it got stuck which made some of his intenstine rot away so they had to remove 6cm
Of his intenstine. He stayed at the vet for the night and then they called us the next day to take him
Home. We had lots of meds and had to syringe him his food and water for the first day. He came home and kept puking up his meds and water so I called the vets and they said because they were near closing time and it was a Friday I would have to wait I to Monday to bring him in again. They also said he shouldn’t climb or jump down as it could hurt his indecision so it was best to put him in somewhere safe while we slept so I bought a huge dog cage and put lots of blankets in there with his food and water while we slept. We continued to try feed him and he wouldn’t have it.. he just curled up and would sit silently. His temperature is was so low he was freezing so I wrapped him up and kept him warm. But had to put him in that damn cage at night :(x This contuined to Monday.. the vets ran more test and said he was dehydrated so they put him on an IV but they also found a big gas bubble in his stomach and nothing was passing through so they kept him there for 3 nights. The vet told me with tears in her eyes that he didn’t have a good chance of survival and his temperature was so cold that she thought he was close to death . But I begged her to continue and try one last time. His hydration levels went back up but she called me the next day to come in and I could tell there was something off in her voice :( we got to the vets and she tearfully told us he had been projectile vomiting all night and morning and that the ya keys to stimulate his bowels wasn’t working so we should think about putting him to sleep. I broke down and agreed and she asked if I would like to see him one last time of course I agreed.. two minutes later she came in with tears down her face saying she couldn’t and she has to do it now as he is projectile vomiting still and she didn’t want us to see him in that way.. so she put him to sleep and then brought him in wrapped up in a blanket not long later and he was gone. His face.. I will never ever forget seeing the life from his eyes just gone. I failed him I didn’t even get to say goodbye while he was still alive and he must of thought I abandoned him. It’s killing me. I have requested to have his ash’s in an urn and have his paw prints done but I just can’t shake the guilt and the loss. It’s also the first time I’ve seen my husband cry. How do I move past this guilt? If I would of let the vet put him down the second time we went in then I could of said a proper goodbye.
grievingmom

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I am not sure if I am reading this correctly. Are you saying the vet decided to go through with the euthanasia without letting you see your boy because your boy was projectile vominting and the vet didn't want you to see him like that? A vet has no "right" to make that kind of decision and if the vet did this and I am not misunderstanding anything, I would consider reporting the vet to the licensing board in your state.

<<<<<I broke down and agreed and she asked if I would like to see him one last time of course I agreed.. two minutes later she came in with tears down her face saying she couldn’t and she has to do it now as he is projectile vomiting still and she didn’t want us to see him in that way.. so she put him to sleep and then brought him in wrapped up in a blanket not long later and he was gone.>>>>>>


Salemx

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She refused to let us see him yes, it’s why it’s so tough because I wouldn’t of cared if he was throwing up I just wanted to be there so he wasn’t alone
KOkristin

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I'm really sorry this happened to you Salemx. You're vet shouldn't have taken those moments away from you. If you're not willing to report her, at least let her know that you think she's wrong to do that because those final moments can be so helpful for the grieving process, and is a decision only the owners should make. She crossed the line of professionalism vs personal.

In any case though, this is a tough loss, and I'm sorry you have to bear the pain of not having your companion with you anymore. I hope you're able to find some peace in the fact that Salem is no longer in pain, and that he loved you everyday of his life. That's worth something. Try to hold onto that whenever it gets hard. It's helped me during moments of great pain in dealing with my own loss. If that doesn't help, I hope you're able to find something that works for you. This forum is a good start.
grievingmom

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Salemx,

I fully understand your anguish and I support you completely as to why you feel this way. Anyone would be anguished and you are certainly no different. This is outrageous that you were prevented from saying goodbye. Again, I would contact the board in your state that licenses vets and complain that your vet euthanized Salem without your permission. Even if you were in another room, you wanted to be present and you did not give her permission to take action without you being there.

I am so sad you have to deal with this. What a tragic story. I am truly sorry. 

I went through something similar which is why I am very adamant about this.  My own anguish concerning a very similar situation was gut wrenching and nearly destroyed me. My baby cat was projectile vomiting and had a similar problem as Salem and during the euthanasia the vet took liberties that I never agreed to. Pearl's euthanasia was out of the blue. On the day I was there with her in the vet, euthanasia hadn't even entered my mind..

Stephanie
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