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My black cat Buddy went to the Bridge tonight. Two weeks ago I found a mass on his chest, and when he was x-rayed last Friday there was one also on his leg. When I went to bed last night he seemed OK. He was alert at 4am when he and his brother Smokey woke me up. But at 6, when I went to feed him, he wouldn't eat and then went and hid under the bed. He seemed to have trouble standing up. I couldn't take the day off from work, so I called the vet when I got in. He suggested it was time for some pain relieving medication but when I got home Buddy was just lying there, unable to move. I called the vet and my brother drove me over. Buddy was crying in pain the whole time, and this was a cat that rarely meowed. It just broke my heart. The mass he developed last week on his rear leg grew so large. He was 6, and I only had him for 4-1/2 months - I adopted him and Smokey after their 1st mom passed away earlier this year. He was a perfect gentleman, never got "catty" with me and let my nieces and nephew play with him. I never got the chance to fully integrate him with my other cats, and now I'll be forced to do that with Smokey.
And how do I explain this to my 2-1/2 year old nephew, who is always asking about him? It's a little easier with my nieces as they are older. I'm just glad he wasn't over the house visiting when this happened. Maureen
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Today was so difficult for you in many ways and I just wanted to send you my condolences with the loss of Buddy. One never knows the future health of any of our pets and unfortunately, circumstances such as Buddy's tumours are difficult to deal with as it's such a shock, as it was for you two weeks ago. I am so sorry.
You asked how you can talk to your 2 1/2 year old nephew about Buddy. Well, at his age, he can comprehend that Buddy has disappeared. The story of the Rainbow Bridge is a gentle story of loss and perhaps if you were to shorten that and give him an idea that Buddy now is with other animals who were ill also in a place where they are all well again, I think that may be all he needs to hear. Do let him know it's okay to be sad that Buddy isn't on the earth anymore and maybe he can draw a picture of Buddy, or if you have any photographs of Buddy, you could get a print of him for your nephew to remember Buddy's time with you.
Be gentle with yourself in the days ahead, Maureen. I do hope that you find some comfort in visiting Pet Loss. Goodness knows, I did when I first visited Pet Loss 7 years ago now. Do come back and let us know how you are doing too.
Blessings to you and your angel, Buddy.
Wendy (Decker's mom)
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I am sorry Buddy has passed on. He was such a young one yet and it's heartbreaking that he left so early for the bridge. Some illnesses come on suddenly and our pets are gone in a matter of days. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Mare precious Christoph ~ 2 years at the bridge ~
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Hugs and prayers for you in the loss of Buddy....so young.
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It's terrible when they depart at such a young age. Buddy sounds like a wonderful cat.
Children...I think they understand more than we give them credit for. Sit and talk with you Nephew and explain to him why Buddy isn't here anymore. Maybe give him a picture of Buddy that he can keep if he was close to the cat. When we lost our dog 5 weeks ago my niece who is 4 ...I told her what happened to Buffy and then at night we would be sitting on the patio and she'd look in the sky and say Buffy's in heaven...I would confirm that and the tears would roll down my face...so we picked out a star and named it Buffy....now when she's over she will stand outside at night and wave at Buffy. She smiles and I cry...what's wrong with that picture? I wish you the best, and hope to hear how things are going for you....it's a tough road...but the tears will turn into smiles eventually and the memories will comfort you. Lois