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Nina333

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A few weeks ago i had to let euthanized my beloved cat Mini-Miki, 14. She was suffering from lung cancer. She leaves a widower, Bijou, 14 years. I took them from Spain 14 years ago and they were very attached to each other.

I have had huge problems with the decision whether I should bury or cremate her right from the first day of her death and stored here in a fridge freezer. It“s a horrible feeling.


In could bury her in the back yard, it“s my mothers house, but there are eight families and the garden is not really private. Furthermore I will move this year and would leave her in the garden. On the other hand it feels awful to imagine her being destroyed in the heat, her wonderful fur, cute face ... But I could take the remains with me.


Has anybody ever regretted the cremation of his pet? Or can tell me his/her good experience and a kind of relief?


Thank you so much!

goofygirlinva

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Hi Nina,

Let me start by saying I am so sorry your pet has passed and that you are having to make this decision. It's not easy, and sometimes it is so hard to just get through the first days and weeks after our pets have died, so sometimes it is really difficult to make a decision as to what to do with their remains.

As for me, I've had to let 3 cats go in the last 10 years or so. I had them cremated. Like you I kept them in a freezer after they passed away so their bodies would not decay. It took me many days before I was able to bring them in for cremation. It wasn't so much that I could not stand them being destroyed in the heat, it was more that I was not ready to physically let them go. Because once I let them go, it meant I would no longer be able to see their faces, touch their fur, hold them in my arms again. And it would mean they would truly be gone.

The first time I took one of my cats to be cremated it was very difficult. I took him to one of those places that does individual cremation and can finish the process and return their ashes to you within 2 hours. The people at the pet cremation place were very kind and gentle, but I cried after I handed him over because it meant he was truly gone and I would never be able to see him again. 

When I got his ashes back, I was really surprised at how small a container his ashes fit into. It was a bit of a relief that I had him back home with me, so to speak. At first I just put his urn on a dresser next to my bed and next to some things of his that I'd kept. I was probably still numb and grieving his passing, so having his ashes back with me did not really have too much of an effect. But then after some time I found myself comforted by having his ashes nearby, and I found myself saying good morning when I got up each day and good night when I went to bed each evening. And every now and then I would pick up his urn and hold it for a bit, talking to him and telling him how much I loved and missed him. When I moved, I was very glad I'd had him cremated and kept his ashes because I was able to bring him with me. And now, 10 years later, he is still with me and I am very glad I had him cremated instead of having him buried somewhere. Because if I'd had him buried, we would be separated and I would not be able to talk to him each day or whenever I wanted to talk to him. 

I am also very glad I had my other 2 kitties cremated. They too have their own special memorial places in my home. If I ever have to move again, I take comfort knowing they will go with me and we will never be separated.

Hope this helps... 

Kelly
Angel Blackie's mom
Angel Squeeker's mom
Foster mom to Wonder Cat and Angel Thomas
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