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pb313

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Hope everyone is having a better day than yesterday. Hope you are a little stronger than you were yesterday.

Paula- Raider’s mom
Dogsarepeopletoo

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Thanks, Paula. You too!
pb313

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rnj79

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Yesterday was "ok". Last night wasn't. This morning is better. I hate this with everything in me.

Today, we are picking up Abby's ashes and our remaining dachshund is getting his vaccines. Quite anxious about both.

How are you, Raider's Mom?
skmk

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Every day seems to be a bad one for me. He was taken so suddenly. There's such a void. I can't seem to believe he's gone forever. Does anyone else find it hard to function? Or relate to others or get things done or take care of other pets. Is anyone else extremely nervous? I wouldn't give up the love I had for him for anything. I hear some of you thinking of getting other pets already. I don't think I could put myself through this again. Is that selfish? Nothing brings me pleasure. Thanks for listening.
Skmk
pb313

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Rn79,
I am okay. Raider was the happiest dog I have ever seen and he would not want us broken. I have plenty of moments but getting stronger. Will always miss him but he was so happy that I have to hold on to that.

Thanks,
Paula - Raider’s mom
pb313

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SKMK,
I am so sorry. If your feelings persist for a while, don’t hesitate to talk to a grief counselor. And know that we are here for you.

Paula- Raider’s mom
skmk

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Ive read many of your stories and I feel like I'm doing the worst. You all seem to be functioning without the terrible nerves and depression. I do see a therapist but I get the impression he doesn't take loss of an animal seriously. I feel so alone and lost. Please somebody talk to me.
Thank you
Skmk
pb313

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SKMK,
No one mourns the same way so try not to compare. Your loss is yours. Just as grief over a lost human companion is different for each person, it is different through this loss also. Don’t beat yourself up.
I still have times that I think I need to hurry home and let him out to potty or something like that. I hadn’t cried all day yesterday until I went to bed last night. It is just crazy and fluid how it comes and goes.
If your therapist is not sympathetic or understanding there are those who specialize in grief support. I would think someone would address the loss of a fur baby. You can also always talk to us. We have all suffered the loss of our buddy and understand at least in part.

Paula- Raider’s mom
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Skmk:. Please do not feel you are alone feeling bad; like Paula said we are all doing the best we can but at any given moment are crying or feeling lost and alone.
If your therapist is not particularly skilled at dealing with grief counseling, you might google your area and find someone who specifically helps with grief counseling.

Paula: Those fleeting moments where the loss is forgotten are so hard. I didn't feel well during the night so got up and slept on the sofa. I got about half-way to the living room and wondered why Annie wasn't following me. I have those moments almost daily.

I went to a store today and was petting the shop dog; the owner said "I bet you have a dog" and my eyes immediately welled up and I got that big ole lump in my throat. I just shook my head and said "no, I don't." Oh my gosh, I was SO CLOSE to just sobbing to this poor lady but somehow I held it together. I think she knew because she immediately changed the subject. I gave myself a little pat on the back for maintaining.
pb313

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Oh Dogsarepeopletoo,
I am sorry. I know it felt good to pet a sweet pup but to have to answer no is so, so hard. Hugs sweetie!

Paula
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SKMK: You are not alone--I believe that everyone on the board has lost their animal soul mate and certainly I have felt what you are feeling.  I was feeling the same way up until even last week.  Lost and alone, even though I have a husband and another dog.  Even my own mother does not understand my deep grief.  First, I think finding a counselor is a good thing--I actually had to do that last week--I could not stop crying and Riley passed on May 13th.  Truth be told, I had been on an anti depressant but I came off of it right after Riley passed and I think its effects held things at bay and now that it's totally out of my system, the dam broke.

I think that time does help, but I myself am still crying and crying hysterically.  I just got done making a tribute video for Riley and although it took up several days of my attention, when I sat and watched the video, I started balling my eyes out all over again.

You don't need to apologize or feel bad for how you feel about your loss.  It is horrible plain and simple in so many ways.  I had to make that horrible decision and I chose to euthanize Riley and it haunts me every day.  I know I did the best for him and I know that if I had waited for him to pass on his own, he may have been gasping for air and that would have even been more horrible.  

I think many of us have similar feelings from what I have read.  For some reason, the candle ceremony helped me this past Monday, maybe you should try attending if you can.  There was something about it and something about being in the presence of so many people mourning their beloved pets and I just felt like we are all going through the same thing.
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