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That seven years have passed from that fateful, sorrow-filled time when I returned home from the vet's without my sweet cat, Decker, seems unbelievable. But those years have passed and I write this little tribute to her with such gratitude for Pet Loss and the friends that I have made here over 7 years. 

The initial support that I received here was remarkable as many were also grieving their own losses at the same time. With that gratitude, I also was able to reach out to others and extend a caring heart, hoping that my words would comfort also, as I was being comforted. Over all this time, I do occasionally visit Pet Loss and appreciate the global dynamic of true compassion. I want to thank Ed for his continued efforts on this web site. It is entirely due to Pet Loss that my heart slowly healed and I gained many dear friends as well. Thank you all for your hearts' kindnesses.

Decker, you were, (and are) such a delicate thread of love that I still feel in my heart of hearts. I know we were fated to meet that day at the shelter, 12 years earlier and I know that there was no way after we 'met' that you wouldn't have travelled to your new home with me that very day. As Barb's Allen's poem so eloquently said, 'You Were My Child.' I have it framed with your picture and know how truly those words stated my love for you. You were a little princess without the tiara, you were a feisty companion without words, you were devoted with your gaze and you blessed me day by day. You still do.

In honour of this very special day of remembrance, I have written a Haiku poem.

      On tiny paw prints,
      You reached my heart with love.
       Heaven's stars sparkle.

On Nov. 3rd, the stars will sparkle with extra bright lights and I will be looking skyward to 'see you' there and my love will travel endless miles to you.

Blessings to all those who have been a part of my years at Pet Loss and also to those newly here - my condolences to you in your loss.

Blessings also to all your fur/feather angels.

Wendy (Decker's mom)


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I am greiving and celebrating with you on Decker's 7th bridge day.  I met you all those years ago here at Petloss.  I will be marking Scruffy's 6th bridgeday this year and even though you were in your own grief, you took the time to help me and comfort me through my loss.  Its seems like forever, but it seems like yesterday.  I visit Petloss also, just to say hi and keep in touch.  Decker is an angel and he never leaves your side.  I truly believe they are here,and they will always be here, we just don't realize it sometimes.  Thinking and praying for you today and always.

Scruffysmom forever

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Dearest Wendy,  I know how you still miss Decker.  It is hard to believe we have been without our girls for so long.  I feel the same way about Petloss healing my heart and I am forever grateful for all here who have helped.

I just know when I look in the sky tomorrow night I will see the sparkle from Decker shining on you and all of us. 

Decker,  I hope you have a wonderful 7th yr. bridgeday and please give my girl Dallas a big hug and kiss from me.  Come into your Mom's dreams soon, she misses you so.

Love,  Diane

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Your precious baby has been gone for seven years now and you still have so many loving memories of her.  That's what true love is all about!  I  hope Decker had a very special day at the bridge as she marked her seventh year.

precious Christoph ~ 2 years now ~


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i  hope its a wonderful day on the bridge!

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My dear Wendy, Sweet Decker's Forever Mom,

Your gentle loving words for Sweet Decker brought tears to my eyes. How can it be 7 years? Time diminishes the terrible pain and gaping grief for the most part but the love and our connection to our little ones truly is forever. No time, distance or space can diminish that love even a little and it shines brightly in our hearts for our little ones like the "Heaven's stars sparkling." I absolutely love your Haiku! It is "purrfect" for Decker! And perfect for how you feel about her. The love we share with our little ones on this Earthly Plane truly is like Heaven on Earth.

I have always loved Decker's pictures. She looks so pleased and secure in your home and so content to be in your heart forever. Surely you are right that the two of you were destined to be together that day and forever. She is such a pretty girl and I know she grew in your love. These days always have a way of taking us back but like you and so many others here, we have found healing here. We are blessed in that and blessed by friendships and in finding our way to EdW's sanctuary. So few people outside of here really understand how we feel for our little ones as they are indeed our children.

Thank you so much for your help and friendship over the years and thank you so much for sharing your beautiful girl Decker with us. I always thinks it makes it less lonely to know whom my little ones' friends might be. I send you many warm hugs from my heart to yours and tonight I will be especially  thinking of you and Decker with the first star I see. I know all the stars will be brighter tonight with yours and Decker's love.

Much love,


For Wendy ~

In one of the stars I shall be living
In one of them I shall be laughing
And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing
When you look at the sky at night.
And there is sweetness in the laughter of all the stars
And in the memories of those you love.
(The Little Prince - Antoine de Saint-Exupery)

A Brilliant Rainbow
High on whispered wings I fly, a radiant star, I light the sky.
Toward the sun I soar so free, a brilliant rainbow follows me.
I pulsate through your very soul and in my hands your heart I hold.
The day will come when you'll fly too, I'll be here then to welcome you.
Until the time we meet again I won't journey far my friend.
For in your love I live so free, a brilliant rainbow guiding me.
~ Author Unknown


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It is now nearly the end of the day, out here on the West Coast of Canada and I've been very comforted by the lovely, thoughtful words from Bev, Diane, Mare, Lennysmom and Colleen. We really have travelled many years now together sharing our losses and friendship here at Pet Loss, haven't we?

Colleen, thank you also for the lovely picture with the sparkling stars and Decker. I don't know how you were able to do that, but I found tears in my eyes seeing it and then having read the sweet poem from The Little Prince and also the words about the brilliant rainbow. I'll be keeping that always printed and placed in her binder of all my posts here.

When I posted my tribute for Decker yesterday, I wanted to include a few photos and couldn't find the codes that I had tucked away. I have now found them and wanted to include these with my thanks to everyone for their kind words.
Several of these photos, I don't believe I've ever added to a post here at Pet Loss. They are some of my favorites. The last photo was taken the second Christmas that Decker shared with me in 1993. It is one of very few photos that we had taken together and I think she was trying off my lap and hide behind the tree where she could play with the ornaments hanging from the lower branches.
She never did try and climb the branches, thank goodness!

Again, my sincere thanks to each of you who took the time to share this day with me. I so appreciate your friendships over these 7 years. 

Tonight, after sunset, there was a very bright star shining and I like to think that it was just for tonight, Decker's star.

Wendy (Decker's mom)

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Happy 7th yr, bridge day  Decker, I hope your day was filled with all the treats you love and all the games you like to play,i know all the bridge kids had a great time at your party, you are extra special at the bridge.I I hope  you had a great day. Nov.3rd. my  Sammy Sus  went to the bridge  on Oct. 16 awhile before you  I hope you got to know her.
Sending you hugs &  prayers for your &th. bridge day.
Wendy, it seems like we all have been on this road  of grief  about the same time,I hope you can look up into the Heavens and find the brightest stars  twinkleing that is your sweet Decker watching over you and sending down all her love to you,she knows you and her will one day be together someday and never have to part again.Hope this day was not to hard on you and the pics. are beautiful of Decker what a beautiful cat,and  she shows how much she loves you.
Hug & Prayers,
Sammy Sus's Mom JoAnn

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Dear Jo Ann,
I so appreciated seeing yet another lovely message remembering Decker. Thank you so much for your kind words.

Yes, we all are long time friends now, just as I think our angel babies are friends together and waiting for us to join them when the time comes. Your sorrow  of losing Sammy Sus was just a few weeks before mine and yet there you were for me when I joined Pet Loss. We shared our grief and with that sharing healed slowly but here are able to do the very thing that is so important and that is to honour and give great thanks for the time we each had with our beloved companions. 

Blessings to you and your special fur angel, Sammy Sus,


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Dearest Wendy,
As you know, I have not been on the board as much as I would want to be and at times wander back to a place that will always hold a piece of my heart. As I read your heart  warming words to your Decker, I smiled knowing how much Love you both shared and how time or place can not change or diminish such a loving bond. I also smiled knowing how our little gentle beings of light and Love brought us here to share our tears and find our smiles again with like minded people who became our heart friends through the years.
I am sorry I am late and as always my crazy life has me going in different directions emotionally but my heart is with you dear friend and I am so glad that we are friends and will always share our heart with each other.
Love to you and Happy Bridgeday Decker. You are very Loved . Keep watch over your very special mom. Love,
Max'smom Jo


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Dear Jo,
It was so kind of you to write your comments today. Thank you. Yes, Pet Loss is certainly a very special place in this world of ours, full of compassionate friends sharing a difficult time in each of our lives. I am blessed to have been visiting here for just over 7 years now and certainly do consider so many others, treasured friends from all those years ago now when we were united in our sorrow over losing a beloved pet.

I also wanted to add that it always made me feel so proud to have had the honour of being entrusted to care for Decker for the 12 years that we shared my home and that I could share my love for her with others here at Pet Loss. 

To read the stories of other's pets, their devoted, loyal caring, I ended up loving their pets too. Max's stories and pictures became a part of the sharing here at Pet Loss and to me, you will always be Max's mom!

Thank you for your wishes for Decker, and I do believe that she is always looking over me and never far, even though her physical presence is gone.

Thank you for your friendship and caring, Jo.

Blessings to you and your fur angel, Max,

Wendy (Decker's mom)
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