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Tonight we lost our beloved fur-child, Murmur, to high-grade lymphoma by euthanasia. It's now 3 in the morning and I can't do anything but sob, call out her name in terror and see her lifeless body and eyes staring into nothingness. She was the love of our lives and I have never had a bond with an animal spirit like this before.

This has been the most gut-wrenching trauma I have experienced yet. She was everything to us. Engrained in our daily routine. We had our own language with her and everytime we were out we'd always want to come home to be with her. Her affection, trust, forgiveness and adoration for us and her life made euthanasia feel like the greatest horror I have ever committed, especially due to the not knowing of where she is now and whether she is okay where mom can't protect her anymore.

I love her so much, and I still haven't accepted that she is truly gone. I keep waiting for her to jump up and sleep with me curled into my right side, or on her favorite couch spot or by the fireplace stretched on her blanket with her toy lobster under her chin.

Has anyone ever experienced this? I'm paralyzed and have no idea how to move forward without hating every day that comes without her.

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Your post broke my heart. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy and deepest condolences. I lost my beloved boxer Buster to lymphoma. I tried everything to save him but eventually I had to have him euthanized to spare him suffering. Buster was everything to me and my life revolved around him. When I would go to visit my mother and sister I would bring him and their lives would revolve around him too. Everyone who met him soon became totally obsessed with him. I've never seen anything like it and could write a book about it!. 
I am a Born Again Christian and the Bible teaches that ALL animals, unlike all people, go to Heaven. I knew for a fact that was where Buster was going and as my best friend--who drove in from out of state--and I sat on the floor with Buster petting and hugging and kissing him as the vet put him to sleep I told Buster where he was going and that he was going to see Jesus. Buster knew the name of Jesus--I don't know how he knew maybe from his previous owners who were also Christians--and Buster went with a big smile on his face.
After it was over my best friend had to help me walk to the car. All I could keep saying was that I wanted my Buster back. Even though I knew that Buster was in Heaven with Jesus the gut wrenching agony of being separated from my child--even though I knew it was only a temporary separation in the grand scheme of things--was unbearable. I was paralyzed with shock and grief. When we got home my best friend had to change me into a nightgown and put me to bed. I couldn't even roll over and she would have to turn me. I couldn't hold a glass and she had to give me water through a straw. Looking back I am surprised that the grief did not kill me.
But as with the previous loss of our beloved Brutus God wasn't done with me yet after the devastating loss of Buster and He sent me my beloved huge and magnificent Big Baby Baron. And after the loss of Big Baby Baron He sent me Brewster who is here with me now cuddled up against me in bed as I type. Darling Brewster is a permanent foster that no one would adopt from the rescue for nearly five years and who had to live all alone in a cage but who we love with our whole hearts and are spoiling rotten to make up for all those caged years. Who would have thought that a dog who was so bad that no one would adopt him would actually end up being the perfect dog for us and us the perfect home for him? But God knew. Darling Brewster is not mean or aggressive to humans but has a few uncontrollable behavior issues which are not an issue for us due to our specific living situation. 
Someday when I die I will go to Heaven and have every single one of my beloved pets back--never to be separated again. But in the meantime God keeps sending me more and my eternal pet family keeps growing. Each and every one has been so special that looking back it has been worth the awful pain and grief each temporary separation has caused me. 
Your euthanizing your beloved Murmur was not a 'horror' that you committed. It was the greatest possible act of love and sacrifice on your part. You took her pain and suffering away by taking it upon yourself. That is true unselfish love. And you honestly do not have to wonder where she is or worry about protecting her because the Bible says that she is in Heaven. The very moment she left this world she found herself in the loving arms of Jesus. Your beloved Murmur is young and healthy again and is running and playing and leaping for joy in the gorgeous green fields of Heaven. 
Here is a link to a post I wrote about our beloved Brutus being seen in Heaven. If the link does not take you to the top of the page just scroll up to it. It also has some links to help bring you comfort GOD CARES DEEPLY ABOUT THE LOSS OF YOUR PET - Pet Loss Grief Support Message Board
If you are wondering if the Bible is true or not here is an excellent link so that you can know for sure that it is
Unfortunately I know the indescribably horrible pain and grief you are feeling and my heart truly goes out to you. I know that it doesn't seen possible now but please believe me that eventually it will get better. I will keep you in my prayers. 

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Words cannot describe how helpful your response was to me. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story, it makes me feel less alone and like other people understand and believe that our fur children continue on in the most beautiful way. I share your faith but going through it really made me question because it is so painful to have lost her.. and to not know where she is. In time I hope to get to where you are. We're seeking therapy and support groups as a start. Thank you so much, you truly helped me.
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