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Jessicaaa58

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My dog went missing today and I have come to conclusion she ran away to pass away. We had 7 people looking for and nothing. I knew her time was coming because she was 16 years old and couldn't see, hear, and could barely walk. We were going to take her to the vet to put her down so she wasn't suffering anymore. I guess she couldn't hold on much longer and left the world all alone. I still have no idea how she got out of the house. She was inside when my mom left and then just disappeared into thin air. As soon as I looked in her few hiding spaces in the house and outside, I started crying and called my mom. We looked for about 6 hours. My mom told me maybe she'll be back in the morning but I honestly know she is gone. I haven't stopped crying since 7pm. I'm mentally drained at this point. I miss her so much and I can't quit looking at photos of her. I'll stop crying and something will remind me of her and it'll start up again. I can't stop thinking about how I can't believe she is gone. I really wish she was laying right beside me looking at me with her pretty blue eyes and wagging her talk for a treat. I can't say it enough, I miss her. So yes I do believe dogs run off before passing away. My theory on it is they run away so their owners don't have to see them pass.
mspandie1117

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I am so sorry for you with your missing dog.  I too believe they leave sometimes to pass away, as you said, maybe to spare us in some way.  No one knows why they do what they do.  My 19 year old kitty Buddy was a housecat, but in his last days he didn't want to come out of his bed which was in my walk in closet.  I knew then that because he was very ill, it was time to let him go. Take heart in the love you had for your dog and the incredible amount of years you had with her.  Hugs to you
Ghatten

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i asked my vet this one time - his response made a lot sense to me. When a pet is very ill or weak they will seek out a place or area where there is less activity and noise just as people do. Because they are sometimes sicker than they or we realize that becomes their final resting place before they leave - not because they don't want us near, but because they are looking for some rest. As an example it's like when we have a headache, we will go to a quiet room away from the movement and sounds, not to be away from others but to find some quiet. And as we carry those we love with us at those times, so do our companion animals - to them at those times we are no farther away than a thought or a heartbeat.
emd1126

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On the day before my Lucky died 11.5 y/o Yorkie, he went into my yard and laid in the back of the yard under some hedges/bushes that we have. He had never done that before. I saw him there and called to him to come here by mommy but he wouldn't budge. A little later I actually went and picked him up and brought him in the house. Later that evening when my husband came home we tried to walk him but he collapsed and we rushed him to vet he was passing diarhea with blood too. The vet gave him predinose, antibiotic and fluids and told us to bring him in the morning for an ultrasound and IV. He died the next morning before we could get him to the vet. The vet also took blood the night before and when he called me with the blood results he said he was shocked at how his little body just "shut down" and we dont even know why exactly. He had cushings but it was early cushings so he didnt think it was that. Anyway, back to the topic, I believe he knew he was dying and he went to the back of the yard to spare me and my husband the agony of watching him die. He was such a sweet, lovable little guy. June 1st he died, my heart is still broken and will never heal.I love you baby boy.

emd1126
Luckys mommy
youngwoman

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My dog tried to run away to die. He knew. He was in renal failure. Tuesday night was his last night, as the vet was to come on Wednesday morning to euthanize him at our home. But in the middle of the night, when I let him out to potty, he walked into the woods behind our yard despite my calling to come back. It was pitch black and took my husband almost 2 hours to find him. Thankfully, he didn't die alone but I do believe that was his way of telling us he was done, he had given everything he could, and he was ready. 
Missingted

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I happened upon this site while researching the question, "Do dogs go away to die?"
I have found it so helpful to read the post shared and it is really helping me to get some of the closure I am looking for.
Ted passed in the early morning hours of Oct. 30. He had a bit of cough earlier in the week. I waited a few days before calling the vet hoping it would clear up on it's own, but since it didn't I had the vet stop by. Ted was getting on in years (14). He was arthritic but was mobile and although the length of his walks had shortened to just up and down the alley he still seemed happy to get out each day. When the vet came he diagnosed the cough as an upper respiratory infection and left some antibiotic. Ted had also stopped wanting his food but the vet said he thought it was probably just because he wasn't feeling well. He did tell me that if he didn't respond well to the antibiotics we may be looking at something more serious. After 2 days of antibiotics the cough was clearing up but his appetite hadn't come back, so I left work a little early and stopped at the deli and got some sliced roast beef, turkey, and a rotisserie chicken. When presented with these options he ate so I felt like we were on the right track and that once his strength came back he'd be OK.
A few hours later his breathing started to change. He began panting as if he had just run around the block and he was thirsty. I moved his water bowl closer and called the vet. They had already closed. The nearest emergency vet was over and hour away and since he didn't seem to be in pain, just breathing a bit heavy I opted to wait to see what the vet said in the morning.
I laid on the floor with him and he was happy to snuggle but was clearly tired. He had the whole weigh of his head in my hands and was looking at me, not frightened, just sleepy. So I stayed with him there for quite a while then got ready for bed. He always followed me in and slept by my bed at night. I heard him wander after me but when he got to the hall way he was looking toward the room at the other end, not toward my room. I went into the hall way and picked him up and laid him on the blanket by my bed. His breathing was closer to normal and I was hopeful he would be OK, but honestly, in my heart I had a very real suspicion that he was in the process of passing on.
When I woke up he was not in my room. Sometimes he would wake up before me and would be in the living room so I headed that way to find him. I had a very sinking feeling when he was not there. I have a dog door to a fenced yard so he was always able to go in and out at will. As I moved the curtain to see if he was out side, I looked down and there he was on the patio. He appeared to be sleeping but I watched for a few minutes before opening the door to see if his sides were moving up and down from breathing. They were not :(
Ted had gone outside and passed there on the patio. (This was the only time he had ever gone out to "sleep")
I was afraid that he had gone outside and was unable to return in for whatever reason, and felt terrible that I had not stayed awake with him. I moved him inside and sat quietly crying and saying my good byes. The vet came several hours later and I was a mess, guilt ridden with many questions.
I share this story because what I was told may help some of you. He said, as others have posted, that dogs (and cats) will more often than not, prefer to be outside the home when they are passing. He would have likely wandered further if he was not in an enclosed yard. It is instinctual and the most natural thing that can happen. I am grateful that he ate those meat treats I brought home and I am beyond grateful that I was able to lay with him for a large portion of the evening just loving him and cuddling him and thanking him for all he had giving to me. I was not praying for him to hold on in those moments. I was praying for the right thing to happen. What ever that was (either hanging on until the vet came in the morning if he could be saved, or letting his spirit cross over to the pain free paradise we all hope exists). He chose to go. I know in my heart he knew he was going and he gave me the greatest gift I could have ever hoped for by having those last moments we spent together and passing naturally with out me having to make the gut wrenching decision of euthanizing him. As I write this and I know it could not have been a better end my eyes are flooded with tears and my heart is beyond broken. I share the story because the original topic was asking if pets are likely to wander off or find a secluded (often unusual) place to pass on and the answer is yes, if given the option they are highly likely to do so. So for those of you that experience this do not blame yourselves. I have asked 2 other vets and they all concur. This is natural.
My heart goes out to all of you that are experiencing the loss of daily love from your four legged family members. It is gut wrenching. My gut is wrenching, but as I say, death only sucks for the living. They are fine, more fine than when they were here. The challenge for us left behind is finding a "new normal". Having been through it twice before I can assure you it will happen. Takes a different amount of time for each person, but in time these horrible days will be gradually replaced with loving memories that will bring more smiles than tears.
pokeyhontas

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After almost 16 years of greeting my family at the door, my sweet pokey did not appear to greet us last night. We are all very saddened at our house. The whole family took turns looking for signs of her on our property when we came home and again today. There are no signs of her. We believe that she went away to die. My husband who grew up around animals has indicated many times throughout the later years that he wouldn't be surprised if she would do that. Pokey loved him most of all. We have lived in the same area for 14 years, pokey was just two when we moved here. She was smart from the beginning, hardly needing any training. My husband walked her around the perimeter of our 22 acres and she never left the property in all of the time here. She was an icelandic sheepdog and preferred the outdoors to inside. She preferred to sleep in the garage where it was cooler and was able to go outside whenever she wanted. This wonderful dog would be sleeping beside a vehicle waiting for our return from many days of work, weekends away and summer vacations. She was as faithful as they come. We are still trying to absorb that this actually has happened. She was the perfect dog and will never be replaced.

doggiedad

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I feel so bad for the obvious hurt that you and your family are experiencing over Pokey's unexplained disappearance. No matter what the circumstances are...it's always very painful to lose a long time best friend. And not knowing the entire situation surrounding her absence can only add to your grief.

Hopefully, if you do manage to find your precious Pokey soon...it will have been due to a positive outcome. If that's not the case, chances are that she did find a special hidden "safe place" to go spend her last moments. As you likely know, older or sickly animals do that as a means of survival from predators. I pray that no matter what the outcome may be...you will finally find her to put your mind at ease and find some closure.

If you can...please keep us all informed on a new thread.

God bless...doggiedad
pokeyhontas

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We found Pokey peacefully laying in the sun nestled up in the long grass in the snow. She was a beauty...she just fell asleep and died. We were blessed. Very thankful to have closure for our family.
doggiedad

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I hope that you'll completely understand this...my final bittersweet sentiment. While I'm very sad that you have lost your Pokey...I'm also very happy that you found her...and were able to bring her back home. Speaking from a similar circumstance, I would have to say that we were truly blessed...for many times, owners never find their lost babies to give them a well-deserved final farewell.

God bless your family and Pokey...doggiedad
mspandie1117

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Bless you and your family, I too understand the need for closure.  I am so happy that you have that while so sad for your loss.  I will pray for peace for all of you!  God Speed Pokey!!!

Hugs
Andie
Buddy the cat's dog
Chevitz

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My 11 year old poodle has not been feeling well and is not eating.  He has been to vet and all is well, so they say.  Tonight I let him out like always and he did not come back.  I drove around the property and found him sleeping out in the woods and he was not excited to see me.  Should I get another opinion or is he saying good by??
doggiedad

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Sorry to hear that. You may want to keep him as close as is possible. If he needs to go out...maybe let him out on a long lead or runner. My 12 year old beagle did the same thing in her final weeks when she felt the need to be alone...but I was lucky enough to have a fenced in yard. She finally started to spend most of her time secluded away from our other dogs and the family by going into the basement rec room all alone. A few weeks later we found out that she was slowly losing the ability to breath normally because of a massive tumor in her lung. Sadly, a few days later she had to be euthanized. I wish you the best and hope that your dog is just dealing with a bout of old age forgetfulness. 

Of course, that's only my opinion...maybe someone else has a different suggestion.

Chevitz

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Thanx for the reply.  I have taken Kessler-my poodle back to the vet and he had an x-ray.  It is cancer, a mass in his abdomen.  He is not in pain, but really have to coax him to eat.  I am not going for the chemo and all but take it day by day and time to say good bye.  And you are right-keep a close eye on him when we go outside
doggiedad

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So sorry to hear of Kessler's x-ray results. Keep him close and give him all your love in return for all he has given you over the years. I know how you must feel..I've dealt with cancer twice. I send along prayers for your comfort and the best of luck for Kessler.
cathylynn

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I just lost my dog 3 days ago, she was the best dog ever, and having such a hard time dealing with it. She was in failing health, she was hit by a car 10 years ago, but with surgery she made it through. But her hip problems finally started catching up to her. She recently lost her hearing, and having incontinence. I had an episode with her a week before she passed. She was laying in her bed, lethargic, didn't want to get up, and felt like this is it, her stomach was heaving in a strange way. I comforted her, and all of a sudden she was better. the following week she was doing great, eating well, even frisky. We had planned an overnight trip, and my daughter stayed with her, and that night she passed. I feel so guilty not being with her. I really felt like she was going the week before, and maybe she waited for me to be gone. Her behavior had changed over the last few weeks, she didn't want to stay in the house, going into the garage and sleeping in her bed in there, so maybe she was preparing to go.  She was 16 years old, and miss her so much.
pb313

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Akita,
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Paula - Raider’s mom
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