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Today’s been a touch and go day. It’s been a while since I logged on to this site or any other support sites for that matter, as I have been on a long pre planned spring break. It’s been 11 days since I lost my beloved 12 year old shih tzu so suddenly to a heart attack, and I think I’m slowly starting to make progress... I think. I no longer cry every single day; rather, it’s once every few days instead of multiple times until my tear ducts hurt. I can function in society again (be around people), and I can get through a conversation about my pet without bursting into a bubbling mess. Some days, I wake up and think, ‘it’s ok, I can do this, I’m making it’, and other days I see or think of reminders of her and I feel like curling up in a hole, terrified at the aspect of life without her. I’ve never grieved a pet before, let alone one as close and loyal as Oreo. Where do I go from here? Does anyone know what stage of grief I’m in or how I’m feeling?

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I feel ya and hear ya. I am too in the grieving process early stages. Some days are better then some and others it’s all I can think of. I’m finding that keeping myself busy has helped a’s hard and has intense pain but keep going ❤️

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Hello Savetherainforest22,

  Yes, most if not all of us here know how you feel.  It's been a long time for me now.   Five years since my heart dog Tuffy passed away.

  You it has been 11 days since you lost your beloved.  This is very early in the grief journey. 

  You're making amazing progress compared to me.  I cried daily, multiple times.    

  For me, and many feel similarly, the first year has many difficult times as there are so many firsts.  But we're all different.  

  Hang in there, talk about your grief, maybe write letters to your departed buddy.  

  I still feel the presence of Tuffy and Toby.  Toby passed 4 years ago.  I have their dog tags on my key chain and my wife and I still often talk about them.  

 We adopted a couple of rescue pups 4 years ago (2 months after Toby passed).   Their presence reminds me of the boys.  Without whom we wouldn't have the girls now.  

Tuffy, Toby, Ellie and Missy's Dad

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Thank you for your kind words and advice- I am grateful that others know how I feel, and knowing that I’m not alone really helps. I’m the type of person who has a natural instinct to care for things- I always have been. It’s just who I am. Life without an animal to care for and love is foreign to me, so I have some adjusting to do. In one year, I’ll be in an apartment community that permits pets. I know nothing will ever replace Oreo, but I think it would help me heal to have a new friend to make a new relationship with. I was only 7 years old when I persuaded and begged until my parents rescued Oreo and brought her into our family. She was with me as I grew from a little kid into a young adult. That’s a long time and a critical stage of your life to have a companion with.
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