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I lost my constant companion of 17 years on Saturday. The pain is unbelievable and I’m not sure it will ever get better.
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I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss. I know how you feel. When we lost our lovely lab I wondered how I could go on without her. I couldn’t understand how things around me were continuing as they always did when it all felt so horribly abnormal. Allow yourself time to grieve, I mean really grieve. I try to keep reminding myself that our pets live in the moment. They don’t fear for the future as we do. They don’t know death as we do. What they now have is peace.
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Dear Sophie's mom
I know the heart ache and pain you are feeling. I do believe you are right, we will never get over it. We just learn to live differently. After some time you will be able to smile and remember Sophie and the journey you shared with her. I guess if we lived in the moment we would be a lot happier, as our pets do but life isn't like that. Try to take one day at a time. Little steps. Termy went to the Bridge Sept 18th and it still hurts deeply. We go on. Sadly, without them. Love and doggie hugs Termy's mom
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My darling chihuahua of 16y will be put to sleep tomorrow A.M. My CONSTANT companion since the age of 3m. He WAS my World. Sadly, an enlarged heart and fluid retension on lungs combined with full blown cataracts has him not feeling well. Yes, on medications, but when Mother Nature says one's time is up, quite a blow ! The unbearable pain and sorrow as I type this wee note knowing full well what tomorrow has in store. I cannot contain myself at this moment. To do nothing is not the answer as his symptoms are very real. I donot at this point know how I will get through the procedure. Walking in the door with him and coming out alone is too much to bear. It is human nature that we all want more of each others time and I would give up a finger if it meant I would have him for another 5 years. Odd, if he passed away in his sleep, somehow I could COPE with that but this entering the Vets door and having the medical procedure done, having seen the videos, well, invasive. As devastating, I owe my wee Perry my PRESENCE, standing beside him and comforting him as he enters into his slumber phase only to be followed by the invasive drug. I should be thankful that I had him for 16y/5800 days. Seems like only yesterday, HE PICKED ME and off we went, through the years, his many outfits, his daily walks in the park, always looking up at me to make certain I was by his side, to his love of gala apples and on and on. He was treated like a KING ! My Perry loves,loved me to the endth degree. I feel at this point, his death will have a profound effect on me mentally, his wee body, 3lbs not as robust as in earlier times. The Saying of, one is never given any more than they can handle, well that will be put to the test tomorrow A.M. We are not invincible and that also goes for Our Beloved Pets. A part of me goes with PERRY into eternity. God give me Strength, Sherry K
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I lost my 13 1/2 year old dog, Winston, a week ago today. I cannot stop thinking about him. I even find myself talking to him constantly in the house and my head. I hope I heal eventually, but I know that I will always love my boy and that will never stop. I hope it gets easier though. I would like to think that he would not want me to be in pain forever.
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My heart breaks still and it’s been 2 weeks today without our boys. I feel your pain...Mikey had COPD and his heart and liver was enlarged and he also had begun to take on fluid in his lungs. The vet tripled his meds but unfortunately it was not helping him. Our other Maltese Joey had Cushings and he was in liver failure. He was starving to death and no matter how much he ate...he was losing about 5 ounces per week. We miss them so much...but they are no longer suffering and in pain. We also have a 10 year old toy poodle. She seems lost without them...just like us. I know time will heal the pain, but right now it seems like we have been handed more than our emotions can handle.😭
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SophiesMom - It is 6 years ago that I lost my Rascal. Unexpectedly and suddenly. She was only 11 yrs old - for an indoor only cat with no known medical issues I never even thought I would lose her that soon. You can go back and read my posts here. But summary is that I didn't even know it was possible to hurt so much. It hurt to breathe. I didn't know how to get through.
I found this board (I believe my Rascal directed me - since before I then I had never joined this type of forum). This place that Ed created was truly my lifeline. The people here who all have felt the loss and truly understood - made the difference. People here told me that it would get better. I don't know if I believed them but I held onto their words/promises - I needed them to be right. And you know...they were. It wasn't fast. It wasn't sudden. But you will get to a place where your thoughts of your Sophie bring smiles and make your heart happy before you feel the pain. You have 17 years of memories and shared love filling your heart - that love will help you through. Take care InMemoryOfRascal....and Rambo
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Been 12 days since my wee Perry,16y was put to rest at the Vets. I owed him my PRESENCE, the final grace I could give him for ALL THE COMFORT HE OFFERED THROUGHOUT THE YEARS DURING HIS LIFE. NOT EASY FOR THOSE OF US LEFT BEHIND. YES, WE ARE ALL SELFISH, IN THAT WE ALL WANT MORE TIME WITH OUR PETS, THAT IS TRUE LOVE ! YES, LIGHT THE CANDLE IN HIS SPECIAL CORNER, PHOTO AND HIS FAVOURITE STUFFED PIG THAT HE USED TO SIT AND LOOK AT. ALLL SO OVERWHELMING!!!!!!!! HE WAS MY WORLD !!! HAVING NO FAMILY. WE WERE INSEPERABLE, WE WENT EVERYWHERE. YES, HIS WEE BODY PUT TO THE TEST, HEART MURMUR, FLUID ON LUNG, WHICH HE WAS MEDICATED FOR. LASTLY, HIS CATARACTS, BLIND IN BOTH EYES, AND PROTRUDING EYES THAT FOUND HIM WHINCING, WEE CRIES IN THE WEE HOURS OF THE MORNING, ALLL TOO MUCH TO BEAR. TRULY HURTS TO SAY GOODBYE, FINITE!!
MY PERRY TRULY LOVED ME. HE KNEW I WAS WITH HIM, MY GRIP ON HIS BODY AND MY VOICE HELP HIM SLIP INTO A DEEP SLEEP. IT WAS PROFOUND. AS I TYPE THIS I HAVE HIS STUFFED PIG BY MY SIDE, HELPING ME TO COPE. HE HAD THE VERY BEST IN LIFE, LOVED TO THE END. HE PASSED IN A DIGNIFIED, PAINLESS AND HUMANLY MANNER. I LOVED HIM SO THAT I HAD TO LET HIM GO, THERE WAS NO OTHER ALTERNATIVE. THE ROAD AHEAD, NOT LOOKING GOOD. AND SO, WE THE PET LOVERS ARE AT A LOSS, as OUR BELOVED IS NO M~ORE. MEMORIES ARE ALL WE HAVE. MEMORIES ARE TO BE CHERISHED, BUT HURT!!!! LOVE YOU PERRY, MY HEART IS YOURS ........ SHERRY
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So sorry to hear of your loss Sherry - all the much greater for having no family. My heart goes out to you. But you are right, we have to do what is right for them and not what we want which would be to never let them go. I have kept her toys out too, and her bed is still at the end of ours - although I haven't been able to sleep in that room since we lost her 3 weeks ago. I can't bear to see her empty bed there but my husband can't part with it yet. We all deal with our grief in our own way. The memories are mostly good, some are painful but I am starting to be able to smile at times when I think of her and the mischief she used to get up to. Hugs to you from afar.