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Maddie77

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Hi all.. I'm new here, just looking for a way to reach out and maybe get some support.
I found out 2 weeks ago my cat had cancer. Progressed very quickly and this last Saturday, I knew it was getting to be that time. I made an appointment for Sunday at 4 to put my baby to sleep. Sadly, he didn't make it to the appointment. We woke up yesterday and I could just tell something wasn't right. I took my baby out in the backyard, layed a blanket down and he passed away on his own around 11:30am.

I feel horrible that it happened this way. Feeling immense guilt. Should I have taken him to the emergency clinic? Should I have made his appointment earlier in the week? Was he in pain?

I've never quite had feelings like this. All my previous pets were put to sleep. Any positive vibes or words would be so appreciated.
Fibee

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Hi Maddie,

We had our beloved 14 yr old Dooley dog put to sleep last Thursday and since then I have been plagued with guilt and immense sadness. I think guilt is part of grieving no matter if our babies pass on their own or with help. Just know that you did the best for your baby. It is not easy to stop the negative thoughts but try to remember all the good times. I know it's almost impossible to do as I am struggling myself. You are not alone,

Fi
Pawprince

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Hello Maddie,

I also have heard guilt is part of the grieving process. I am 40 and never had a pet euthanized before. Didn't think it was the 'norm' toward end of life...now that my beloved 11 yr old dog is in end stage kidney disease.. I am finding out that it is common to euthanize.

Maybe I just don't know, but I am praying for a natural, smooth, painless passing of my beloved dog. I believe I would feel very guilty if I euthanize vs. letting him pass on his own.

Of course I don't want his health to get so bad there is pain, etc. So I am coming to terms with possibly having him euthanized if that is what's best for him...

Just right now, he still has life to live.

I am telling you this to say... that maybe the way your beloved pet passed on was the right way for them. It seems like so many of us love our pets so much, that we continually second-guess our decisions / circumstances.

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved pet. My heart goes out to you.
Maddie77

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Fi,

Thank you for reaching out. I'm so sorry to hear about Dooley. It's never easy and I don't think we can ever feel prepared. You are right in that we need to remember the good times and that we gave our babies wonderful lives. If only they lived longer. You are in my thoughts, stay strong. If you need to chat, I am here.

Maddie
Maddie77

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Pawprince,

I am so sorry to hear of your dog. When you hear the news your baby is sick, it is earth shattering. Give him lots of loves, tell him you love him, spoil him rotten. Know in your heart that whatever your decision, he will understand. I know exactly what you're going through having just gone through it myself. If you need anything at all, please let me know
Pawprince

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Thank you, Maddie. ((Hugs))
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