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ronaldwes

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After losing my dog by brother and some others in the family want to push me into trying to do things or go places I am not ready to do or feel comfortable doing.  They truly don't understand how I feel.  I have to do what I can and when I feel ready.  Depression, lack of sleep, lack of energy take time to get back. Can anyone relate.  I hope that I am OK in feeling this way.  I just don't want to be pushed into doing things I am not ready to do.  I don't have a timetable for when I will be ready to do certain things.  I hope I am not alone in this.
KatKat

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What you are feeling is a normal response to the loss of someone you love.  I lost my kitten 3 weeks ago due to a tragic event and I was exhausted, depressed and I dragged myself through the day. Our family and friends are just trying to help but they are not experiencing our feelings, our grief and that makes things difficult for everyone involved.  You are correct, it's your grief and you need time to process it in your way and in your time.  Hang in there, everyone means well.  Your grief is recognized and respected here.  Do your best to take care of yourself.  My thoughts and support are with you.
Loz

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Its the  worst thing that's happened to me, loosing my special girl Berry suddenly on new years eve. I can relate to how you are feeling. 5month on and I'm still crying for her, my partner says I should be moving on but everyone has their own way of processing bereavement and I need to take one day at a time. Since Berry's passing I have lost joy in many things, she was my joy , my life ! You take as long as you like in grieving , one day at a time. I wish you peace and love.
ronaldwes

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Exactly it feels like family and others push us to do things that we are not ready to do.  They may mean well but we have to do things when we feel comfortable.
NucleoWolf

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I can relate: ever since my precious little Hershey died, my parents have been telling me to "keep busy" with work and other activities so that I am not preoccupied over grief. Today in particular, they have been pushing me to re-focus on planning for graduate school. I understand that my parents are just trying to help me and are also grieving over the death of our beloved family pet, but at the same time I feel like they don't truly understand just how painful this loss is for me. Because of my strong grief, I just don't want to do anything right now except grieve and memorialize my fur-baby. Working does not help much because my job is at a doggie daycare, and while the dogs are a little comforting, they are also a major trigger for my grief since Hershey was a dog. And while I still want to go to graduate school to follow my dreams of becoming a wolf geneticist, the thought of preparing for it is painful right now because I spent Hershey's last night studying chemistry when I should have spent it interacting with her, which I feel so guilty about (but then I did not know that she was going to die the next day but in hindsight I should have seen it coming cause of how bad her condition was over her last few days so much guilt). I'm so sorry Hershey!
ronaldwes

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So true. Today my sister asked me if have Been to my brothers pool. I don’t feel like it. I know people mean well but I don’t have any desire to do something fun. Sometimes people push too much. I teach part time at the university, and I really don’t have it in me right now Togo by the office. Hurting so much.
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