Registered: 1588896570 Posts: 1
I’m just wondering if anyone has been in the same situation as me or willing to give me some advice right now. Last Saturday my dog died. I am completely devastated as She was in my life since I was 8 years old (I’m 25 now). She was a gorgeous dog a Labrador cross staffie she would of been 17 the Day after she died :(. A long story cut short. She was a what I thought a healthy girl until 3 weeks ago I noticed her stomach has swollen greatly as she was laying down. I took her to the vets the vets diagnosed a tumor in her stomach was very large and with her age and problems with anaesthetic when she got spayed I opted for pain relief as I didn’t want to put such an old dog through surgery . It was about a week later I wanted to get a second opinion which I did and the same outcome. I then opted to have a scan done to see what exactly we were dealing with. During these times it’s gone from 1-3 month survival to 3-6 and possibly longer after the scan which I was so happy and relieved about. She then took a turn for the worse her breathing became laboured and I took her back to the vets, they gave her a steroid injection on the Friday and said this could help her for around a week but she doesn’t have long left. (This is all in 2 weeks ) a lot of people were telling me to get her put down but at the time I was doing everything right , I was fighting for my dog to live I wanted the best chance for her and I was willing to put in all the time, effort and money for her to stay with us as long as she wanted. She was still jumping on and off the beds, eating and drinking. Again everyone that Friday night told me to take her to get put down, I didn’t listen as I still thought I was doing right for my girl who I was so scared to loose. The Saturday morning early hours she became really unwell, really struggling to breathe so I rang the vets and said I’ll bring her down to get her put to sleep. As I was driving on my way to the vets she died in my car, she had a small amount of blood from her mouth and then it hit me this growth in her stomach had erupted and started to fill her lungs hence the laboured breathing. Now nearly a week later I’m still crying every day but the guilt is hitting me that if I listened to my families advice she wouldn’t of had to died the way she did, as I said at the time I honestly thought I was doing the right thing. I had hope that the steroid injection she had the day before she died would help but it didn’t. I don’t know how to cope with the guilt I’m feeling of not having her peacefully put to sleep when I still had the time. I feel so selfish :(. I miss her so much, she was my childhood best friend and companion and I’m completely lost without her.
Registered: 1589137909 Posts: 20
I am so sorry. I am on the opposite end of the spectrum. I feel guilt thinking I put my girl down too soon. I think no matter what happens, there is always some amount of guilt associated with the loss of a pet.
Try to be kind to yourself, as I am trying to do. I hope your heart heals in time.