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wrightar01

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Hey everyone, I know you are all going through the same thing or have but I was hoping someone here had any advice at all because I can't even get out of bed. All I think of is our last moments with my dog foxy because he took a turn for the worst and could not walk or breathe well. He came from a hoarder who never gave proper care most of his life and he spent his last years in our home with three other dog brothers and sisters. We did give him the love he deserved and he did live the rest of his life with us there for him but I wish he had more time. I never lost a pet before and dogs are my life. I literally prefer spending time with my animals any day of the week. It isn't the same here without foxy and I can't deal with the pain. I want the bad thoughts of putting him down to go and the happy thoughts and memories to be in my head but the grieving isn't allowing it. We just want our dog back with us. Any suggestions on how to get through this horrific pain?! Thank you everyone and I hope you are doing well with your losses. Hopefully I'll be one to help others also one day.
Feathers

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Hi Rightar01
My heart is breaking for you, as I remember when my first dog died..I cried a lot the first few weeks.
I bought a little memorial stone for him which I put near one of our trees. It helped to have that little service for us.
wrightar01

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I love that idea. I have been looking for special things online today and I think Def a stone and naybe something for inside plus a portrait. It's terrible but I think finding this support group was meant to be. Thank you for your kind words.
Feathers

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Today was the first day I have ever written on an on line board, but I lost my African Gray Parrot last week after a routine nail trim. He had a heart attack at the vets immediately after they did it. He was 21years old. I have not stopped crying since. I purchased a memorial stone online for him too. It should arrive this week.
ItWillTakeTime

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I planted a tree for my guy -- a flowering dogwood, of course. I made a video montage of pictures of his life using Windows Photo Editor. It was two weeks ago, and I am still crying. We had fourteen years together, and I just miss him so much. All I can do, and all I can recommend, is to take it a minute at a time. It will take time. Dogs are so much a part of us and us of them; it is like I am missing a part. The house is so empty. It's really hard . . . one day at a time. Good luck to you and bless you.
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My cat, Karma died Dec 2017, and I have been struggling with it ever since. We may never really get through these things completely. It takes some time to fully accept that this terrible thing has happened, and after that, it's the missing of our pet and the deep longing to have them back in our lives. We know that can never happen, but the emotional understanding of this is very difficult.

For me, after pushing hard to get through it, I gave up and accepted that I would feel this pain and sadness all the time. And in my case, tears have come every day since Dec 2017. I was astounded, perplexed and worried, but through the many experiences and stories of others here, I realised that my experience is not unique at all. So yeah, you will need to be patient because it can a take a long time for the grief to subside. Probably the best thing is to stay occupied and let time lessen the trauma, if you can.
wrightar01

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Thank you everyone I truly appreciate you taking the time to tell your stories because as much as I hate knowing I'm not the only one dealing with this because I know it cuts so deep.. I also know we aren't all alone. I will Def keep busy and I hope go find some memorial things online. I had to stop looking for now because it hurt reading every thing. I will accept that the hurt never goes away I just hope one day I csn think happy thoughts instead of sad. I can't stop thinking of the suffering in his last hours. I didn't accept it was the end until I was told to bring him to the vet right away and he prepared. That kills. The unexpected hurts worse because we weren't prepared. I wish you all peace with your babies as well. When I start to feel comfort I hope to also have advice for others as you guys have had for me.
wrightar01

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Did your parrot pass because of the nail Trim?!
Feathers

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Yes, but only because he must have had something else wrong with him. Apparently African Grey parrots are known to sometimes develop liver tumors. Birds do not show when there are sick until it is to late. That way other prey animals won't know they are weak. When the bird's get nail or beak trims there heart races and blood pressure go up because it is stressful to them. Then when they are ill it can cause a heart attack. I only wish he had shown signs. I keep thinking if I had not made that appointment he would still be here. He was acting normal before I took him
They only way to know what illness he might have had is to do an autopsy..it is called a necropsy in birds. I didn't want that done..it wouldn't bring him back. It was just awful watching him die..even though it was quick it was very traumatic to me
I am wondering how you are feeling today.
Terry
wrightar01

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Feathers that is also what I am dealing with. The trauma towards the end.. I think we both need to really try to get our heads to think about something else because it's already hard and traumatic enough that they're gone. I am feeling the exact same way.. Like it was so sudden yes he had issues but we didn't know we would wake up to anabsolutely different dog. It must of been in the brain. I tried so hard to get him to calm down and he did for a while so I had hope as we waited for the vet to call but as time went on we ended up needing to rush him there. I can't stop thinking of the kart moments when he had to be put down. I am happy I was there as should you with ur baby because when he went u got to be by his side and animals know it. I just try to keep remembering he's at peace now and he will not struggle. I know for u that u didn't know he was already struggling but there's no way u could of known that going to get his nails done that it would happen. Please don't blame yourself at all.. If you are that is. You would not have known and hey knows it may have happened anyways. We all just need to stick together. Will you be doing the candlelight ceremony on here Monday? I did submit my babies name and I think it will really give me some peace. I hope the same for you!
Today was also difficult.. More time in between the tears and I just keep hugging his blanket for comfort and spending time with my other 3 dogs. Doing my best to keep busy. That's probably all we can do. My heart breaks for your bird and I really hope my little dog meets your bird up in heaven. He might be a little silly and growl because he was grumpy but they will be friends in no time ❤️ he woukd take great care of your baby.
wrightar01

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I hope my last reply came through? I don't see it.
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