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Flops

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My cat had died after being long term poorly . He was 21. I couldn't face anymore animals but 2 and half month passed and a rabbit had been let free in the woods here where I live .. a lady said it had been on the streets for 5 days.
I seen something run past my window so I quickly ran outside and jumped over my fence to the rear of my garden where the reservoir is and to my disbelief it was a rabbit .. it slowed down when it seen me and kept looking at me as if it was smiling at me .. it would hop slowly on the grass and turn its head looking at me as if to say come and get me .. its eyes were so full of laughter and friendly .. so I picked it up it allowed me to.

I carried it home and gave it a drink of water and checked with neighbors that it wasn't there's. One of them gave me a bag of rabbit food.
I searched for its owner for days and asked the vets if anyone lost a rabbit no one came forward.
The pet shop said we can send it to the RSPCA for you I said no I'm not sending it there .. I bought all the appropriate hay , grass , food , veg etc and a home for it to hang out in if it wanted . But I let it have full free roam of the house and got it two litter trays

Flopsie turned 4 years old when I knew something wasn't right so rushed him to the vets and caught him in gi stasis he spent a week in hospital .. time passed and he was well .. I learned to recognise his gi symptoms and managed it ok and he got better .. we were so very close we ate our breakfast together out dinner and tea and cuddled up on the floor we were best friends when I was poorly he'd sit next to me and lick my arms our bond was amazing .. 4 weeks ago he went into gi stasis but also got a head tilt .. I syringe fed him for 4 weeks every hour with critical care food and his meds twice a day .. I washed and cleaned hi. With wipes just so he felt better because he could no longer clean himself and went from being litter trained to incontinent it broke my heart for him in case he was upset at him being unable to use his toilet .. last Wednesday he deteriorated so I rushed to the vets she gave him a steroid later that night his breathing altered and I just knew he was going 😭😭😭💔💔💔 so I cuddled him in to me on my chest I lay down and had him stretched out on me and he clung on to me with his paw and cuddled his head into my chin while he passed away 💔💔💔💔💔 I'm broken I'm beyond being able to console my self he was beautiful inside and out and everyone remarked how friendly and gentle he was when they met him .. he never scratched or bit a soul

I'm struggling to carry on without him I really am ..bid he went into another room for a run around I'd miss him so can you imagine how much I miss him now ..vwe had our set routine and I was home with him 24 hours a day for 6 years ❤️💔🐇😭
JoeR

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Thank you for sharing.
Flops

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Thank you for reading it
Roo

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I so deeply sorry for your loss, I understand how you feel. I love my beloved cat to a car accident just this Monday and I’m crying night and day, everyone says time will heal but right now the pain is excruciating. I honestly don’t know what to say that will comfort you. I too and in the same boat. Sending love and hugs.
Flops

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Hi. I'm so very sorry , that's awful . I think we just have to cry and process our grief .
Ive bought some lovely flowers and our them in a vase and a new frame for a photograph of my rabbit ..and put two cables beside it and I'm going to write a story a bit like a biography of how we met ..
Why don't you try doing something similar or the same in memory of your cat and see if it will give you a tiny bit of comfort doing something for your cat

My bunnie flopsie lived indoors with me he was always beside me he was so intelligent .. when ever I was poorly he'd comfort me and I'd comfort him he was so beautiful

It's truly devastating loosing an animal because they're so pure and innocent
VBunny

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Hi I’m so sorry about the loss of your lovely boy. He sounds wonderful and was so lucky to have you. You saved his life and then gave him a wonderful loving home. I feel your pain. I lost my beautiful bunny Shimbra 3.5 weeks ago. She lived with us for 6 years and was the light in my life. She was an out door bunny, she had the run of the garden and though I would have loved to have been able to get her in doors she loved it outside. I went out to see her frequently and loved looking after her and spending time with her. We adopted her from our next door neighbours, she lived in their garden with her sister but unfortunately they started fighting when they were 1 year old and could no longer live together but they had contact at the fence whenever they wanted. Our bunny was poorly for about a month, I have a lot of guilt over the circumstances. She’d been to the vets the afternoon before she passed, she was given fluids and more meds and I hoped she was going to improve, I wasn’t with her when she died that night and I regret this too. Your bunny passed with so much love. I miss my bunny so much it really hurts but the pain isn’t as intense as it was those first few days. I hope you’re ok. I’ve just joined this support group to reply to your message but I’ve read a lot of postings since Shimbra passed away and it’s really helping me through and I hope it will for you also.
Flops

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Hi , Thank you .. I'm actually just laying here where he used to.lay and cuddle into me on the rug watching TV .. and I'm sobbing my heart out wishing so much he was still here .
I can understand your hurt and your guilt .. I felt really guilty as well about flopsie because he'd been poorly for a month as well and I'd been syringe feeding him daily every hour and a half sometimes an hour or two depending on how much he ate .. I firmly believe the way in which our bunnies go is the way it's meant to be and nothing you could've done would've changed shimbra going .. I'm really very sorry for your loss and the fact it hurts so much it's hard not to feel guilty because you go over everything you did in your mind and no matter what you did you'll always think you could have done something else .. but no matter what we do sometimes it just isn't going to work because this time it must be their time 😭💔 . You gave shimbra a home next door and loved your rabbit dearly you gave it another chance so that it didn't have to go to a shelter or leave the area it was just next door
I got new carpets fitted and I'm sure the stress of that gave flopsie a poorly tummy then secondary illness everyone said it definitely wasn't that but I think it was and if I'd known I wouldn't have bought new carpets
I think we'd do anything for them and it sounds like you did your very best for shimbra
Flopsie was at the vets in the afternoon and the same as shimbra .. died that night . Maybe you were t supposed to be there maybe you wouldn't have coped it's very hard toive with nursing them in your arms . They let out a scream before they die
VBunny

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Hi hope you’re feeling abit better today. Thank you so much for your kind words, giving me comfort when it’s such a difficult time for you. It must be so hard in the house. I’ve felt so lonely at home even though Shimbra lived in the garden, being at home is not the same especially in the rooms I’d watch her so it must be so much harder for you. You’re so right about the guilt. Bunnies are so fragile and the way they just stop eating is so hard. Shimbra was in a lot of pain, the vet initially thought it was arthritis but the pain meds didn’t seem to consistently work, she would go off her food for hours and was then very picky once she started eating again. We had to also syringe feed her which she hated but in hindsight I should have given her more of the critical care because she had lost a lot of weight when I took her back to the vet. I still torture myself with the what ifs but it’s not as bad as the first few days and weeks and I can also now think of happy times. I really don’t believe the carpets would have caused your bunny’s passing, I think the love and care he had from you would have given him reassurance when the carpets were being fitted. The fact Flopsie was poorly for a month sounds as if there was something seriously wrong, particularly as he’d come through tummy problems in the past and there were other symptoms too. Like you said sometimes it’s just their time but it’s hard to accept that at the moment. So many others seem to have the guilt when their bunnies pass. I’d read about the scream and that must have been so hard for you but you were so selfless to be there when Flopsie needed you the most, you could not have done anymore. It’s hard not knowing what the cause was and this leaves that space in your brain to rewrite how things could have gone different, I’ve read posts of people not even knowing after autopsies. Something I read on another post is that bunnies are magical and you loose some of the best of you when they go. I think it sums it up. I’m sending you hugs ❤️
Flops

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Hi I'm so very sorry for the huge long delay with replying. I've been in a very low place not being able to sleep or settle and just crying . I actually thought I was going to die next with a broken heart it hurts that much. How are you feeling and coping ? That's ok .. you lost your precious shimbra too I think it helps to help another who's hurting just as much I think our pets would be happy we offered each other some kind of comfort in words . I was just laying here crying and thought oh I never got a reply off the lady who lost shimbra so I came to see if I could read anything of comfort and you had replied .

I wasn't notified I'm sorry
Maybe you're right because I did cuddle him when the carpets were fitted and showed him them ..vwe were never apart .. I understand about your rooms being empty because you watched shimbra it was the same here .. I still Kay and watch the tv on the rug where we snuggled up and flopsie would have his head on me and I'd snuggle my head into him and the massive empty spaces where we used to snuggle is horrific so is my bedroom .. just empty and hollow
I do hope you're getting by the best you can
VBunny

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Hi
It’s good to hear from you. I’ve been wondering about how you’re doing. Im so sorry you’re in so much pain. I was starting to feel a little better but hitting the one month mark last Wednesday for Shimbra was really tough, I hadn’t stopped the what if type of thinking but I’d started thinking abit more balanced, your kind words helped a lot. But last week was a bad week, just thinking of all the things I could have done different and knowing there is nothing I can do for Shimbra now.

Your post about Flopsie really touched me. The way you both met and the beautiful life you gave him. And Shimbra was unplanned too. I always thought bunnies to be very cute but never imagined having one in my life and I had no idea what huge personalities they have. I have felt really low too and have questioned how I can live without her, she was the most special thing in my life and during the really down moments I do feel that I don’t won’t to go on, it’s hard to imagine being happy again at the moment and it’s hard to think of anything else but her. I guess we just have to keep taking small steps, getting through each day until we can get to a place that doesn’t hurt as much though I know we will never stop missing them.

I hope you’re not blaming yourself now. I am imagining that moment when you met Flopsie and how confident and comfortable he was with you from the very start, I’d imagine that all he needed was you to feel safe no matter what was going on around him. I’ve been reading so much online since I lost Shimbra, I’ve read a lot of things from people who have lost their bunnies, I have to say that the life and love your bunny had with you stands out as one of the very best. There aren’t many bunnies who have 24/7 love and companionship like Flopsie did. I guess unfortunately the grief is the downside now of that immense love but what a lucky bunny he was. I’m thinking of you lots and I’m here anytime.
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