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I haven't been here in awhile. My two boys passed away several years ago. Keppe in 2014 and Bruce in early 2017. Since then I occasionally foster cats from the animal shelter I used to work at. Today I rehomed my foster, a very sweet, but very active 1 year old with a biting problem. I had him for four months. And although, I made a rule that I wouldn't foster kittens, I broke my rule. He was 1 year and definitely too much for me to handle. He never hissed, growled, or swatted at me. But he was a rough player and no matter what I did I could never drain his energy. And I live in a studio, so I could never get away from him. At night he would sometimes play attack my arm while I was in bed. A few weeks ago, he jumped on me and I ended up with a claw accidentally embedded in my shoulder. I had to hold him down to keep him from running away while I removed it. It absolutely was an accident. He showed absolutely no fear or aggression. Just an especially playful spirit. And I wasn't experienced enough to handle it. 

I feel guilty and ashamed. I feel like I've let him down. And am utterly depressed. His new foster is perfectly lovely. I'm sure he'll do well and enjoy himself after he adjusts. I'm just completely heartbroken I couldn't help him. 


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I don't think you should feel bad at all!  You gave your best to help him, and it sounds like he now has a place where he will be happy.  A friend of mine had a cat that was a biter too.  I wonder what makes a cat do that ...   I've had many cats and none have ever bitten like that.  I think I would find it hard to be friends with one that did.  Anyway, you shouldn't feel you failed him.  You did your best.  
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