Registered: 1214773920 Posts: 20
Tomorrow will be the fourteenth day since my angel Beth went to sleep, and every day has seemed like the first. I still have her casket with her ashes next to my bed, I don't seem to be able to bury her and my husband thinks I should. But she didn't like being on her own, and the weather is very thundery at the moment, and thunder terrified her. I'm still finding it very hard to talk to anyone about her, I just want to keep her to myself. I've just found an old photo of her sitting in a field of bluebells with a great big grin on her face and a sparkle of mischief in her eyes. She's so beautiful, she has the most incredible colored coat, deep red like a fox, not the usual Lab color at all. I am so proud of her. I'm so thankful that I found you all, being able to talk like this is saving my sanity. I shall light my candle for Beth, first time, tonight at 9.00p.m. UK time, and remember, and pray for us all
Brenda, Bethy's mom
Registered: 1210209740 Posts: 143
Dear Brenda. Take the time you need. Having her ashes near brings you comfort.
We had to have our dear little Cockerpoo, Pepe, age nearly 13, put to sleep on May 7th. I have the little wooden box with his name engraved on top sitting on a shelf next to me here in the computer room. I have many photos of Pepe and the Rainbow Bridge poem with it. It comforts me. In time we may want to scatter his ashes at the beach where he loved to run but we would want our adult daughters to be here with us as they loved him too. I don't think anyone can tell us the "correct" timeline for our grief. Our pets were and are so precious to us and we will never forget them. Some days I am not feeling so emotional and almost think my grief is lessening and then I have a day, like today, when the tears won't stop.
Registered: 1214441916 Posts: 23
Brenda, I am so sorry for your loss my heart goes out to you. It will be 1 month on Thursday since Louie left me. I too have his ashes still in the house, in a box. One day I thought he loves to try to get on the table so I thought “here ya go Lou, your favorite spot, the kitchen table”. He has been there for a couple of weeks now. My son will pick up the box and hug and kiss it. I move him around where I feel he wants to be. I don’t think I will ever bury him, just because I would rather have him around us, than in a hole. I know times seem tough but you will get through this. It does get easier a little day by day. Yet, you never stop longing for there touch, smell or comfort of your very much loved friend. I would give and do anything just to feel Louie in my arms and smell his ears. I loved to nuzzle his neck and ears. Time heals all. Keep coming here and sharing when you feel the need. This place is awesome and it has made me feel 100% better about Louie ;) ~D Louie’s Mom