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Ashandravyn

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Earlier today I was leaving to go run some errands when I accidentally backed over one of my beloved cats. My cats like to lay in the shade under my car, but they usually move when they hear me come out the front door or open the car door. One of the others had moved so I assumed there was no one else under the car. My dear boy must have been in a deep sleep and didn’t hear the car start. I backed out and immediately thought that I had ran over a newspaper roll, but then I saw him dart across the driveway and into the woods beside our house. I got out and ran to him, he was sitting in a bush crying loudly, a sound that I cannot get out of my head. He continued to walk deeper into the woods as I cautiously followed, trying to get him to come to me but he just wouldn’t. I could see it looked like he had blood on his face. He was walking fine but he could have just been in shock. He went to far and I could no longer follow him. I went out to look for him a few times throughout the day with no luck. Another one of my cats followed a bit longer but shortly came back to me. It is night now and he still hasn’t come home. I am fearful and in agony that I might never see him again, and that if he is hurt, I won’t be able to get him help. I know cats run and hide when they are injured or to die. The pain of waiting is killing me, I’ve actually had a flare up of heart palpitations throughout the day. I don’t know how to handle this, I’m too ashamed to talk to any of my friends, but I really need some support.
VBunny

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Hi I’m so sorry that you’re going through this but you should not feel ashamed this was an accident that wasn’t your fault. Feelings of guilt with our furry ones who we have lost is very common on this site, I’m going though my own guilt and grief. There have been a few members posting recently of their experiences of accidentally hitting their loved companions with their cars or others doing so. You are not alone. I hope you can find some comfort soon and come to this site for support. People are very caring and understanding.
grievingmom

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There is nothing to be ashamed of. Feelings like and deceive us. Your feelings are telling you to be ashamed.

This is a shocking trauma. When I had my own shocking trauma, I got some sedatives from my medical doctor so I could calm down.

My heart goes out to you. This is very sad.

Stephanie
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PreciousMomi

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Ashandravyn, how tragic and horrible for you and your boy. Please find peace and forgiveness for yourself. We are only human, so imperfect. But these little creatures have no ego, they love and not afraid to die. I hope you feel better. Be kind and gentle to yourself. It takes time. Sending prayers and thoughts.
Summerkrae

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So sorry this happened. What a tragedy. Accidents happen.
Dbroomfield

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I had to put my fur baby down, she was 17 years old, and I can’t stop crying, I keep seeing her little face and I feel so guilty and lost, she was blind, but got to point to where she had trouble standing, and not eating, my vet said it was time to say goodbye. I held her as she took her last breath but I can’t get the vision of her little face as she took her last breath, I see her eyes looking at me, and I can’t let go of this quilt, can someone please tell me is this normal cause the pain is terrible, I feel like my heart is ripped out of me
Dbroomfield

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I had to put my fur baby down, she was 17 years old, and I can’t stop crying, I keep seeing her little face and I feel so guilty and lost, she was blind, but got to point to where she had trouble standing, and not eating, my vet said it was time to say goodbye. I held her as she took her last breath but I can’t get the vision of her little face as she took her last breath, I see her eyes looking at me, and I can’t let go of this quilt, can someone please tell me is this normal cause the pain is terrible, I feel like my heart is ripped out of me
GoldenMom

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Dbroomfield, what you are feeling is completely normal. Having to say goodbye to a beloved companion is absolutely heartbreaking and can lead to feelings of guilt. I read a quote this morning that said, “Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same thing”. You faced the hardest thing ever and out of love you gave her the gift of having a peaceful passing in your loving arms. I hope you find comfort in all the cherished memories you have with her over your 17 wonderful years together. Sending you warm thoughts of comfort and peace.
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