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Newfanci

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I have read so many different things about people feeling so much guilt over putting their beloved pet to sleep but I've read nothing about the reason I did it to mine. My beautiful Emma was 10 years old and for the last for 5 years she has been peeing on everything. I know she knows how to use her litter box because two weeks ago when I was downstairs doing laundry she wandered in and sat in the litter box and peed and I thought oh yay she does know how to use it. Emma was the sweetest cat ever. She was so loving. I think the first time she started peeing in the house was when I had to get her shaved because she was so matted. My other cat is always so happy when we shave him but Emma hid for a week after under my bed. I finally stopped getting her shaved but even when the girl that would come over to shave our other cat would be in the house Emma would start up again. I had her to the vet several times over the last few years and they could find nothing medically wrong with her and said it was behavioral as she was not only peeing on couches and carpets but if a towel was left on the floor or a coat or anything like that she would pee on it. I've been finding it hard to keep up cleaning up after her and my house smells. Emma has been medicated but to no avail she continues to pee sometimes she would stop and it would go a few months and then it would always start up again. I made the decision the other day that I couldn't handle it anymore and I took her in and the vet checked her out and we decided to do it. I feel I though i made the wrong choice here and that I didn't try hard enough. Everything I read online people are saying how inhumane it is to do what I did. Not only do I miss having her cuddled up with me and coming when called and hearing her sweet meow I am beating myself up because I know I made the wrong decision I have had to put pets down before but always due to illness or because the animal was suffering. I didn't see any signs that Emma was suffering. I just don't understand why she kept doing this. I hate myself for what I've done and I miss her so much. My children are all moved out on their own but my youngest daughter was with me and agreed with my decision. All three of my daughter's think I did the right thing as much as they love her but I still feel like I moved to hastily
HeartsickII

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I'm so sorry about Emma, but, you need to quit beating yourself up over it. . . Most times we just know when it it's time and confirmation from your daughters tells me it's one of those.
We all have the guilty feelings after we put a beloved pet to rest but believe me, those of us who have gone through this know they were telling us it is time. Forgive yourself for doing what you felt was best.
Newfanci

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Thank you. It's so hard. I work from home so I'm so used to having her come and sit with me at my desk for the day. Such an empty sad feeling. I know I need to forgive myself but I just don't know how
HeartsickII

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Honestly, we all have so many guilty feelings when we have to do what we know is best. The emptiness of their presence makes that feeling more acute, especially in the initial days after losing them. You must forgive yourself.
Newfanci

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It's so tough isn't it.
Newfanci

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Honestly my heart hurts more than I could ever imagine. I haven't felt this kind of grief since I lost my parents which I never thought I'd get through. It's unbearable.
MollyJo

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Boy I feel so sorry for what you thought was right, we have a 17 year old daschound and my wife says its time and I wont do it, he is having trouble getting around and he wines a lot at night, going to take him to vet to see if he can give him medication for his back legs, I don't know how much pain he is in, I just cant put him to sleep right now, I just lost my boxer MOLLY 3/14/2018 and I don't know if I could handle this right now, so very tough what to do, it is killing me
Newfanci

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I'm so sorry Molly Jo. I feel your pain. This is unbearable isn't it. I found an amazing website. Look up Brent Atwater. I cant imagine goung through this twice like you. If I were to lose my other cat and my dog I think I don't know how I could go on. Everyone tells me to forgive myself and that Emma is in a good place and is sad that I'm feeling the pain but the heartbreak is so real
MollyJo

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Thanks Newfanci, I just don't know where to turn, my wife says now and I cant do it but I don't want Oscar to suffer, I love him so much just like my precious Molly whom I lost 7 weeks ago, I need help from above to let me know what I should do
Dawn1118

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What is his quality of life?  is he still eating and drinking?  If this is still happening for Oscar I would not make that decision yet.....Just my thought
MollyJo

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yes so far, I agree iam not going to make that decision now, my wife says yes but not now!!!!
Dawn1118

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If he is still eating and drinking I wouldn't do thing!  
Newfanci

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Honestly it's going to be hard but please don't let him suffer. He will be at peace and free of pain. I know your grief. I am always here to cry with. My heart is with you
Jetairliner707

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It happened to me also! Almost exactly! I curled up on my bed and cried my heart out. He also started peeing throughout the house... even in floor registers. The smell was horrific regardless of our attempts. He had nothing physically wrong just like your cat. I had him euthanized in 2008. He was 15 years old but still healthy. I realize now I was too hard on myself. Don't let anyone give you a guilt trip because you tried everything like I did. I believe our pets will be with us in heaven. There's animals there already and God knows the desires of our ❤️.So please don't beat yourself up like I did to myself 10 years ago. Our cats know we loved them so very much!
Newfanci

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Thank you Jetliner707. You know my pain. The guilt is so overwhelming coupled with the sadness and grief. Thanks for your support. Emma was happy and loving healthy. Just no reason for her peeing issue. She was almost 10 and as you know it's a feeling like you robbed her of her life. I do realize shes in heaven and with me but it's so difficult during this grief period. She was and always will be so loved. Thank you again for your message ❤ it does give me some comfort
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