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My outdoor cat was outside one evening meowing a lot so I brought him in the monitor him. The next day he was worse so I took him to the vet. The vet said that his abdomen felt distended and recommended an x-Ray and blood work. I chose to do basic blood work and to try meds to see if he would improve. I asked the vet of there was a risk in doing this and she said we could try it. He seemed to be getting worse so I took him back and had them do a felv/fiv test do Inwould possibly have an explanation if he passed. It was negative. At that point I should have gotten more tests done and I didn't. I ended up taking him to the emergency vet about 30 minutes later where they said he had a urinary blockage. They tried to save him but were unsuccessful. I am feeling so guilty because I declined two of the tests that would have told me what the problem was and could have possibly saved him. The tests weren't even that expensive. I feel horrible and worry this feeling won't ever go away!

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Hi there. Well, first of all, you did do something -- you brought your cat in for treatment, so please don't beat yourself up over that. A lot of people "would let nature take its course" and do nothing. At least you tried to find out what the problem was. None of us has a crystal ball for the future. We don't get to know what the perfect answer is before something happens. Maybe the tests you didn't do would have answered the question; maybe not. But I understand that it is maddening to say "what if."

MY dog recently passed away while he was being boarded with our other dog at the vet's office while we were on vacation. I certainly wouldn't have boarded him and gone on the trip if I knew he was 10 days away from death when I dropped him off. I am dealing with more than a little guilt myself. But I know deep down that some situations are just beyond our control. His death took everyone by surprise, even the vet, who said they had no indication he was about to die.

I hope I have helped you with my response. The bottom line is that you did what you thought was right at the time. It was only the result that came out very wrong. Please give yourself a break. I don't think your cat would want you to feel so down about yourself.

Best wishes for peace and healing,
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