Registered: 1514957514 Posts: 2
Thank you so much for all your stories. It helps so much to know I'm not crazy for feeling so forlorn over a pet.
Here is my family's story.
We adopted Owen almost a year ago and we were all smitten.
The first person he bit was a child, our neighbor, a 9-year-old. She was playing with my son, who was then 5, and picked him up. Owen snapped, and bit her arm, causing her to get 4 stitches.
I called the vet and set up an appointment with a doggy 'psychologist' but I was told Owen was reacting normally. He saw a bigger child pick up my son and thought he needed to protect him.
The next incident was during a walk in our neighborhood. A much smaller dog came running up to us (I think in a very friendly way) while we were out with our son and Owen. Again, Owen attacked the little dog to 'defend' us. Again, we were told this was normal and we did everything we could. Owen had played with other dogs before without problems and he obviously took the little dog as a threat.
Finally, last week, Owen attacked my 7 year old nephew. He did so without any provocation as far as I could see. We were laying on the couch (Owen and I) when my nephew came into the room. My nephew petted him very nicely, just came to say hello. Then they looked at each other for a second before Owen attacked him and mauled his face. My nephew went to the hospital, received over 20 stitches, and will have to have several plastic surgeries.
I took Owen back to the shelter we adopted from in the hopes he would be adopted by someone without children.
I miss him so much. I think about him inside some cold kennel waiting for me to come back and pick him up and love him again. I think about how, if he can't be adopted, he's just spent the last week of his life cold and alone and not knowing why i left him. I feel so guilty that i won't be there with him when he gets put down.
And every time I feel this way about my dog, I remember my nephew's little face covered in blood and i think what an awful person i am that I didn't take Owen back the first time he bit someone. I should have seen he dangerous. I should have made my home a safe place for my nephew.
I I feel like i betrayed my dog and I feel like I am betraying my nephew by mourning my dog.
I just miss him and i pray so hard that someone has fallen in love with him the way I did.
Registered: 1498611382 Posts: 580
Oh, your story just breaks my heart. I know your heart is shattered but please don't feel you are betraying you nephew by loving Owen. I do believe he would understand. I do pray that Owen can find another home but if he doesn't he will be happy at the Bridge where he will wait for you. When that day comes you'll never have to worry about Owen ever biting anyone because what ever was bothering him wasn't his fault. But at the Bridge all the bad things that Owen experienced won't exist. You did the right thing even though your heart is breaking. I know the guilt is tearing you up inside but please try to find comfort in knowing you tried, it just wasn't meant to be, not at this time.
Love and doggie hugs Termy's mom
Registered: 1515364627 Posts: 7
Wow. I am so sorry you and your family had to go through this. I also have a slightly aggressive dog that I considered rehoming at one time. I ended up keeping her, but the difference is that I do not have children around and I never allow her around children ever. She's 11 now and I've had her for the past 9 years. My brother recently had to return his dog of 6 years to the shelter because she bit his wife in the face and he was afraid for his newborn and toddler. Hopefully his dog and yours will get re-homed with a tolerant owner without children. This would be the best living arrangement for dogs that have behavioral problems and a bite history. You did the right thing. And Owen will remember you and the love that you had for him always.
Registered: 1491950348 Posts: 119
Please don't be so hard on yourself. The mere fact you are here shows that your heart is in the right place.