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drbones

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Hi all,
Today is Hank's one month bridge day.  4 weeks today, I lost my little man when he was hit by a truck.  Initially, it was shock, now I still find that I am not dealing well with his death.  I find I am more sad, and depressed, as I know now that it is a permanent thing for us.  His death has brought a bit of a pall over our household, and both my husband and I can hardly think of him without shedding a tear.  Today I saw some feral kittens trying to cross the road during a busy time, and shooed them back to their nest.  I told the owners of the home that if they could catch them, I would take them.  I knew Hankie might send me one; I hope it manifests.  Having some young blood around the place might make things a bit easier.  Not that I will ever forget him- I am just wondering if it may help ease the suffering that my heart feels to love.  I just don't know...
Thanks for listening,
Heather, Hank's forever mommy
basil

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Dear Heather
I am so sorry that you and your husband are still so sad.  It is so hard to get over such a shock.  You might find that having another baby to love will make you feel better, it did me.  Remember though, it will not be your little Hank, it will have its own sweet ways. 
You will always remember your Hank, as I always remember all of my babies, he will always have a special place in your heart.
I am thinking of you both, may you soon find peace, Much Love, Di xxx
WooWooWoo

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Dear Heather,

Just a quick note to let you know I am thinking of you and your husband as you grieve the loss of your precious Hankie.   I know you hearts are still broken.  Maybe Hankie will see to it that you find a little feral kitty in your home soon.   I know another kitty will NEVER replace Hankie, but I also feel you have so much love to give to another baby. 

HAPPY ONE MONTH BRIDGEDAY, SWEET BOY HANKIE.   YOUR MOM AND DAD MISS YOU SO.  PLEASE LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE OKAY AT THE BRIDGE!
 
Sending hugs and wishing you peace,
Melissa
Betsy's forever mom
Gruntsmomforever

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Dear Heather,

I'm thinking of you on Hankie's one month date at the Rainbow Bridge, and how much it hurts that he is gone.  My dear boy Grunt has been gone 9 weeks and a day and the ache is getting deeper and deeper.  I know how you feel, I felt the same too at one month.

Hugs,
Katharine, Grunt's Mom Forever
EmptyNow

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Happy Month Anniversary at the Rainbow Bridge Hank!

Heather - I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. 

Although I know that no other baby will replace your Hank, it might be a "blessing in disguise" that the feral kittens showed up. 

Love,

Piggy's Mom
Georgeann

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Dear Heather:
I am so sorry about your tragic loss of your Precious Hank.  The pain of their loss lasts Forever.  Christopher has been gone over 13 months and I still cry for him Every Day.  You and Hank are in my Prayers.

HAPPY BRIDGE DAY PRECIOUS HANK.  I HOPE YOU HAD A BEAUTIFUL DAY.  STAY SAFE FOR YOUR MOMMY UNTIL SHE ARRIVES.  IF YOU SEE CHRISTOPHER PLEASE TELL HIM I LOVE HIM.  MAY GOD'S ANGELS ALWAYS KEEP YOU SAFE.
 
Big Hugs
Georgeann and Christopher
Forever
Lee

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Hank Happy Bridge day Baby...Watch over your mom, she loves and misses you so much....Taichi's mom Lisa

dianae2002

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Dear Heather, I'm so sorry for the loss of your Hank one month ago. I also lost my little baby Jessie 6 weeks ago without expecting it. She was not sick or something so I completely did not expect that. It is so hard, you wished you could turn back time and change things... I still cry for my baby almost everyday.  I know she is fine but I miss her.

Happy One Month Bridge Day Hank, your mommy and daddy miss you so much, I hope you're having a nice time with your new friends at the Bridge...
 
Diana, Jessie's mom.
katebock

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Dear Heather

I am so sorry for the loss of Hank.  At one month, your pain is still so new.  I know I still felt intense sadness and heartbreak at that point in my grief.  A new kitty in your life can help ease the pain.  Hank will never be replaced, but each sweet little one has it's own personality and will find a special place in your heart.

Thinking of you,
Kate (Gus's mom)

drbones

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Thank you guys all so much.  I don't know how many books I have read on pet loss and bereavement, and I am not sure I am ready for a new kitty yet.   I am so scared that I am going to forget what his fur felt like, how he smelt, what his little toes would do, how he loved living so much.  I am just finding it difficult to cope, and my hubby too.  I just keep hoping that one will cross my path when the time is right.  Those little babies were just so young- I keep hoping that he gets the no kill rescue shelter to come and get them so that no harm would come to them.  I just went into panic mode when I saw them huddled in the middle of the road.  I had visions of Hank and his poor innocent life taken away too soon when I saw them, and helped them off the road.  I don't want the same fate for them.  Maybe fate will intervene and they may come to me, but if they don't, the right one will some day.  I just don't want to forget Hank and the memories that we had.  We were only together for 1 1/2 years- too soon to go.  I guess God had a plan...I am so glad for this board. 
Thank you from my heart,
Heather, Hankies forever mommy
plainjane

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heather, I hope you are doing alright. I am so sorry you lost Hank. I lost my Gizmo in the same way. I still think about him every day. When I open my back door every morning and see his grave I say good morning to him. Maybe Hank and Gizmo are buddies now and play everyday together at the bridge. Just keep in mind Hank is okay and is happy,he will see you again someday.
                           Love, hugs and peace, Gizmos mom
drbones

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Thanks for your kind words plainjane.  Tomorrow is 5 weeks, and I have decided to knit some afghans for the kitties at the no kill shelter. I burst into tears when I pulled out my needles and saw how Hankie had chewed the ends.  It is so tough, this grief.  Sometimes I am doing alright, and others, not so good.  This week has been tough- I don't really know why.  I thought I was starting to cope a bit better, but with my other kitty being sick right now, I am really missing Hankie.
I totally understand about saying good morning- Hanks picture is on my fridge and on my computer, and I kiss both pictures in the morning and at night before bed.

I am so sorry you had to lose Gizmo that way- it is truly terrible.  I really hope the two are frolicking about waiting for us some day.
Blessings,
Heather, Hankies forever mommy
WooWooWoo

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Dear Heather,

I know you are still having such a tough time so I wanted to let you know I am thinking about you.  I know today is Hankie's five week BridgeDay.  Tomorrow, Mother's Day, is my sweet Betsy's four month BridgeDay and I am already getting weepy. 

I am wishing you sweet memories of your Hankie boy on Mother's Day and always.

Hugs,
Melissa
Betsy's forever mom
drbones

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Thank you Melissa.
Today was hard, but not as hard as last week, when it was his one month bridge day.
I will be thinking of you tomorrow, and will say a little prayer for Betsy and her 4 month bridge day.
Heather, Hankies forever mommy
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