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On Monday June, 16 will mark a couple of very sad days for me. It will be 3 months to the day since Tigger died, and it will also mark her 17th birthday. I have noticed myself starting to get overwhelmed with sadness again as this day approaches. I'm actually in tears as i write this as we speak. The past several years on Tiggers Birthday I would always go and buy her some lobster, and that will be very difficult accept thing the fact she won't be here.
Since she died I have had a hard time going out back and visitng where I vurried her, but last night I went outside and sat down on the ground next to her and i talked to her and told her how much I missed her and what was happening in my life. I told her that on her Birthday I would do it again. Just when I think I'm starting to accept the loss I take a step back. I have rarely ever expereinced pain like this in my life. I lost not only a pet that day, but my best friend in the world. I'm going to do my best to hold it together because I know she would want that. Happy 17th Tigger, I love and miss you.
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Boy, I feel like I understand where you're coming from when you say that everytime you think you're moving forward, you become overwhelmed by sadness.
It was 7 months before I could go out in the back yard; Molly was cremated, but I took her out at least 6 or 7 times a day for potty and play for the last 3 years of her life.
Molly says HAPPY BIRTHDAY TIGGER!!!!!
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I am so very sorry for your loss. June 16 will be a very emotional day for you. Tigger's birthday and bridgeday. I hope you do celebrate her birthday. She would certainly want you to. She will be so proud if you have a little celebration of her life. I visit my beloved Mr. Meowgy every single night and it brings me such comfort. I talk to him, I sing to him and I tell him about my day. He passed on March 6 so it was just 3 months for me too. It really isn't that long so our pain and sorrow is so fresh.
Sing Happy Birthday to your baby, I really think it will help you feel better. Happy 17th Birthday darling Tigger! Invite my Mr. Meowgy to your party, he loves parties! Donna, Mr. Meowgy's mom
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I am so sorry that you are still grieving so deeply. It must be so hard, Tiggers birthday and bridge day too. Keep talking to her, you know that she is listening.
Thinking of you, and sending you much love. Di xxx
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I am so sorry you are hurting so badly, but I totally understand your pain. I just passed my little beloved Betsy's fifth month BridgeDay and it was really hard on me. Thank God, I had a little dream visit from her last night. She looked absolutely radiant, her fur almost pure white, running happily through a meadow just like she is a young dog again. Oh, it did my heart good.
I just had an idea for you. Since you and Tigger always celebrated her birthday with lobster, why don't you buy some lobster, light a candle, and take it out to her grave on her birthday. You can sing Happy Birthday to her and eat the lobster in her honor. Oh, she would SO LOVE THAT, don't you know? The other night we had Betsy's favorite roasted chicken in her honor. HAPPY 17TH BIRTHDAY, SWEET TIGGER!! YOUR DADDY MISSES AND LOVES YOU SO. PLEASE COME VISIT HIM IN A DREAM OR LET YOUR SPIRIT SURROUND HIM WITH LOVE ON YOUR BIRTHDAY! Melissa Hugs, Betsy's forever loving mom
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I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved Tiger. I know June 16th will be an extremely difficult day for you and I certainly understand the one step forward two steps back thing. I am hoping that you will go easy on yourself and do something that will be good for you on that day. Your Tiger's birthday is something to remember and celebrate. I'm sure as the day grows closer you will experience some grief but I am hoping that you will be also able to experience the love you shared and be comforted in that. I too am dreading an upcoming birthday and I understand the heartache but I can only imagin adding to that the 3 month anniversary. My heart goes out to you and I share your pain with you. Don't forget that you have a family here with everyone who understands what you are feeling and are here to help you get through the day, hour or sometimes even the minute. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TIGER, your daddy loves and misses you very much.
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I know how hard a double anniversary hits...I just had one May 6..my Cicio's birthday and 6 months anniversary of passing. Me too..on her birthday she was given her favorite tuna.
Your loss is a huge one and as you said Tigger was your best friend. It's going to take some time. On her special birthday...toast her life and the fact that she was born during your lifetime. She'll know and will be with you.
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Thank you everyone for your kind words and wishes. You helped make what will be a very difficult day for me a little easier.
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Dear Aaron – As if these passages weren’t hard enough, to have 2 such important events on the same day . . . well, I can well understand your grief. I think Betsy’s Mom, had a wonderful idea – sit with your Tigger and have a special meal of lobster – I imagine it would make her very happy, and perhaps bring some much needed warmth to your heart as well. Dear Tigger, you are so very missed and loved, and you are being thought of in an extra special way today, your birthday and your bridge day. Stay safe and happy. Please know you’re in my thoughts. Rusty’s Mom – Allison.
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My Tigger's Bridgeday anniversary is June 21st.
I miss him so very much. He was a huge part of me life for 18 years (I raised him from a baby). We had a special bond. I know he is at rest and waiting for me. We had time to say goodbye for he left. I've been struggling with the loss of my bunny just 4 months ago--he died suddenly. Cats are such pateint and observant creatures. I know my Tigger is waiting and watching me and wanting to comfort me as he always did. Blessings and peace to you, Bunnyhugger Charla
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Today's weather really put a damper on things. It has rained hard here all day, but this evening for a few minutes I went out back to Tiggers grave and talked to her and wished her a happy b-day and told her all the stuff going on in my life and of course told her how much she is missed and that I hoped she was happy and safe.