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I have a 7 year old beautiful little hemmingway cat that is in the final stages of CRF.  I have been treating her with fluids, meds, etc for the past five months, but the CRF is beating my efforts.  I feel the time is close to put her to sleep.  I am so confused though as sometimes I can hold her and she will purr and cuddle with me.  Other times she is so disturbed looking though.  I have to feed her with a syringe, she has lost so much weight and wets herself.  How long do I let this go?  I am afraid to do it tomorrow or Friday as that feels too soon.  Also, I have no family in town to help support or comfort me.  However the weekend will drag on and it feels like a death sentence knowing I will need to do this next week.  I am so sad, torn and conflicted. 


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Making the decision to help your pet to the bridge is so painful especially when they have a good day now and then.  For many of us, our pets give us a look that says they have endured enough suffering and are ready for the next step.  I am so sorry you're going through this.  Your little girl isn't very old either and that makes it so difficult.  I pray that her journey is peaceful.  Your petloss family is here for you, Elizabeth.

precious Christoph ~ 2 years at the bridge ~


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We'll be here for you, waiting to comfort and console when you need it.  I have never had to make that decision but the majority of the people on here have, and whenever I read their stories it's very clear that having a little one pts is the most gut-wrenching thing,  but it's also the most merciful. 


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Oh my goodness, how I can relate to your situation. 
My husband and I were in the same place last June with our Beagle, Bonnie Lou.  We had her for 13 years and she was like our own daughter.
She had congestive heart failure and we could see her decline almost daily.  I used to pray that God would take her in her sleep so that we would not have to make that decision.  However, it was not to be. 
We had gone to our grandson's high school graduation and we were gone all day long going to the ceremony and then the celebration afterwards.  When we got home Bonnie was in very worse shape than she had been when we left.
The next day I called the vet and told them that we needed to talk about Bonnie.  They told me to bring her in that afternoon at 4 p.m.  My husband looked at me and said "Well, that was a quick decision", when actually it was in the making for a few weeks.

Bonnie was suffering greatly. We were suffering along with her because it hurts so to see our pets suffering and the confusion in their sweet little faces.

We took her to the vet that day and came home without her.  It was the most incredibly saddest day of our lives.  I felt guilty for making the phone call and setting it up and then I felt guilty for making Bonnie suffer as long as we did.

It is a horrible decision to make.  I finally made the decision to not let Bonnie suffer anymore.  As hard as the decision was to make, I know that it was the thing to do for Bonnie.

We had her cremated.  I have her ashes in a box here in the computer room.  We will never, ever forget our sweet Bonnie.  You will know when to make that phone call.

I will keep you in my prayers.


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Thank you all.  It is so hard to think of losing her at 7 yrs of cruel to be taken so young...


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I am in the same place as you are with my 10 year old newfie today. After a rewarding day amongst dear friends, I come home and again, sad, look at our beloved Sadie and wonder how to make the right decision.

I've put down (man, I hate that phrase) sixteen pets, all under differing circumstances, old, young, ill, seemingly-recovering. And yet I still come here for support, hugs.

And if there's one thing I've learned from these forums, it is that you need to trust yourself, your heart, your instinct for you were entrusted by this tiny feline to care for her for life. It's a terrible responsibility, but when you peer into her cat eyes, you will know when and if it's time to help her to peace. As sad as it is, in the weeks or months afterwards (keep on here, for these folks help for we've all traveled this path) the grief will subside and you'll find your Hemmingway by your side in other ways.  - connie
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