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johnv

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I lost my 15 year old silky terrier 2 days ago and I cant stop crying and feeling sick to my stomach

Marlow_Cat_1

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Dear Johny.....i am deeply sadden by your loss.  The grief and pain of losing a beloved family member can be crushing.  We often grieve more deeply for our pets than when we lose a human relation.  The pet to human connection can be so strong and beautiful.  So we are here with you in your grief and sorrow.  It does ease with time but we never lose the connection of the love and sorrow.  Please keep posting here.
johnv

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thank you for your kind words. My heart is so heavy and broken. I am trying to punch through the grief and function. It is only 72 hours but the sadness is gripping. I started grief counseling yesterday. Intellectually I know the pain will ease but emotionally it feels like it will never end.
Marlow_Cat_1

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You're very welcome.  It's great that you have started grief counseling.   Hopefully the therapist is skilled with dealing with the loss of a pet.  Often people and even therapists don't understand how deep a loss this.  My circle of friends were of almost no support.  I was of a little support until i went through this myself.  grief is not only made up of the emotions but you can have a lot of physical effects as well.

The grief, however overwhelming and painful, is a natural considering your loss.  I suggest you mourn and let it out since there is probably no other choice anyway.  It eases up with time.  There are some other things you might find helpful like talking to your counselor, family and friends if they are responsive.  the aplb.com has a great online chat.  you can also have a memorial for terrier.  write a letter to your terrier and/or have your terrier write you.  make a memories box.  make a journal.  it probably doesn't help, but i feel sad now too.  i believe the sadness is a part of the fabric humanity......the greater the love, the greater the grief.  may be light a candle.  honour your beautiful terrier and please take care of yourself.  MC
johnv

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Thank you Marlow you are an angel and your words are very comforting. I guess there’s no shortcuts to the grieving process but I miss him so badly and I am devastated because he went so quickly. One day he was on my lap the next day he had four progressively violent seizures and then he was gone. I guess I will just let the tears flow and continue my grief counseling. And yes, ironically she has a grief counselor whose husband is a veterinarian and she is very skilled at pet loss . God it hurts so bad. Again, bless you
Marlow_Cat_1

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Dear Johny....thank you.  you are quite right, there is no short cuts and you probably have to let your emotions flow short of having a complete breakdown.  buried feelings will have to be dealt with at some time.  i am so happy you have found a wonderful counselor especially so early.  geez, the shock of losing your terrier from the seizures is just horrible.  i am so very sorry.  right now that horrible event is having the most impact on you life, but, in time, the joy and beauty of your relationship and love over the 15 years will rise up.  please keep healing.  please keep taking care of yourself.  if you believe in heaven......then there must be a place for our beloved pets and there will be a beautiful reunion one day.  bless you and your wonderful terrier.  MC
johnv

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Marlow your words are very soothing god bless you
taypee

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hi johnv,

i had to suddenly put down my best friend, oakley, almost 2 weeks ago now.. the pain i felt was nothing ive ever experienced before, i can understand completely where you are coming from.  i am still lost and heart broken without him, i miss him SO much. coming home and not seeing him there waiting for me is the hardest thing, i can promise .. it will get easier. my love for oakley is still as strong as ever, it will never go away... i cried A LOT . that was my main way to grieve and release some of the pain.   talking through it is good, it was very hard for me at first but as time passes it gets easier for me to talk about him and what happened... even though at times i will still break down and cry, but thats ok, its healthy. i hope your heart is able to heal over time and you are able to remember all the good times you had with him, remember that you were his whole entire life, give yourself time to grieve. i am thinking of you. 
johnv

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Taypee I am so sorry about the loss of your beloved Oakley. He sounds like he was a precious dog. And I am sorry for the heartbreak that you have gone through. I want to thank you very much for taking the time to share your experience about dealing with grief it really means a lot to know that the overwhelming gut wrenching grief will become tolerable. Luke will always have a special place in my heart I miss him so much but he had a full life. I even looked up the lifespan of a silky terrier today and everywhere I read said 12 to 15 or 11 to 14. Since he passed a few weeks short of his 15th birthday I guess he lived as long as it was meant to be. In that respect he had a full life and also very much loved. God bless you and God bless Oakley
johnv

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Taypee thank you for reaching out to me. I am so sorry about the loss of your beloved Oakley. He sounds like he was quite a dog. I’m sorry for your heart ache and your grief. It is good to know that these got wrenching feelings will pass someday. Luke lived a full long life. I even looked up the average lifespan of a silky terrier and it was either 11 to 14, 12 to 15, he passed a few weeks short of his 15th birthday so I guess his time was up. For some reason I thought he was going to live forever, LOL. I think the suddenness was part of the devastation Even though he had been having one seizure a month for the past four months. Any case I know we did the right thing and he didn’t suffer long. God bless you for taking the time to reach out and consoled me you’re a special person Oakley was a lucky dog
taypee

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I completely understand Johnv, Oakley also lived much longer than your average great pyrenees, he would have turned 12 this November 11th. I wish they could live forever, you are not alone there. hang in there 😉 
lindsayg79

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Hello everyone... I have never attempted to join a group, this is somewhat new to me. The loss of my dog, Ash , a mixed chihuahua.. has left me torn and heartbroken. Ash was attacked by two bigger dogs and passed last Sunday, November 3rd. Guilt, confusion, and the what if have been killing me. I miss him like I never imagined I could miss anyone or anything... I cry like a baby ... I feel like I want to scream .. call his name ... my heart aches.. and feel like I can’t catch my breath. He was my little boy - he was my baby - I loved him and I know he loved me too. Since his passing, when I get home from work I can’t walk right in the house. I linger outside until dark - I dnt know if I subconsciously think I will see him again. It hurts like you wouldn’t believe me... I wouldn’t have ever thought about creating an account, but I need help - I feel like I can’t deal with his loss- I cry , cry, and cry...
johnv

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Dear Lindsay,
What a devastating loss. I am so sorry. I suggest that You seek grief counseling to help you keep it together. The loss of Ash under these circumstances is so heart breaking. Keep posting let us try to help you through this. Virtual hugs to you, may God bless Ash and help you to somehow get through this.
lindsayg79

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johnv,
Thank you for your kind words... I know you are going through a difficult time as well, and you are not alone. I’m sorry about Luke. My neighbor too, lost her dog. She’’d had him for 14 years .. She told me she couldn’t walk to her backyard in months... You mentioned in a previous post that you know the pain will ease, I agree. As an adult, I understand we can’t go back and change things... I know It will get better , and although our time on earth is precious and God willing I can finish my mission in this world , the day I go to heaven I hope I can see Ash and call him , my little baby boy again-
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