Registered: 1587480560 Posts: 3
I don't know exactly what I'm doing on here or how this works but I'm going to try this out I guess. I'm probably doing this wrong but I don't really care.
My cat, Rocky, had to be put down two weeks ago. He had been struggling for over a month with bladder issues, and the first time we took him to the vet, they said that these issues were common among male cats, so we didn't worry. They fixed the problem within a week. However, maybe two weeks later, he got sick again. We took him back, and they fixed him again. We were starting to get a bit worried because this kept happening, but we still thought nothing major was happening. Until the forth time he got sick. He could barely move. My parents called the vet that night, and we took him in that morning. Turns out he wouldn't make it. We learned that he was born with a birth defect that only recently showed up. They told us that we could try surgery, but there was only a 10% chance it would work, and it might put him in more pain. My parents agreed that we shouldn't keep him in pain, and it was time to let go. I cried the whole time. I think the worst part was watching the vet feel his heartbeat, and then say "He's gone." He was only four years old, he had at least 10 more good years in him. He was my best friend. It's been two weeks and I still can't stop crying and breaking down when I think of him. Does anybody know how long it takes to get over the worst of this? I'm tired and I miss him with all my heart. If you have been in a similar situation, I'm praying for you.
Registered: 1585552119 Posts: 3
First of all, I’m so so sorry for your loss. I’m in a similar situation. I had to put my kitten down at the end of March and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. It hurt so bad for a while. I couldn’t stop crying for a week. And the nights were the worst parts. I promise that it does get better though, truly. It might take a while, and I’ve learned that no matter how long it takes you, you take as much time as you need to grieve. When I posted I didn’t really know what I was doing either, but the comments I got helped me so much. Everyone in here really does understand and know what to say.
It’s still really hard for me. (I actually am waiting for one of my posts to be approved right now) but it does get better. Slowly, but it does. One day the pain just kind of gets better. I have no advice except for not pushing it away. Just feel it all and go through all of the motions. It’s normal and okay. And I promise it will get better.
Registered: 1587700660 Posts: 2
I am so so sorry, so young and it’s something out of your control is the worst feeling ever. I lost my 3 year old a week ago and I’m completely devastated. The mornings and nights are the worst, I just feel so broken because it all came out of nowhere. I try to find peace in knowing the years I had with him were great and we have so many great memories. I think if you can just know that you gave him the best 4 years of his life and even though he’s not physically here with you, he will always be with you in spirit. From my experience, I’ve lost 2 dogs before and I’ve found that as time goes on, you’ll get into a new routine and things will start to get better. Little things will remind you of him and as much as it hurts, you will get through this, it just takes time. I don’t know if this would be helpful but I put flowers in places of my apartment where my cat used to love like the window and an area where we kept his toy bin, it has helped me to try and find some kind of comfort as hard as it is. Take care and I promise, it will get better, it just takes time as hard as that is to hear.