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Prisa911

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I got my pit when he was 4 weeks old. He was my family. Long story short....a few days ago he bit my 8 year old in the face which required an ER visit, stitching and lots of pain. When I got the call, my heart felt so broken because I knew I had no choice but to give my dog up. He was never overly aggressive but at times a bit unpredictable which gave us all some scratches or slight puncture wounds but never ever to the severity of the other day. I spent so much money in training and also spent hours at home training him and I thought things were better. When I took him to surrender him he turned so aggressive and the folks there said he was not adoptable. My son is the love of my life and I am so grateful he is ok and getting better BUT I am grieving over my dog. Noone understands. They feel my sons safety is my only priority and of course it is but I loved Chance. I miss him terribly and cant stop crying. I am mourning him and cant help it. I have so many mixed feelings. Yes I am glad my son is ok, it couldve been worse but it doesnt male me a bad mom because I also miss my dog. I dont think he did it on purpose. I think he went to grab food my son was eating. However, he caused enough damage that keeping him just wasnt safe for my son. I came on here to write because noone understands and if there is anything someone can say to help me get through this, it would be so helpful. I feel so sad and so alone. People think its crazy but losing a pet is so painful. I just dont know how to handle this pain in my heart.
Nefret999

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Don't feel alone. There are so many on this board who know exactly what youre going through. You had to make a terrible decision, but it was the right one. Dogs can turn at any time, for no reason, and the next attack may have been even worse. However, that does not diminish your anguish over this loss. And yes, it is a loss. You had to lose him to keep others safe. Such a terrible choice to have to make. I am so sorry.

I offer you my deepest condolences, and I hope you find it in your heart to forgive yourself for the decision. You had to do it. But that doesn't make it any easier. And we here on this board understand.
Prisa911

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I just read your reply and it brought me to tears. I needed to hear this. Im mourning and have to pretend im ok for my son and for those who think I am ridiculous for suffering over this. Thank you so much for this and taking a minute to reply. Its so comforting to know someone understands. Thank you.
Nefret999

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This board has helped me so much in the aftermath of my loss. It is my honor to try and help others as much as I can, also. I have to give back what I have been given here because it is precious.

I know it's a small thing, these words on our screens, but they are such a balm to us when we feel like no one understands. There are a few other topics on the board that reflect almost your exact situation. You should read them to see that you are definitely not alone.

Use this place as your outlet when you feel you need to. We are here for you. I am here for you. I'm hoping for your healing.
twinkiesmom

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Losing a pet for any reason is indeed painful. You loved Chance, he was family. Nothing is as painful as losing one we love, no matter the circumstances. I am so sorry for your pain, I went through the same thing many years ago. As Nefret said, we are all here for you, to offer comfort and support. Please take care.

With deepest sympathy,
Marsha

akitasenshismom

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I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. First of all, I’m glad your son is ok and continues to get better.

I have to say I completely understand what you’re going through. I haven’t shared my story here yet because even after a month of grieving I can’t write about it in detail. It’s too painful. The short version is we had to put our beloved 19 month old Akita to sleep on March 13th due to aggression. This was the hardest and most devastating decision I’ve ever had to make. We raised our dog Senshi from a 2 month old pup and he and my son were very close, but during his last couple of months he became increasingly aggressive. First he bit my brother over a food fight with my brother’s dog. Then he bit my son’s friend who was sleeping over, again over food being taken from him. Then he bit my son on the hand twice. Both times were completely unprovoked (I was present). Then he bit an elderly gentleman at our place of business (my husband had been taking Senshi to work with him every day since we got him). The man was trying to pet him and Senshi bit him, again unprovoked.  The worst attack happened 5 days before we chose to put him to sleep. He was outside our business with my husband and he lunged and jumped on a woman and bit her forearm. He had known the woman since he we got him. The bite was so bad she had to go to the ER and get stitches. Animal control and the hospital ruled it a level 4 bite (this was actually his 2nd level 4 bite). After that he had to be quarantined at our house for 10 days. During the next 4 days he tried to bite a stranger in our home and then my father in law who he knows well. Again, all completely unprovoked. When I tried to take him to the vet she had to bring in 2 vet techs plus me to hold him down and muzzle him. Then we still couldn’t get an exam. He went crazy with aggression trying to bite and lunge at everyone in the room, including me. It was heartbreaking, but that was the moment I knew what I had been denying; we had to put him to sleep. It broke my heart because he was like a son in many ways to me. Everyone basically told me I would be a horrible mom if I continued to let the dog live in our home and we could not in good conscience give him to anyone and no rescue will take an aggressive dog. At that point he was growling at my son every time he touched him. He only did this to my son, which really worried me. I felt like my son was next for another major bite or attack.

It breaks my heart to hear your story because I know what you’re going through. It’s impossible to explain this to people that haven’t been through it. I was tempted to run away with my dog at one point. That’s how much I loved him and wanted to save him.

I learned a bitter lesson from our experience: some things in life are beyond our control and you’re often left with no other option than the one that will break your heart. I never knew doing “the right thing” could be so gut-wrenching and devastating.

I hope you and your son are coping with this situation as best you can. You’re in my thoughts.

Prisa911

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Thank you both for your support. This really does make a big difference. I dont feel as crazy as people have made me feel for feeling this way. You guys get it and its comforting. I am counting down the days until the 10th day is up and I keep praying for a miracle. I received 2 calls asking if I want him back which makes it so much harder for me. Yes I want him back but I cant!
I will continue reading other posts as you suggested to help me through this.
Prisa911

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Akitasenshismom,
I want to thank you for being brave and sharing your story. We are not alone. We are not crazy. We are not bad moms to our children nor to our pet family. Your story hit home in so many ways. I even thought about bringing him back too but I can risk my son's well being. I am so sorry you are going through this too and I send your a virtual hug. The level of love and understanding on here has been amazing and to be able to grieve and share our heartbreak to people who understand really helps. Reading your story has helped me see that we really did give many chances, probably more than we should have but we did it because we love them and held onto hope that things will get better. Sadly our love for our pets also became a huge risk for us, our friends and our family. Despite how some may perceive us, we had a really tough choice to make and with that decision came heartbreak and a piece of is that we will never get back. I pray for you, me and everyone else on here that is going through this situation. It really is devastating but one thing I know for sure is that we were selfless and loving and like you said some things are just out of our control no matter how much we tried to fix it. Be strong and thank you again for sharing your story.
Prisa911

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Twinkiesmom thank you for the lovely note and good wishes ♡♡♡♡
Sladelsol

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Thank you for sharing your story. I know how you feel. This morning I had to surrender my small Chihuahua mix, baby, to the shelter. I had him for 3 years and he was/is devoted to me and very gentle. However, he would nip at strangers and lately became aggressive with my elderly handicapped mom. He didn't actually bite her, but he started snarling at her more and more. Last week while I was away he did bite/nip the dog walker. I don't know why, or even who to believe. I'm devastated. I tried revoking him but no one would take him. I know your heart is broken just as mine is, and it is hard to feel like you are sacrificing one family member for another. Hugs.
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