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Savetherainforest22

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I don’t even know how to begin to describe how I’m feeling right now. A few hours ago, I just lost my 12 year old shih tzu unexpectedly to a heart attack. I wasn’t there when she passed- I was away at college. I’ve had her since I was 7, and I loved her so much. She was the first animal I loved. I’m in shock and devastated... where do I go from here?
Loz

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Firstly I am so very sorry for the sudden loss of your beloved dog.
 Having had a similar experience on New years eve I know how you will be feeling. You will be in total shock and not know if you are coming or going.
It may well be a difficult time and all I can say is that its a process you ( unfortunately ) have to go through. For me I have found comfort from people on this forum.
I wish you peace.
Savetherainforest22

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Thank you- I appreciate your words and understanding. I am also sorry for your loss. How long did it take for you to start feeling close to normal(at least functional) again?
Elliesmum

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I’m so sorry you lost your beloved dog. I lost mine last week. He was a corgi and had a degenerative disease for last 21 months. Even though I was “prepared”, I was not.

Ten days later, I can see I have a long road ahead of me. I’ve read some good online articles which have helped. I’ve cried, I’ve talked with friends who are like minded about animals, I did an online candle lighting on Monday evening with Rainbow Bridge Grieving forum ( I think what it’s called), next week I’m planning on going to a support group meeting.

I loved my Ellie with all my heart. I’m passed the shock stage (which I think you’re in now), but it hurts so much.

I think if you reach out, as you did here, you will find a lot of people will have an incredible amount of empathy for what you’re going through.

I’m truly sorry for your loss. I hope you find a good ear to listen to you, and a big shoulder to cry on.
Savetherainforest22

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Thank you all for your words. It helps so much to know that I'm not alone, even though I might feel it. I'm starting to leave the shock phase, but I'm still very much in it. Now I just feel empty, like something inside me is missing. I weep at unexplainable, random times.
Loz

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The grieving process is different for everyone and no time scale can be put on it.  For me I was in total shock for about a month and having panic/anxiety attacks. They were so bad that I've had to go on some medication. Then that lead to a sort of fog and numbness. I'm now in a depressed state where I miss Berry SO much its unbearable! We shared a very special bond and my life is so empty without her. I don't find any joy in the things I used to like walking , swimming my exercise classes and my job, life is just basically going through the motions. 
Like I said its different for everyone, I only hope you get back to a normal life sooner than I have because I feel I'm going through a living death without Berry.   
Elliesmum

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Weep away. I find it oddly comforting afterward. The grief you feel represents the love you have for your beloved dog. It will get better for us, it will just take time.
Savetherainforest22

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Thank you both Loz and Ellie for your stories. I take a bit of comfort in talking with people who share similar experiences. Relief, no matter how small, is precious to me these days. It's now been 2 days since I lost her, and I still feel empty and a deep sadness without her. Its strange and horrible to walk down the stairs and not see her lying there at the bottom, to walk into the living room and not see her on the carpet snoozing. But like everything else in my life, I know it will get better and I will adjust. Things will go back to normal soon, I just have to ride out this wave until its over. For both of you, have you considered fostering another pet until you're ready to find a new forever friend? Nothing will ever take the place of your pals, but caring for something warm and furry and being around animals could help ease the transition to life without your pet.
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