Registered: 1512079183 Posts: 3
I have a 8 year old Boxer that has been diagnosed with cancer and given days to maybe a week to live. I am consumed with the fact that I am loosing her and I cry most of the day. I have dreaded this day since she was a 10 week old pup. Any suggestions with trying to prepare myself for the day? I have been trying to spend as much time as possible with her and help her to relive her glory days (seeing old playmates, eating the food that she really shouldn't have had)
I have a million emotions. I question could I have done something differently or sooner, Is she in pain, why is she acting normal at times, and so lethargic at others, How will I know when the time has come?
Registered: 1498611382 Posts: 580
Dear doggie mom,
I am sorry for your upcoming loss. I wish there were magical words to say to you but sadly there isn't. All you can do is what you are doing, loving her and enjoying her to the fullest. Cancer is a monster that steals the ones we love. You can never prepare for what is to come. It will tear your heart to pieces. When we give our hearts to a Fur Baby, we all know that this day will come but we go on each day as always until>>>>. I am sure you didn't dwell on this day since she was 10 weeks old, that you gave her love and attention each and everyday of her your life. Cherish all that you've shared with her. Enjoy her good days and spoil her as you are doing. On her down days just comfort her and be there to look into her eyes and see the love. She will let you know when she is ready, they all do. There is nothing you could have done differently because cancer is a silent monster. If she is in pain you will know because your heart will tell you. Hold her tight and do special things with her each and every minuet of everyday. This will help and someday you can look back and see the wonderful memories that you and she created, TOGETHER. My Termy lost his fight with old age and I had to make the decision to let him go, but he told me in subtle ways that he was tired and ready to go. No matter how much time you have, it is never enough. Sending you love and doggie hugs Termy's mom
Registered: 1511964095 Posts: 3
So very sorry to hear about your loved one. It's not easy losing your best friend. Love on her all you can while you have this precious time with her. We lost our 10 year old Yorki suddenly this past Monday night. It's not easy. I'm a 50 year old man and I have cried for three straight days now. This was my first pet death and I thought I would be able to handle it better than I have but so far it's only gotten worse each and every day. in a way I kind of wish I had a weeks notice before he passed away so I could tell him how much I love him before he left me. I only had time to hold him and tell him I love him after he passed. I hope he heard me. He collapsed and died right in front of me It was aweful. I'd give anything to have 5 minutes with him. maybe the time you have left you can spend those precious moments with her and maybe it will give you peace of mind later that you did have a chance to show your love up until she needed you the most. I truly hate it for you. I know our home will never be the same again.
Registered: 1512008391 Posts: 5
I'm so sorry. I lost my 13 year old collie cross last week and I had him from when he was a 9 week old pup. I don't think anything can prepare you. I thought I was taking mine to the vet for a simple urine infection which turned out to be a stomach bleed. I got to hold him and cry with him in the car for about an hour and while they did it. I sometimes wonder if it would have been better if I'd known a week before, 'prepared' myself, I don't know. The only thing I can suggest is that you be with him when the time comes, it is heart wrenching but they need us in that moment. I felt like my whole world was just gone. Its been over a week and i still dont feel any different, maybe even worse. Just hold him, cuddle him, love him. Im so sorry.
Registered: 1237261022 Posts: 34
I am so sorry for you. A few years ago I was given the devastating news that my Black Lab Mix had bone cancer and only a few weeks to live. Nothing can prepare you for this. The only advise I can give you is to spend as much time with her as you can. Love her, spoil her and make many happy memories with her. Honestly, when the time has come I believe she will let you know. My heart breaks for you.
Registered: 1503009956 Posts: 158
Just as Amaria said, I also
don't think anything can prepare you for the worse! I am sorry to hear you both have to go through this heart wrenching pain! My boxer boy also had cancer and vets gave him 2-6 month to live. He stayed around for 11 month. Have you had a second opinion? Not sure what I could say or suggest that would help in anyway. I wish I was more stronger for my baby boy on his last days with us. I wish I could've been more emotionally together to say goodbye. Wish I could've tell him not to be scared and it's ok for him to go when he is ready. I couldn't do all this. I spent those days by his side, but I didn't know what to do. I wasn't strong emotionally and I was scared so much. I couldn't show up at the vet when he was put to sleep. I'm saying all these so maybe it could help you to be there for your baby completely, tell her how much she means to you, but most likely she already knows that. Just like everyone suggested, give her as much love as you can. I wish I could ease this pain, but I'd say it's impossible. Wish you both luck and miracle for healing!
Registered: 1512352008 Posts: 3
I’m so sorry. Keep loving her like crazy. Nothing can really prepare you:( It’s just hard. She was blessed to have you as her mom and you gave her a great life.
Registered: 1512079183 Posts: 3
My beautiful girl was put to rest today. It's killing me inside but I know she's no longer suffering
Registered: 1512838065 Posts: 1
I'm so sorry. My boy had cancer in his mouth that eventually went to his brain. He died Wed.
I'm devastated. The best advice I can give you besides what others say is take pictures and videos of the little things. The videos are best.