Registered: 1551919495 Posts: 7
I’m now facing life without my beloved Oreo for the first time in 12 years. She passed away 13 days ago now, suddenly and without warning. My family is taking this harder than I thought they would, and it only increases my pain to see them hurting. I have two younger brothers, both over 10 years old (old enough to understand everything) and they are talking about her. My mom was way closer to her than I could’ve ever imagined, and she’s been grieving herself, too. Even my dad, the one person in our family who put down the firm NO PETS rule before Oreo came into our lives, admitted that he missed her and loved her. How am I supposed to go back to school and my busy routine tomorrow when my life has been turned upside down? And how do I manage my own pain if I can’t stand seeing my family’s? Please, any advice is greatly welcomed.
Registered: 1539391042 Posts: 43
I threw myself into my work. I needed something to refocus on every time my mind started to wander into that huge maze of guilt and grief and loss. I found the hardest puzzle to work on that I could, and consciously redirected my mind to it as much as I could. It didn't work 100%, of course, but it was very helpful; it allowed me to fall back asleep when I woke up in the middle of the night.
And I gave myself a little space to mourn, withdrawing from other people a little bit. Still, I found that it was useful to talk with my friends and the people I care about about completely different topics. Like my puzzle, it pulled me out of myself. I live alone, so there was no one else's grief that I had to deal with, and no one else who could comfort me. But perhaps you and your family could be of comfort to each other. You still have someone you need to take care of.
Registered: 1553203304 Posts: 19
I feel so bad for both of you. I’m so sorry. I don’t know how to help or what to say except pray for all of us. I lost my dog Buck yesterday and I can’t imagine living without him. I’m so sad. I can’t stop crying either.