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Lilyflower234

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I lost my boxer lily on December 1st last year. She was only 3 and had a heart attack. The vets whisked her off to another room and she died without her people with strangers, I still feel devastated I have two other dogs who I love but am struggling to move on.
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It's different for all of us, and for each loss it is different.

I found the first year after losing Tuffy particularly difficult.  Was no longer breaking down and sobbing after the first few months, but it was not usual to find myself crying and missing him.  

Especially at certain times, or when doing some activities.  Walking where we used to walk. Or visiting the in-laws out of town, where he would be my bed buddy.  

5 1/2 years later I still miss him, just as I miss Toby who left 4 1/2 years ago.  Mainly smiles these days in memory of them, but there are still times I miss them  more than others and the tears come.

Be kind to yourself and don't set a timetable.  The price of love is grief.

Hugs.
Lilyflower234

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Thank you no one really understands apart from my one friend who has dogs. Everyone else thought I'd be over it in a few weeks. I've just moved house and it's bought up new feelings I'm so scared I've left her behind even though I have bought her ashes and sleep with her little pink jumper under my pillow. I've been dreaming about her a lot this week I know it's not real it's heartbreaking.
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People here do understand.  I am glad you found this refuge, just as I am glad I found it in my time of need.

Folks are sympathetic at first, and empathetic.  But yes, they are surprised when the grief and your need to talk about your departed love continue on for weeks, months and years.  

I had many dreams of Tuffy when he first left.  Still have a dream with him, or him and Toby once in a while.  I thought of them as visits.    Maybe thinking of them this way can bring you comfort in the future.  

Take care.  Tell us about Lily.  Or perhaps write to Lily.  Many of us find it therapeutic to write to our departed.  Remembering good times, "talking" to them.





Lilyflower234

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Thank you so much for your kind words I like to think they are visits.

Lily came to live with us when she was 6 months old she instantly became best friends with Sox my older boxer. Lily loved to be out running or playing with her ball.

She would tell me off if I didn't take her out or get stroppy and stick her teeth out. We went out every morning for miles.

She hated being on her own so came everywhere with me. Sox looked after her and loved her to bits. At night she would rest her chin on the bed until you picked her up and put her in.

She was always so healthy then one day she collapsed by the river. By the time we got her to the vets she was fine. They listened to her heart and said she was fine. I took her to a cardiologist who listened to her heart and said it sounded healthy but ordered a holter and ECG incase. She didn't make it the next day she had a heart attack. She was 3.
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