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Pawprince

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My beloved dog, Arby was given a terminal diagnosis in December.
We have learned to manage this at home; to where my dog is comfortable.
Though he shows signs of 'slowing down', my dog still has quality of life & a strong will to live.

When I'm away, he can move about the house as he pleases - he can sleep in his bed, drink water, and pee on the 'potty pad', if needed- the designated place stays consistent.

I have always really enjoyed being in the presence of my beloved friend. Now since learning of his condition, I am having such a problem pulling myself away ... even to go to work.

I need to work. I need to contribute to the household financially. Since his late stage kidney disease diagnosis, I am working the absolute minimum possible... probably less than I should.

I just can't pull myself away. Reason being that I love and adore this dog so much that I want to have every moment I can possibly have with him! Also, don't ever want him to feel alone! Especially when his health is not good Scared for he and I both.  I'm worried about my mental health and frailty.

When I do go into work -- I feel anxious and irritable. Like: 'is this WORTH being away from my baby?!'

Can anyone suggest what I can do? Grieving ahead - anticipating the loss - want to hold on as much as I can, because I know our time together is drawing to a close. I love this dog.

My family isn't supportive. Can you help me please?

grievingmom

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Your feelings and reaction are perfectly normal. There is nothing to "fix" with you as there is nothing wrong with you.

If you can financially pull this off, spend as much time with your dog as possible.

Figure out ways to cut expenses. Maybe downgrade on cable TV, check your car insurance and see if you can bring down the premium, all sorts of little ways. Start using foodbanks to get food and so on.

Good luck. What is happening to you is what it feels like to be in someone in your shoes.

Things are unfolding as they should. (Not as you want). As they "should" meaning...this is what can happen in life. Exactly what you are going through.

Take care. Peace and love.
nreale

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I am so sorry to hear about your pup. I just lost my dog, Casper, to kidney disease yesterday. I knew he was getting sicker and what we had to do and the anxiety leading up to it was unbearable. I couldn’t stop crying and holding him. It’s almost as bad as the actual loss. You should take as much time with your pup as much as you can. Make the most of every moment. My heart is broken and I would do anything now to have another minute with Casper.
Dawn1118

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Pawprince....i can't believe no one has responded to you...I was dealing with the same thing as you.  My 16 yr old yorkie Mocha got kidney disease but buy the time i found out it was too far along.  I did everything I could for to try and help her but she eventually just stopped eating.  4 days without eating and in those 4 days i never left her side.  I finally had to make that decision because I was afraid she was  going to starve to death even though she wasn't in any pain.  You are so blessed to still have her with you.  I am dealing with tremendous grief.  Today is the 10th day and I'm still struggling.  Let me just say, it is not going to be easy for you.  You sound similar to me and it will be hurtful.  There is no nice way to say it and I'm so sorry.  You can contact me any time you like when you time comes.  In the meantime, spend every minute with your pet and don't think you are doing wrong...Follow your heart

Mocha's Mom  <3
Dawn1118

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I'm sorry for your loss of Casper...such a heart wrenching feeling to deal with  :(
Pawprince

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Thank you for all your kind words & words of wisdom. It is tough, but trying to do what I can to hang in there. And sorry for the losses you have experienced. I know it is very difficult. Very thankful to be able to talk with you kindred souls on this site. ((hugs))
cosesmom

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Dear Pawprince,
Hold tight to these moments. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. I wish everyone here was here for a happier reason but sadly we are all grieving and trying to move forward after losing or are going to have to let go of our fur babies. I wish I could help or have magical words to help you but I am still grieving too. I let Termy go almost 8 months ago and I am still having to struggle everyday. I understand your love for Arby. We all love our babies or we wouldn't be here to offer compassion and understanding.
Hang in there.
Love and doggie hugs
Termy's mom
georgesmom

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Pawprince, so sorry for what you are going through with Arby.  Take each day at a time, do whatever you can, but also take care of yourself because Arby needs you to be okay.
Anytime you need to talk, someone is here for you.  ((HUGS))

Pawprince

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I do hang on, as much as I can <3   Kind people - like all of you who understand the love for my pet help me feel a little less lonely about all of this. Thank you for your kind words. Means so much to me.
harley_charley71

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I completely understand what your going through. My Harley might have bladder/prostate cancer as he is going for his biopsy tomorrow and i find myself staying home with him and not wanting to leave him. Especially since he has been showing more signs of his diagnosis. No one in my family understands and im always getting told life has to go on. I just lost his brother 2 years ago at the age of 6 to a heart tumor so i got really attached to my Harley so this is so painul to me that i might lose him. I try not to cry in front of anyone cause they just dont understand how heartbroken i am. 
harley_charley71

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I completely understand what your going through. My Harley might have bladder/prostate cancer, hes going for a biopsy tomorrow and ever since he got this diagnosis i just dont want to leave him and find myself staying home with him. It has gotten worse since he has been showing more symptoms. No one in my family/friends seem to understand what im going through or how i feel as i am continually hearing life has to go on. I just lost his brother Charley 2 years ago at the age of 6 to a heart tumor and after that i got very attached to Harley so knowing i might lose him is breaking my heart. Just wish people could be more understanding that this really hurts. 
Pawprince

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I know -- people around me seem to look at me like they don't understand. This dog is my friend. My BEST friend. The love of my life ... my angel, my soul-mate. I feel such a strong connection to my dog - He knows I love him and I know he loves me. Wanna be there - give my all and be there for him till the end.
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