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Today my hamster Kit passed away in the morning I have been switching from crying nonstop to joking about her being such a trouble maker.

What I feel like I did badly was not take her to the vet that I thought was good. I took her to the ones my parents suggested ( my parents worried about her very much) I feel like I failed her. They said she had a tummy infection which didn't sit right with me they gave her antibiotics to put in her water and this morning while I was cleaning I heard a distressed squeak and when I went to her she wasn't OK. I held her and she licked my finger and slowly passed away.

I don't know if I'm just being stubborn because I lost her but I feel like she didn't just have a tummy infection. I feel like I failed her and I'm miserable.

A friend of mine told me to just get over it it's just a hamster. I haven't been okay at all and I feel like maybe if I listened to my gut feeling she'd be okay right now. My other friends have told me that I did everything possible and I shouldn't be so hard on myself but I just don't feel like I tried enough.

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You absolutely didn't fail her.  You recognized that she wasn't well.  You sought medical help for her.

It could have been that the infection was already advanced before she showed any signs (animals are good at hiding their pain and/or symptoms) and the antibiotic just couldn't help at that point.  

Sometimes these things are beyond our control but it's hard to believe that and not feel guilty.  Just because we couldn't make it all better doesn't mean we failed.  

I'm so sorry for your loss and I know you miss her.  I'm sure she knew how much she was loved.  

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My Sasha passed on 3/13/20. It's only been two days, but I just can't get past the fact that I failed her. We knew she had liver and thyroid problems for about a year. I took her to the vet so many times for bloodwork, and checkups, and she even had two ultrasounds. And still we couldn't find out what was causing her liver problems. Well just recently after a series of tests and bloodwork her Dr diagnosed her with cancer. The word I was dreading the whole time. They still didn't find a tumor, it showed in her lab work. I needed a second opinion. The second Dr verified what the first Dr had told me. I was devastated. The Dr wrote Sasha a prescription for a Prednisolone to ease her symptoms. I gave her the prescription for a week and couldn't stand seeing how lethargic it made her, she seemed so miserable with no energy. I decided to take her off of it, intending to put her back on half dose when she perked up, and got her strength back. She died two days after I took her off. I feel like I should have known better, and seen signs. I was home with her all day, the day before she passed. I thought she was getting better. I was so wrong, and my Sasha paid with her life. Now I'm devastated beyond words. My girl was my everything. Now she's gone, and it's all my fault.
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