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My little cat, Shasta, was put to sleep Friday night at the vet's office. My heart is broken beyond belief. She was Siamese colored with ice blue eyes. Her brother (same litter) was a long-legged all black kitty with golden eyes. They were orphaned at birth, on Guam, in 1991. I was stationed there (USAF), and bottle-fed them. His name was Fleetwood. He was my son's constant companion. (I had never before seen a cat "Heel" before). We lost Fleetwood in 2003 to Feline Cancer. It was harsh, but we got through it. Shasta was with me every moment that she could be. I miss her. I am broken up but it really helps to know this support is here. Thanks.


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Dear Cathy,

Please accept my deepest and heartfelt condolences for the loss of your precious kitty, Shasta.  It sounds like you and Shasta were particularly close.  She knew how deeply you loved--and still love--her.  How blessed you, your family, Fleetwood, and Shasta all were to belong to each other.

All of us here known the awful pain of losing a beloved and faithful little companion, so please don't hesitate to keep coming back here for support as long as you feel the need.  

I will be thinking of you and your family during this sad time.   May memories of your girl comfort your heart as you mourn.

Betsy's forever mom 

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I'm so sorry for you loss.  Shasta's seems like she was a very special girl and pretty as well.  She was your rock and companion.  These little creatures steal our hearts and it is so hard to let them go.  I lost both Daisy to cancer and 6 months later had my Sherry die suddenly.  I know what heartbreak is like.  I'm praying to God to give you and your family the courage and strength you need at this difficult time.

Rena (Sherry and Daisy's mom)

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I am so sorry for your loss of Shasta.  I truly understand the pain you are feeling.  It is so hard to make a decision to send them to the Bridge.  But we must think of them instead of us.   It sounds like you had a wonderful life together.  I know your heart is broken, you will time to heal.  Come to this site as often as you need to, people here will help you.  When you feel up to it tell us more about Shasta, this will help you.  Post a picture, would love to see her.

You are in my thoughts and prayers,
Nina Maria's Mom

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Thanks you guys, This is just lots harder than I ever thought. My family and I lost my youngest brother to suicide in 2002, and although they have called to give condolence on Shasta, I feel akward grieving so hard. I know it will get better with time, but I am having trouble letting her go. Your kind words gave me comfort. Thanks.


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Dear Cathy,

I am so sorry you lost your little sweetheart, Shasta.  Making that decision is pure anguish, but the most loving and compassionate thing to end pain and suffering.  It is very hard to let go.

It helps to come here.  Your grief is shared by many.

Katharine, Grunt's Mom Forever

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Dear Kathy:
I am so sorry for your loss of Shasta.  I lost my little Angel Christopher over 14 months ago and the pain of his loss is still overwhelming to me.  These Precious Angels steal our Hearts and when they leave they leave a huge hole that nothing can fill.  I will never forget the day I had to put Christopher to sleep-Never.  Unfortunately I had no choice as he was suffering and suddenly his existence was about me not about him.  Of course that does not make the decision any easier.  I can tell you that I have lost both parents.  This may sound terrible, but as horrible as that was it was not as horrible as losing Christopher.  So do not feel guilty about the level of your grief for your baby.  My counselor told me that we develop such strong bonds with our animals that sometimes we never heal.  I know I am one of those individuals and have decided I will grieve for Christopher Forever.  This is the best place to be as we all understand your pain.  I just wanted you to know that you and Shasta are in my Prayers.

Big Hugs
Georgeann and Christopher


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Dear Cathy,

My heart goes out to you and your loss of your sweet Shasta.
I lost my kitty in November and still haven't completely recovered..I miss her more each day.

They say that the loss of an animal companion is much harder than losing people. They are ...afterall...our ONLY source of unconditional love. We are completely accepted by judgement and they ask so little in return. That's a loss of enormous magnitude. It's no wonder we're in so much pain.

Your precious Shasta..that beautiful spirit that she is...did not die but merely changed form. You gave her that gift by releasing her from her body.

I'm so sorry because now your pain has begun. I'm holding you in my thoughts and sending many hugs.


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I just picked up my little baby's ashes tonight. She passed 10 days ago. Her death came at a very hectic time; the week of my husband's and my joint retirement ceremony from the Air Force. There was much to do to get everything ready and people were traveling from all over the country. I had a house guest as well. I cried solid for the first few days...then I welcomed the distractions. It was nice, but I didn't let myself think about Shasta very much. After everyone left, I thought I was handling it pretty well. My husband and I went over to the vet tonight to pick her up and I lost it at the sight of my little baby in a box. This is hard, but I know she is better now. I don't want to be selfish. It is so hard letting go. I will most likely never have a cat husband is so allergic. He was so good about her... we have been married four years and he adapted. He has been very supportive. I really miss her voice. And her soft little paws.


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Dear Cathy
I just love siamese, they are such characters, I always think they are like a cross between a cat and a dog.  My Tammy and Nicky have been gone many years now, but I still miss their funny little ways.
I am so sorry about your Shasta.  May you find peace soon.  Love Di xxx

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So, Friday the 13th marked three weeks since I lost my little baby, Shasta. Everyone just assumes that I am "okay" by now. I am doing much better not busting out crying at every cat commercial, but I miss her so badly. Each time I jingle my keys when I open the front door, I am met with a silence so loud it rips my guts out. She was always right there, or coming down the stairs, meowing as loud as she could. I was the only person that she greeted that way. She was always so glad to see her Mommy! I don't know how long it will be before I don't get a giant lump in my throat each time I come home. It helps to come here. Thanks.


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Dear Cathy,

       13 weeks is still very, very early. I know that some people think that you should be getting over it, but I can tell you it takes a longer than that. I am at the 32nd week since my Baby Bunz crossing, and I still tear up, especially on Saturdays, since that is the day I lost him. It is heartwrenching coming home without our pets there to greet us. Our babies loved us as much as we loved them. You are surrounded by people here that know and feel every bit of what you are feeling. You and Shasta are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                     Huge Hugs,

                                 Jacki, Baby Bunz Mommy


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I am just now catching up with your story; I don't know how I missed it.
First let me say how sorry I am about your losing Shasta. It is never easy, having to make that final decision to help a baby to the Bridge.
I hear in your posts how much you loved her. She loved you so much too.
I know when we lost Moll, my husband(who is only home two days a week)missed her greeting him at the door when he drove in most of all. The silence here is deafening sometimes without her looking out the window and warning off all passersby.
Come here often. Share a picture of Shasta and tell us her story. Share her funny little ways. It will help you, but it helps all of us too.
Hoping you find a peaceful moment today remembering your Shasta.

Molly's Mom

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I too just want to let you know how sorry I am that you must endure this pain.  Losing our babies is heartbreaking but I hope that you can take a moment (more if you can) and be comforted that she loved you and you shared such a special bond.  Your post clearly shows how much you loved her and that she loved you just as much.  Remember that and come here as often as you need.  There are alot of good people here that know exactly how you are feeling and want to help with your pain.

You will be in my thoughts today, hoping you find some comfort during your day.


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Seventeen years is such a long time to love and be loved.  I know how hard it is. Take good care of yourself, and remind yourself how lucky you were to have Shasta in your life.

She was very lucky too.


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Cathy, you have my condolences on your loss.  Grief is different for everyone.  It took me about 10 months before I could get back to a normal life after my persian kitty Beau was put to sleep.  Fifteen years of love and companionship, and wonderful kitty-human memories, are all that I have left.  I laughed when I read your story about coming home and jingling your keys, isn't it funny when they run to the door to greet you and then tell you everything that happened while you were gone?  Then you get to pick them up and carry them around the house.  That companionship is priceless, no wonder it hurts so much when they leave us.  I hated picking up the ashes, because that wasn't Beau in the little box, all it made me do was cry whenever I picked up the little velvet bag they put him in.  Just remember that your little Shasta is still with you, in your heart, where she always was and will be forever. 


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Today has been better. Thanks so much for your kind support. I still get caught off guard, like when Shasta "helped" me with my makeup, but I feel a bit more in charge. I loved the way she would get right in front of me when I was in a hurry and go into a sloppy somersault, wanting attention. I was looking at some pictures and came across some from last winter. We bought a room heater to help offset the gas bill. Shasta was positive it was an early Christmas present for her! As soon as she discovered it gave off heat, it became her new best friend. Even when it shifted to very low, she didn't give up on her bud. I put her pillow next to it but she was glued to the side of it most of the time. I will have a hard time if we decide to get it out again this year. (I am trying to get some pictures to attach, but it is not working so well.)


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Shasta is a very beautiful girl.  She looks a bit like my Nicky.  Thinking of you, Love Di xxx


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I just got back last night from a family trip. We were gone a couple of days. It was strange before we left, that nobody would be stopping in to check on or feed Shasta. I did better with going than returning. She would always come at me as soon as I hit the house and let me know just how much she didn't appreciate being left alone that long. I was rolling a suitcase toward the bedroom and the bitter reality hit me again (very hard) that Shasta was indeed gone. It still hurts so bad. It will be one month next week.

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