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rachel837484

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I had a sweet boy with FIV that I had to have put to sleep three days ago. He had just turned one. I sobbed for two days before and I have every day since then. My family got a new kitten and it upsets me so much. I try not to resent the new one but I can’t help it. He’s going in the same spaces and playing with the same toys my old boy had and it hurts so much to see this new kitten doing that. I don’t want to dislike the new one because he’s innocent and very sweet but I can’t help it.
RF

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I have had many cats in my lifetime, all of them deeply loved.  When they died, it was horrible beyond belief, but I always tried to get another cat fairly soon.  It wasn't to help forget the one that was gone (as if I could ever forget any of them!), but rather to help fill the huge yawning gap in my life that was left.  I grieved the ones who passed, and thought of them every day, and shed gallons of tears over their absence, but along with that I could care for the new one and take solace in its sweetness and happiness to be in a home where he or she was loved.  

You will never forget your sweet boy either, but you can give the new kitten your love and welcome him into your life.  Love is inexhaustible - there is always more love to give - and get - if you want to.  The little newcomer needs it, and so do you.  And your boy who passed would be pleased to know that you could feel some happiness again, and that all the places and toys that he loved will not remain empty and unused.  Give it time and let the kitten find its way into your heart.  You won't regret it.
champsmom

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I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved cat.  I have loved and lost a few cats and dogs through the years.   It's never easy.  Try to open your heart to the new kitten.  You may find that it will help to ease your pain.  You will never replace the Cat that you lost,  but in time you may come to love the new guy too.  Someone once told me that getting another cat (or dog) is a loving Tribute to the one you lost.  It's telling them that the love and life you shared with them was such a wonderful experience that you want to share it with another loving pet.   You may not Love the new Kitten right away but give it some time.  Let us know how you're doing.  
rachel837484

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Thank you so much for your responses. It has been tough but I’m doing better and since I’ve started playing with and cuddling with the kitten the feelings of resent are starting to fade. The initial hurt from losing my FIV boy is getting better which also helps. The new kitten is the cutest, sweetest little guy and he’s so full of energy and entertaining.
pb313

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Rachel,
I am glad you are feeling a little better. Just love your new kitty and know he does not replace your kitty. Just a new addition to your family to love on.

Paula- Raider’s mom
RF

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I'm happy for you that it's working out!  Give the little guy some cuddles for me!
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