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In a few minutes it appears I'll be taking Wizard down to be put to sleep.  This is extremely hard for me.  After I do it, I'll let them hold him in their freezer unit to lower his body temperature.  Then in a day I'll pick him up so I can have him cremated.


I will be going to spend at least the day or two at my elderly Mom's after that so I may be away from the board for a day or two without a computer.  But, I need all the support I can get and I'll be back on when I get back.


Thanks everyone I'll be backhere soon.  Also, Good bye and thank you from Wizard too!



Wizard's Dad Forever


Wizard, Until We Meet Again.....  KNOW that I love you.


I've Booked My Room In Heaven Daddy...  They're Ready When I am.....  I'm sorry but I have to leave soon....  I'll miss you Daddy but I'll keep an eye on you....  Please save another kitten and treat him like you treated me all these years...  Promise me Daddy, Promise me!  I’ll see you again someday forever….  I’ll send your love to Demon, Merlin and Putty Tat when I get there.  Please be strong Daddy…..



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Dear Bob -

I'm wrapping my arms around you in a very strong hug.

Rusty's Mom - Allison.

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With you in thoughts and prayers Bob. God Bless.
Just a quick thought, before Hawkeye left me, I did a plaster imprint of his paws, just so that I'd always have those with me. I don't know if this is something that you've already done or thought about but, it's a wonderful reminder of our babies time here. I also included a photo a a little of his beautiful fur in it.
Sending love and hugs from PJ and Hawkeye's mommy

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You and Wizard will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Many hugs,


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Dear Bob and Wizard;    YOU are in my thoughts and Prayers!!!Iam so sorry to hear you are on this heartbreaking Journey;;; Iam there with you;;I wish I could give you and Wizard the biggest hugs ever;You both have shared the greatest  love ever and that is a Precious gift to have!!!!!!Take care Special Angels blessings to you both;;  Marion.  Lucy and MOLLYSMUM.


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Dear Bob - your baby reminds me so much of my white snow angels! 2 weeks today since Savanna, has left me. I pray for you and your beautiful Wizard. God Bless! your friend, Elaine (my baby, Savanna, my constant companion)


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Dear Bob-- My heart goes out to you on this difficult day.  I remember it too well.  May Wizard have a peaceful journey to the Bridge, and may you start your healing process with happy memories.

      Many thoughts & prayers----Teddy's Mom


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My thoughts and prayers are with you and Wizard! I'll be here to talk to and support you when you get back! I'm so sorry.

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Dear Bob

I just read your post. You know I have been following the updates on your precious Wizard.

I know how hard it is to do this. I had to make the same decision for my handsome boy Cheeseburger. I held my baby when he crossed the bridge. He was my beautiful sweet boy, and when I saw Wizard, his handsome face reminded me so much of my Cheesey.

I try so hard to take comfort and be thankful for the 10 years I had with Cheeseburger. He brought so much love happiness to me. I miss him so much, but I am grateful he shared my life and heart.

Please know my heart and prayers are with you and Wizard; I hope my Cheesey and your Wizzy will become friends.

We are here for you...and bless you Wizard, you were a beautiful, brave little boy who was loved so deeply by you dad.

Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened.
Cheeseburger's Mom


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I am so sorry this turned out this way. I know you loved Wizard and he knows it to. You know there is no amount of money in the world that would have made a bit of difference in anything with Wizard. Unfortunately it is a depressing fact, but, most cats if not all that make it to Wizards age wind up eventually with Kidney failure of some sort. I have never known a cat over 16 years that didn't have or get some form of it. It seems to be the organ that will fail if none of the others will, ensuring that no cat will make it over the age of 20. And, I have never met a vat over 19 that should have still been going. I am sure there are exceptions. Think about it Bob, you did all you could for Wizard and it is a miracle that he made it so long. I am once again so sorry.

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Godspeed, Precious Wizard, Godspeed.

You will have so many of our beloved babies waiting & welcoming you to the Bridge when you cross over.


Bob ~ You gave your Wizard the most *giving* gift of all.....freedom from his tired earthly body. He stayed as long as he's just never long enough for us. I can feel your pain, along with so many other friends here. May Wizard's continual love be like *warm & comforting* wings that will embrace you & guide you thru your journey of healing.


Blessings & prayers~


Pami & the spirits of Onyx & Cloudy


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Bob, Wizard will be greeted with open paws at the Bridge and will not be alone.  All our furbabies will rejoice that another baby has been liberated from his pain.

Please take care of yourself.  I know your mom will help you get through the toughest moments, and when you get back home, please let us know how you are doing.   We will be here for you.

Hugs and peace,


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Dear Bob,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your WIZARD. I too have been following your posts, and it brings tears to my eyes. On June 26th,2007 i had to put my beloved NIKKI to sleep and it was the hardest decisions I've ever had to make. So I know just what you are feeling. When NIKKI died a part of me died with her. I miss her still so very much that my HEART still aches for her. I just want her back with me so very much. Please let us know how you are doing. Lots of ((((((((((((((((((((((BOB&WIZARD)))))))))))))))))))))))). I hope that my NIKKI and your Wizy become friends. May Wizzard have a peaceful journey to the Bridge, and may your healing be filled with happy memories of your WIZZY!!!! I'm thinking of you on this most difficult day.
Take Care,

Here is my ANGEL NIKKI.
Mommy misses you so very much. UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN!!!!!!!!!

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Dear Bob,

As a moderator, I often don't have time to reply to threads, but please know that I have been keeping you and Wizard close in my thoughts and prayers.

Sometimes my furry muses at the bridge send me a sense of what is going on there, and today I felt a very strong urge to put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard).  Here is what resulted.  I think it has come from your Wizard and hope it brings you some comfort...

Wizard and Daddy

Wizard took that first hesitant step –
So hard to leave Daddy behind –
But he felt something new, something good,
And paused to review in his dear kitty mind…

What could this mean, what could it be,
How could he feel young again,
So healthy and free?
He flicked an ear – nowhere, nowhere, any pain…

He whirled around, swishing his tail –
Daddy! He called, and looked all about,
I’m all right!  I’m no longer frail!
He raised his voice in a plaintive meow…

But Daddy wasn’t there,
Not that Wizard could see –
So he turned back and examined with care
What lay ahead, on this bridge to eternity…

He crossed to a land of beauty and light –
Others greeted him, washed his face –
He knew he was going to be all right

An angel explained why he was in this place…

“Wizard, dear little man, your job on earth is complete,”
The angel said while scratching Wizard’s chin –
(An angel’s chin-scratch is the sweetest of the sweet) –
“But now you have a new job to begin…”

Wizard started to ask what that job might be,
When he caught a glimpse of Daddy, with his tears of pain –
And suddenly he knew what to do, how to reach –
He hummed the song all cats know, a special refrain…

On earth Daddy heard Wizard’s music of love,
Felt a gentle paw, heard a rumbling purr –
Daddy knew Wizard’s presence like an unseen dove –
And Wizard began to shine with a glorious light on his fur…

Daddy, the road ahead will be hard, I know,
But we are never, ever, apart –
Remember our love, share it with someone new –
And whenever you need me, just look in your heart…

©2008 Barbara E. Allen

Many, many hugs to you,



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I just lit a candle for your baby Wizard and one for my boy Cheeseburger.

I am sure they will find each other and be best of friends; happy, healthy, resting in the the sunlight and watching the birdies.

I remember as soon as I saw pictures of your Wizard he reminded me so much of my Cheesey - such handsome boys.

I know I miss my Cheeseburger so much - I cry for him everyday; but then I think of how upset he used to become when I cried about something. He used to meow like crazy and keep rubbing against my legs - so I try to think of all the love and happiness he gave to me for 10 years. He shared my life and my heart and was always there for me. He is in my heart forever.

Please know we are here for you. We know how much you love Wizard and more importantly, Wizard knows how much you love him.

May you find comfort, peace and love in the beautiful memories you have of your cherished Wizard.

Cheeseburger's Mom


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I am so sorry.  You and your beloved Wizard are in my thoughts and prayers.  He will live in your heart forevery.

Kate (Gus' mom)


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I'm so very sorry.

Godspeed, Sweet Wizard.

Katharine, Grunt's Mom Forever

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Dear Bob,

I am so very sorry for your loss of sweet, precious Wizard.  There are no words to describe the pain of losing one who has made his home so deeply in your heart.  What a life you gave to your boy!  I know that you are right...Wizard wants you to keep your heart open and pass the love that the two of you shared on even further to another lucky little kitty.  It is so hard, I know.  My heart goes out to you.  I am glad that you are going to spend time with your Mom...Mom's often have the most healing touch when we need it most. 

When you are ready, please come back for support.  We will be here for you.

Hugs and warm wishes,
MaxsMom ~ Joanne

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Bob, thinking of you today.  Please check in with us when you feel up to it.


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Dear, Precious Wizard,
May you have a beautiful and peaceful journey, darling one.  We have all come to know and love you, like our own adopted son.  You and your daddy are so blessed to have each other, oh he loves you so.  Last night I told my girl Tweeny to look soon for a beautiful white cat named Wizard, she will show you where your favorite goodies are.  Oh and you'll catch up and run with Demon, Merlin and Puddy Tat always forever young again!  May you get the royal treatment, we will love and remember you in our lives, and one day your daddy will join you and we'll get to meet you too!  Bless you sweet little darling.   ~Tweeny's mama 

Dear Bob,

Though I've not been well enough to reply the last couple of days, I've been following along with you and Wizard, walking alongside silently.  I was heartbroken that it came time for your precious boy to go to the bridge, and every time I think of "Goodbye, and thank you from Wizard too!" the tears just keep pouring out uncontrollably.  I am so sorry.  I know what a precious companion he is to you.  He is one of the most blessed cats in the world to have someone love him like you do, what a wonderful, fortunate life he's had with you.  And I know you are equally blessed to have him, now he has a very wonderful daddy to look after from his place at the bridge. I wish this physical separation wasn't so painful.

I also took my beloved Tweeny to be cremated after they kept her body at the vet.  I picked flowers from the garden (all happened to be purple) to keep with her overnight and for our "visitation" (which was my sister and I).  I just left four violets with her, I got her ashes back an hour and a half later and they've been on my pillow ever since. 

I am so sorry, Bob.  Bless you for giving Wizard some glorious time soaking up the outdoors and all the love you have given him.  Thank you for sharing your journey with us.  This is so difficult, and I hope you feel your boy close by every day.

You know that "footprints" poem?  Each of those footprints is one of us helping to carry you along on this difficult journey.  We will still be here for you, as our babies will be there for Wizard.

Big hugs, Tweeny's ma


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Dear Bob:
I have been following your posts and know what a nightmare this is for you.  I had to put my little Angel Christopher to sleep over 14 months ago and the pain is still so overwhelming.  I am so sorry about Wizard.   I wish there was something I could say that would help but there is nothing that works.  Please know that you and Wizard are in my Prayers.

Big Hugs
Georgeann and Christopher

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Bob and Wizard,

I am so sorry that you are no longer together here on earth. Reading your posts your love for Wizard is so strong, I hoped this final week would have stretched out longer. 

Wizard is now in perfect health and joy, except for missing his daddy.  Bob, come here often as you need to, may all your memories of Wizard soon bring you smiles instead of pain.

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My thoughts are with you.  I've been following your posts, even though it's been difficult for me.  It made me re-live my last days with my Herbie and Belle.  I know how hard this is for you and understand exactly what you are going through.

I'm so sorry.  Wizard is fine now -- no more pain or struggle.  But as it is for all of us, when we take our pets pain from them, we then carry that burden of pain for them.  I guess that's what love is.

Herbie and Belle's Mom

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My heart and my thoughts will be with you as you walk through this sadness and I know how difficult it is when we have to let our dearest friend go on to the Bridge before us . The Love will always be the connection from here to there and we will always have them near us guiding us always. Your precious furchild goes in Love and will surround you in that Love every day and although you want Wizard here, you will be together one day forever more. What matters is that you got to share such Love in this lifetime and for all eternity.
Sending you a very big hug,
Max's mom Jo


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Bob, I have been following your posts and I feel like I know your precious Wizard. Words cannot express how sorry I am about your baby. I am praying for strength for you and peace for Wizard. I lit a candle last night and will light another now. Again I am heart broken for you.
Peace be with you beautiful Wizard. Look for my beloved Mr. Meowgy.
Donna, Mr. Meowgy's mom

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Dear Bob, I also have been following your messages. I'm so sorry for all the pain you are feeling. Your Wizard is such a cute and wonderful boy... I'll be praying for you...
Diana, Jessie and Neko's mom.

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Hi Bob,

I just got on Petloss as I was thinking of you and your Wizard. I am so sorry for the pain, I am sorry you have to do this. It is the hardest thing one ever has to do. We all are here for you and we will be here for you as your grieve for your baby. The people here have helped me so much, I hope we can do the same for you.

Just know that your Wizard is looking down on you with such love and adoration.

A big cuddle to you.....I will tell Nugget to give Wizard an extra special welcome at the Bridge.

Nuggetsmum Alana

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Our deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved Wizzard.



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So sorry for what you have been through and what you had to do. All of
us here  share in your loss. I am new here but your picture of Wizard at the computer touched me was if he was saying Daddy can I have the mouse, can I Dad. MaxsandHazelsMom post was so touching and profound. I said a prayer over my Peaches this morning to be there for Wizzy.
God Bless-------------Jerry

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Bob, this is very true: death does not really exist; it's really merely a transition to Eternal life, a forever-life of pure, unadulterated health and happiness.  The sadness is strictly yours; your beloved Wizard lives now in complete and utter bliss.  He knows that you'll be joining him very shortly - shortly, that is, for him, not necessarily for you.  But there is no "time" in Eternity, so to Wizardl, it is as the blink of an eye before you're there with him, though it may be many Earth years for you.
I understand your pain, a pain all of here have felt, but try to always realize that the pain is strictly yours; none of it at all is Wizard's, and there should be some consolation in that for you.  He knows that you love him and always will, and he returns that love more deeply than ever, for he now has a more profound understanding of love.  Cry for yourself as much as you need to, but force a smile, no matter how slight, for your dear Wizard and the happiness he now knows.
May Wizard's Creator hold you gently in the hollow of His hands, comfort you, and bless you with faith, with strength, and with peace of heart.

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Dear Bob,
I am very sorry that you had to make this decision.  You are such a wonderful Daddy and did the very best you could do for your baby Wizard.  My heart goes out to you I know how hard this is.  Having to put Boo Boo to sleep was the hardest thing I have ever done.  You did what was best for Wizard.  Will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs, Boo Boo's Mommy

Max and Hazel's Mom,
What you wrote is very beautiful and touching. Had me crying, thank you so much for the post.  I would love to hear more of the things your furrys send you some day.

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Dear Bob,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and Wizzy. I thought I would post this poem that they gave to me at a pet loss group support meeting at the Humane Society. Its called,

Miss Me,
But let Me Go

When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me,
I want no rites in a gloom-filled room,
Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little-but not too long,
And not with your head bowed low.
Remember the love that we once shared,
Miss me, but let me go.

For this is a journey we all must take
And each must go alone.
It's all a part of the Master's plan.
A step on the road to home.

When you are loney and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds.
Miss me, but let me go.

-Author Unknown

Bob take care of yourself. I'm too know how you are feeling. Just thought I would share this with you. Lots of (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((BOB&WIZZARD)))))))))))))))))))))))))).

Take care,

Nikki mommy miss you so very that my HEART still aches to hold you in my arms again. Nikki you will NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN. I LOVE YOU!!!!!



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Dear Bob
I have been away working for a month and only got home this morning.  I am so sorry for your loss, we are all here for you, Di xxx

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Dear Bob,
I am so sorry for your loss. I could feel in your posts the last week how much you wanted to make things right for your Wizard. You did absolutely everything you could for him, and got information for the things you knew little about. You were a good dad to Wizard.
Rest assured that Wizard knew how much you loved him. He's looking down on you right now from the Bridge, healthy and full of vigor.
You are in my prayers.


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Dear Bob

So sorry about your loss of Wizard.  I know you tried everything possible to keep him with you but the odds were stacked against you.  Remember him they way he was and those memories will last you until you meet again.

Thoughts and hugs Ruperts Mum 

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May you find the strength to do what you must and the strength to take care of yourself in these difficult days.
Blessings and prayers from my family to yours.
Maya, Cisco and Luca's Mom

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Hi Bob,

I know that you will not be getting on for a few days and you are at your mum's, I just want to let you know I am thinking of you and sending you a big cuddle.

Nuggetsmum Alana

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Thank you everyone.  I just got home to my empty home and am going to attempt at least one night here before heading back to my mom's for a few days.

Wizard not being in the window when I drove up the driveway, then see him run to the other window by where I park, then meow to me out the window as I approach the door to have him run to the door to be with me...  Having none of that is aweful!

Then, not having him in my lap when I type this....  Not being able to give him his treats or make a "'treat trail" and watch him follow it.... 

The word "string" seems to have no meaning anymore....  just saying iot would make Wizzy jump up, start meoping and want to play.......

No more conversations with Wizzy where he patiently waits for me to finish and then joyfully answers me and awaits my reply.....

I miss him so!   I love Wizard and will never forget him

He passed quietly, as the very good biy he always was, in my arms at the Vets this past Wednesday, May 28th.  This was 3 days before my Dad passed only 8 years ago.  Memorial Day week will always be a very difficult week.

When I can ready everyone's replies again without crying I will read them all again.  Thanks you everyone from both Wizard and I.  I will be talking with you all soon.

I'm posting this as a reply on this thread and starting a new thread with it too...

Bob Donovan
Wizard's Daddy

If Tears Could Build A Stairway

And Memories A Lane

I'd Walk Right Up The Heaven

ANd Be With You Again


(Writer: Unknown)


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Dear Bob

I am so sorry for the loss of your Wizard. I know what a special precious boy he was to you. I fell in love with him when I saw the pictures you posted - I saw such a sweet, loving soul who reminded me so much of my Cheeseburger.

My heart and prayers are with you...and bless your beautiful boy Wizard. I keep envisioning Wizzy and Cheesey together...playing, watching birdies, and just soaking up the sunshine.

You have so many friends who care and are here for you.

You have my e-mail - you can write to me anytime.

I hope you can find comfort in the cherished memories you have of Wizard. He will forever be in your heart. He knows how much you love him and did everything you could for him.

To Cheeseburger and Wizard: Keep each other, run, and just be the wonderful kitties you are. Make lots of friends. Be happy, healthy and strong. You are never forgotten and loved forever.
Cheeseburger's Mom

Dee + Cheese = LOVE
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