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Everyone around me seems so surprised that I'm still heartbroken about losing my sweet Sadie. She was truly my soul mate, and 2 months time has not healed my wounds. I believe my heart will never completely heal, as it hasn't from losing my yellow lab Daisy. And the circumstances surrounding Sadie's death were so unfair, so my anger has not faded either.
I'm just hoping to find a place where I'm not faced wtih people who think I should be doing better by now. Because I'm not. I'm still so very sad. Thanks for listening.
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Of course you're sad! What silly people to think it goes away just like that!
Your anger is all part of the process we go through. I was so angry at myself for Bubba's bloating that last day, even though it wasn't my fault. I gave him the water to drink, and I watched everything that went into his belly like a vigilante to make sure he never bloated. And he did. When we get past the guilt, the anger and the sadness, we can start to remember the wonderful gift we were given in the form of our dogs, cats, birds, horses, bunnies. We have them for such a short time, and we have to cram into every day a lifetime of living. I decided I couldn't honor Bubba's memory by being angry or feeling guilty. I had to let it go so I could think about all the things I love about him, and the good times we had. You too will let go of the bad feelings in time. We all understand here, and you'll be "better" in your time. Keep writing here, you're among friends who think and feel just like you do. Be gentle with yourself.
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So sorry sadies mom. Its only been 2 weeks since I lost my Maggie,and I can't believe the pain is still so intense.
I completely understand what you are saying about it not being "fair" Our girl was taken from us way before she should have been,and I am feeling very bitter about it. I know life isn't fair,and bad things happen,but that knowledge provides little comfort. Hopefully we will all be able to help one another through this very painful process. Those who are further along in their process will be able to reassure those of us who are in the early stages of our grief. Sooooo glad I found this site!!
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Oh gosh, you've found the right place to come where people will not think you have to feel better by now. Two months is still so early. You are grieving the loss of a soul mate. It's no different than grieving a human family member. Anger is part of the five stages of grief, so it's natural. It'll eventually fade. The final stage is acceptance ... and it will come ... but it's okay not to be there yet. You are right where you are supposed to be. You are right to know your life will never be the same without your sweet Sadie. My boy Piezon is gone 16 months now, and though I've gotten on with my life, it's not quite the same. It's okay, I've accepted it and feel blessed to have had him in my life. My heart goes out to you in the loss of your Sadie. I know how hard it is to get through the days without her. Hugs of comfort, Lori
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I'm sorry. It's been two months since I lost my kitty cat Casey. Like people say it will lessen with time...it isn't constant now when I come home and expect him to be there. But i will run across something of his and I will cry like a baby. I hide it because I feel funny. That's why I am here!
Don't feel bad...animals are wonderful, non-judgmental, innocent creatures. They are hard to move on from when they are gone. I hope you find peace soon. Swimmer
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So sorry :( 8 weeks is not that much time. Of course, people who haven't made a deep connection with an animal would not understand. But we do. I was also angry at my vet for misdiagnosing my dog. I'll never know if Captain's condition was treatable or not. But I've moved on from that somehow. I still cry about him, miss him and think this is totally unfair (he was 4 1/2 yrs old) but I suppose sometimes I realize that life is often unfair. I trust that God in his infinite wisdom, knows much more about these things than I do. And since we're promised great blessings in heaven I have every reason to believe that my little guy is there waiting for me. Now I just have to make sure I'm worthy & get there myself one day. Vacations aren't the same, work isn't the same, home isn't the same. But day by day, although it stays different, it gets bearable. Hugs to you and your husband.