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Having a hard time with my grief. I'm laying in bed trying to get through it minute by minute but my stomach will start to tense, my back will start to feel as if it's on fire and I feel this terror rising up in me. Are panic attacks a part of the grieving process? I've never grieved before...
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When my cat was put down because of cancer, I went through a period of pain and grieving unlike anything I have ever experienced. One year later, things are just starting to lighten up a bit.
The multi-level layers of suffering are well documented by many people here on this forum. There were many days initially where the pain was so intense I wasn't sure I would survive. There were moments of sheer panic because the pain was so overwhelming indeed! I was desperate to find a way to just get through the next 30 or 60 minutes when the intensity of the pain was at their greatest points, and this went on for weeks and months... Anxiety was something I also experienced. When my cat got cancer and passed, I felt totally crushed, weak and hopeless. I lost the armor of confidence that I could handle and solve any problems that came my way, because I was totally unable to save my beloved cat from her sad cruel fate. And in the end, I had to put her to sleep, which paradoxically I felt forced to do because I loved her so much. I really got quite fearful of life for a time. The only thing that worked for short spells was distraction. Try to schedule periodic distractions even if you don't really feel like those activities. The other is to just fight the battle moment to moment, day by day. I was/am amazed how deep and long lasting the grief was, and am still going through the process now, after a year has gone by.
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I’m so sorry for the loss you’ve experienced. The grief can feel downright unbearable at times, but please know that slowly day by day it will get better. I definitely think panic attacks can be part of the grieving process. I’ve dealt with pretty severe anxiety issues my entire life, but never had an actual full blown panic attack. That is, until a couple of months ago right after having to put my absolute sweetheart of a cat to sleep. I woke up the very next morning and couldn’t breathe, just couldn’t catch my breath in a way I’ve never experienced before in my life. I didn’t know that panic attacks could come along with grieving so it was quite the shock to wake up in the middle of one... Losing our little companions can have far reaching & unexpected consequences on our health. Take care of yourself, sending you lots of love during this incredibly painful time, xx