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Friendlygal

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I lost my precious kitty cat on the first of this month. She was so loving and even those who don’t like cats were in love with her. She was so attached to me. It seems as if EVERYONE does cremation and keeps the ashes in an urn. But I don’t know if that’s for me!! But I don’t have my own house and might move from here!!! The hospital where she died is keeping her frozen till I decide as they feel so bad she died there. :( I feel bad that she’s been frozen already for 11 days! Has anyone here buried in a cemetery with zero guilt?? How would it make me a bad mom to bury her in a place that costs over 3 grand???!
twinkiesmom

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No, it would not make you a bad mom. Do whatever you think is best. I have had several cremated and their ashes placed in pretty wooden "urns". Moving due to a change in jobs is always a possibility and this choice is better for me. Have you checked out pet cemeteries? I would not think they would charge that much. I wish you peace whatever choice you make.
Friendlygal

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Thank you so much for that, twinkiesmom! I do have a pretty wooden “urn box” from a crematory without ashes, only to see if it will bring me comfort, to see if I should get her cremated or not. The box is at the place in the linen closet where she would hang out and sleep speacefully. It does surprisingly bring me comfort. But I’m not sure if I’d feel the same if her ashes were in there. :( Are you keeping the ashes, or plan on spreading them someday? Also, if I bury her in the beautiful cemetery and visit her AT LEAST once a month, but also keep fur in the urn instead of ashes, does it still mean she’s with me and that I haven’t left her? Even if I move next year? :( SORRY that I’m so confused!! Do the ashes themselves also give you comfort, or is it the urn itself? Thanks in advance!!
champsmom

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I am so sorry that you lost your precious kitty.

No, it would not make you a bad Mom at all.  Do whatever you feel comfortable with.  I chose to have my furbabies cremated so I could take them with me if I move.. 

I live near a very famous Pet Cemetery and there are so many dogs, cats, bunnies etc.  buried  there.  I heard that Mariah Carey has her dogs buried there and some Princess had her Horse buried there.  They also now allow humans to be buried with their pets (Provided the Human is cremated).  I understand it is very expensive, but it is a beautiful place and sometimes we walk through just to look at the  beautiful Headstones people have for their pets.

So, it comes down to whatever you feel is right.  Maybe you can bury some of her ashes and keep some with you (?)

Friendlygal

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champsmom, thank you for your post. If I were to cremate I’d for sure take the ashes. I wouldn’t bury in that case. I’d only bury if I chose not to cremate. I may move as early as after next year, so most people on my shoes would likely cremate. The issue is I don’t know how I feel about cremation. :( When people are so comforted by ashes, is this really their pet? I mean, if someone were alive and they lost an arm. If I were to burn it, I wouldn’t burn their bone fragments and put it in a nice box and think it’s them. :( So what’s the difference? I’m super confused and don’t want to feel I’m leaving her behind if I bury her and then leave from here. If I put fur in an urn, is it like having ashes?
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