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Jess09

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My green cheek conure was killed on Friday by one of my dogs... She was so affectionate, curious, and just a playful bird. We only had her for 5 months but it seemed as though we had her forever.

I had her wings trimmed 2 weeks prior (she was flying all over the house and I was afraid of her hitting the ceiling fan)... I thought this would prevent her from harming herself, instead I believe I contributed to her death. Her cage was open and my 3 year old was watching TV in her room... the dogs were laying on the floor just like they normally do... I had to work, and logged into my meeting (working from home)... my daughter came to me twice to warn me about Regan being on the floor. I didn’t listen since I was paying attention to my meeting... she finally started screaming that the dog had Regan in her mouth....

Regan was on the floor, waiting for me. I quickly grabbed her and started sobbing... she died in my arms.

My spouse has told me that I was negligent. I know it was my fault for not securing Regan in her cage before getting on my meeting. I know it’s my fault that I turned my daughter away while she was warning me about the bird being on the floor. I can’t seem to forgive myself.

I miss hearing Regan sing in the mornings and hearing her play with her bell. She used to accompany me in my dresser room and watch me put on my makeup. I just feel a empty hole in my heart. I haven’t stopped crying for the last 3 days.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post.
CleanneMom29

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know exactly how it hurts and feels when we lose a pet who was a part of our life. Thank you for being a kind soul to allow Regan to share such a bond with you. I love the story of her being there with you when you were putting on makeup.

I know the circumstances surrounding Regan’s passing are difficult, but please know that you need to forgive yourself because you did not do anything to intentionally hurt Regan. Guilt is always present when a pet dies. I have felt it immensely whenever I have lost a pet. It’s part of the grieving process. But that guilt that creeps in is a liar. Guilt is what you should feel when you did something to intentionally harm someone. The only thing you’re guilty of is loving and caring for Regan - and that is something to be proud of.

You loved Regan and she knew it. That is what needs to be remembered - that special bond. Animals are so much better than we are - never holding grudges - just loving unconditionally. Regan is in a different place now - I would like to believe happily flying around waiting to one day unite again with you.
CleanneMom29

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know exactly how it hurts and feels when we lose a pet who was a part of our life. Thank you for being a kind soul to allow Regan to share such a bond with you. I love the story of her being there with you when you were putting on makeup.

I know the circumstances surrounding Regan’s passing are difficult, but please know that you need to forgive yourself because you did not do anything to intentionally hurt Regan. Guilt is always present when a pet dies. I have felt it immensely whenever I have lost a pet. It’s part of the grieving process. But that guilt that creeps in is a liar. Guilt is what you should feel when you did something to intentionally harm someone. The only thing you’re guilty of is loving and caring for Regan - and that is something to be proud of.

You loved Regan and she knew it. That is what needs to be remembered - that special bond. Animals are so much better than we are - never holding grudges - just loving unconditionally. Regan is in a different place now - I would like to believe happily flying around waiting to one day unite again with you.
Jess09

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Thank you for listening and writing to me. As time has passed I have slowly accepted the fact that Regan is gone. I still haven’t put her cage away, or her play pen away. It breaks my heart to just enter my daughters room where she resided. We buried Regan in the front of the house so we can pass by and talk with her. I miss her so much.
Your words left me in tears. I want to be selfish and want her here with me. The house is so quiet without her (despite of the dogs) but I miss having her on my shoulder and talking to her. She truly was an amazing bird.
KatKat

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So sorry for your pain.  It was an accident, you never would have purposely allowed this to happen.  It makes me sad that your husband would say that to you.  Life sometimes gets away from us and a mistake happens and we want so much to take it back but we can't.  I've had birds in the past and they are very engaging creatures that can bring so much joy.  They can be affectionate, funny and enlightening.  Your pain is real, you have a right to miss her and feel sad.  My thoughts are with you and hope that you can begin to heal.  I'm dealing with a loss right know that occurred due to a mistake so I understand your guilt and pain, not sure if having someone understand can bring some comfort.  
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