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Two weeks ago, the vet euthanized my 14 yr old Baby cat as soon as I found out he had congestive heart failure. I was playing with him and 20 minutes later he was gasping for air. The dr said he has congestive heart failure failure. ashe gave him oxygen and medicine and x-rays. He had fluid around his lungs and 88,% oxygen. He looked so perfect after the oxygen. She recommended I euthanize him which I did without even taking further tests or trying to get the fluids out. I had benefits for him. She gave him an injection and his head dropped to his paws. It has been hitting me harder as the days go by. The guilt is so strong even though everyone says I did the right thing. I cut his life short and should have given him a chance. I am trying to function since I have CV to worry about my Alzheimer's mom, but find myself nonstop thinking about my cat.

Posts: 580
I so very sorry for your loss and I feel your pain and heart ache. We all second guess our selves but we do our  best at the time. We are under so much stress and all we can think is "I don't want them to suffer" and we are swayed by those around us. Please know that your baby isn't hurting anymore and is healthy and whole again waiting at the Bridge to be reunited again. I know it hurts but please try to forgive yourself you had a lot going on. I am wishing you peace during this difficult time.
Love and doggie hugs
Termy's mom

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Thanks for your support. What is hard is that he looked good with oxygen. and he recognized iuized me coming in the room and 2 seconds later his head dropped in his paws. Also, I have a sick mother and torturing myself is taking away my energy I need for her.

Posts: 46
I often wonder why vets recommend euthanasia right after such a diagnosis.  If the pet is not suffering, why not give the owner some time to say goodbye?  A friend of ours went through this scenario with his dog, who had an injury, but was not in dire pain or about to die.  He had the dog euthanized right away and then went through the agony of not having had time to say goodbye.  

On the other hand, I found out one of my beloved cats had abdominal cancer, with a belly full of fluid.  The vet was great, showed me how to use a needle and syringe to reduce the fluid when necessary, gave me meds for her and so on, but didn't tell me she would probably die within a few weeks no matter what I did.  On the other hand, I was grateful to have had her with us for another couple weeks, but it became obvious that she was miserable and we had to end her suffering.

You just can win.  It always hurts, no matter what you do.
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