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When I lost my two-year-old Norman back in 2001, I was horrified.  It was the first time I had to deal with a loss.  I wanted to make sure that I remembered everything about him, so I wrote down everything I could think of in a journal. 

When I lost my four-year-old Newman two years ago, again I was horrified, but I knew that as time went on, I would be OK.  I got my journal out and wrote down everything I could think of about Newman...absolutely everything. 

I got my journal out today because I wanted to start writing down everything I could think of about my little boy Darryl. 

I started reading it from the beginning.  So many things I had forgotten about my boys.  I wasn't sad when I was reading it...instead I was so happy that I had written everything down and was able to go back in time and remember all of the happy moments I had with them.  I think about them all of the time (mostly because I have their pictures everywhere and Newman's picture is still on the desktop of my home and work computers), but today I realized that even though I miss them, I am no longer sad for them. 

I have so many things going through my head about Darryl, and it has helped a lot for me to be able to post my thoughts on here to people who understand.  Even though I am still so sad that my baby is gone, and I miss him so much, I am going to write down every detail I can think of about him in my journal so that it will ease my mind some...knowing that as time goes by I will be able to remember everything about him. 

Life just feels so wrong for me right now, but I know that in time, I will be OK again, and I hope the same for all of you.

Thank you so much for being here for me!


I love you nugget! XOXOXOXO

Posts: 26
I am definitely writing down everything I can remember about Taz, but it's 13 years of memories and I know I've forgotten far more than I remember! Even still, I want to hang onto every last detail I still can drudge up and it's amazing when you start to write how much you can recall. I am planning to take all my writings, and poems and letters people have sent me and all the photos I have of him (once I get them scanned in) and make a special memory book and have it printed up. You can use places online like to create your own hardbound book, so even though it will be a lot of work to do right, I know it will be worth the time and give me something special that will cherish it for the rest of my life.

Taz, Dearly loved by Mary Jo, 4/28/95-5/25/08

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Dear Laine,

I started a journal, too, 3 weeks after my Grunt went away.  I was so afraid I was going to forget things about him that were always so precious to me, little things that could very easily be forgotten over time.  It has helped me a little to focus on remembering the funny things he used to do, the poignant moments, even the bratty moments ;), many things that were never captured in the pictures I took of him.  I cry a lot as I write, I miss him so much.  But I'm also very grateful that I shared life and love with him, the best years, the best love of my life.

Loving and losing hurts so much, doesn't it?  I am sad for you, too, not having your beautiful Darryl there with you, missing him so much.  We are all in the same boat, riding on waves of tears.

Katharine, Grunt's Mom Forever 

Posts: 49
I wish sooooo much I could get to this place where I can focus on putting the beautiful memories and thought I have of my Jesse to paper, but I'm not quite ready yet emotionally - the pain is still so raw and it's coming up to 3 weeks now. Today, everywhere I looked there were doggies, and it really tore my heart out and to again face the fact that I don't have my girl to hug, pat, run with, and care for. I even came across another dalmatian and even though she gave me a beautiful lick on the hand and was so happy to have some attention, I was overcome with grief that my girl isn't around anymore. Does this pain every get any easier? Because for me, it appears to be getting worse.

Mummy loves you and misses you our dear ol' girl Jesse.


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I too have been writing down everything about my Rupert.  As time goes by we forget things.  I collected lots of photos and would love to make a book about him for my children and myself to keep.  I forget things about my previous cats and I don't want to do it this time.  Great idea.  It is very therapeudic too.  Ruperts Mum

Posts: 15
I have also thought about keeping a journal of my Mickey but just have not started yet. I think it is a great idea. I do not want to forget anything about him. All of little quirks and silly antics. He was my special little angel.
Thank you for posting this. I think today I will find a special journal for him and spend some time writing.


Posts: 139
I also have thought of keeping a journal but can't bring myself to start writing yet.  Soon I hope, the grief is here for now and I don't know how long it will  stay with me but I am hoping that soon I'll be able to start writing and putting some pictures together of my beloved Comet.  She was just the best dog, always a constant for me.  Now just empty, a piece of my heart went with her but fortunately the memories have stayed.  When I sit back and look over the grief, I feel lucky to have had her in my life for almost 15 years.  She was a great dog for this family and the love she gave us was so pure.

This is a great idea and I can't wait to be able to write everything down.  So many things will be in this journal.  The biggest thing that will shine through all the words will be the love shared.


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Dear Laine,

I'm so glad you posted this and that you're keeping a memory journal of your most precious companions. I've done one as well for my Cicio and wrote bits and pieces as I thought of them.
It's a celebration of their life and our relationship with them.

BTW..there's something very special about your Nugget..I can feel his energy from that photo.

Many hugs,


Posts: 26
Jesse's Mom - I am 3 weeks from losing my precious Taz as well and I agree, the pain almost seems to get worse everyday the longer it has been. I do think that writing about him helps me more than it hurts. Rather than focusing on the grief, whenever something pops into my head...some happy memory (or even ones that were bumps in the road for us...most often times that were painful for me that he helped me through) I immediately have a need to grab that memory and get it down on paper before I forget it. That helps me to focus more on the special times we shared, and I just naturally tend to start and try to find more of them. In some ways, yes this makes me feel all the more his loss, but I think it helps me to not dwell too much on that last day when I lost him, and all the regrets and things I wish I could change. But we all need to find our own journey through the grieving process and your heart will find its own way to heal, if you let it.

Taz, Dearly loved by Mary Jo, 4/28/95-5/25/08
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