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Trshski

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So I’m feeling sooooo guilty and sad. My kitty got hit by a car today. I feel terrible bc my last cat got hit by a car and I still let this one out!!! I will never get another bc I feel like such a jerk bc I live on a busy street. I knew that it was a possibility but I put it out of my mind bc my family of origin and my husband always let our cats out ( less busy street ) and they were ok. I also feel that I know cats can be happy indoors but it never felt right. When my kitty started going out he was hooked and so much more happy. I felt like not letting him out was like not letting him live. Please don’t judge me. My heart is broken and I feel like a horrible person.
He was sweet. He wasn’t that cuddly but sometimes he let me. He was cute as a button and would hang out with me in the yard while gardening. I need to know that I’m not a bad person and not completely stupid and ignorant. I gave him a good life. I don’t want to feel this way. I feel so sad
eddiesmommy

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I'll tell you something that my vet asked me when our "indoor" cat kept scratching to go outside...quality or quantity? Moose LOVES being outside AND inside. I know that he will have a shorter life because of it, but he would be miserable inside. He cries to go out and cries to come in. You didn't do anything wrong. You gave your cat the best life. I also live on a busy street and my dog was killed on a walk yesterday (which is why I'm on here). I feel horrible too, but should I have just let the dog in the small bricked-out backyard every day instead of taking him on long walks? No way. Sending peace your way.
Trshski

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Thank you so much for your kind response. It helps bc I have been thinking about what a jerk I was. I’m also sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is like losing a member of the family, and it doesn’t help when it’s so traumatic!! Your dog was lucky to have such a loving owner who took him out for long walks!! It’s so hard. Wishing you peace as well.
Trshski

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Thank you so much for your thoughtful kind response, especially at a time when you are grieving your own loss. You helped me a great deal bc I still feel so guilty. Wishing you peace as well
eddiesmommy

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Thank you, Trshski. So terrible to lose a pet...especially in such a traumatic way (for both of us). Hope your week is getting better as the days go on. I appreciate your kind words about Eddie too. Lots of peace and happiness to you. 
pb313

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I am so sorry for each of you on your losses. But instead of being a jerk, you were being kind, letting him live the life he wanted. His loss is tragic but his life was not.

May you each find peace.
olesim

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Trshski,

I lost my dog Mila while in Italy on vacation. She was hit by a motorcycle. She ran from the beach to the beach road. I called her and ran after her, and she turned and looked at me like she was saying good bye and proceeded to the road, which looked clear. I though I will grab her now...
But from nowhere a motorcycle appeared and hit her in the head. I feel guilt and responsibility for not keeping her on a leash. If I kept her on the leash, she would not have run. She was so happy and swam in the water and slayed on the blanket. She did not go anywhere from us. Then suddenly she ran. What if... and Why...I am so heartbroken. She was my baby girl. I know that guilt will ruin me so I grieve and cry. I lost my best friend. We did everything together. We ran, swam, sent three boys to college, sold the house, moved to a new country, read books, watched shows and sports...

I celebrate her life every day by remembering our good times, feeding homeless cats when I can, and trying to make a difference in my life and the lives of others. I know my girl loved everyone and I want to extend my love as she did.
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