Registered: 1591683046 Posts: 2
Does this grief get easier I just recently lost my dog back in January of 2020 and I feel like I am not doing so well I cry every night and cant handle the fact she isnt here she was my best friend my soul mate she knew when I needed her and I feel as though nobody cares and nobody wants to listen to me and I'm in this alone in this time I have been having a bad anxiety attack and panic attacks I just cant cope I really cant I get really depressed
Registered: 1158205770 Posts: 837
I am so sorry for your loss and understand all to well how you feel. My little dog Piper was diagnosed with kidney disease in November of 2018. She was seen by a kidney specialist in an animal hospital until Covid19 began and my vet oversaw her care until Piper died in May. The animal hospital has free grief counseling services. I have not made an appointment because of the pandemic and am slowly adjusting on my own. I miss her so much but letting her go was the right thing to do for her. I don't know your financial situation but you could check if grief counseling is offered in your area. I first came to petloss in 2004 after losing a kitten and I found so many warm and caring people who helped so much. If you would like to communicate with me send me an e-mail. I would be happy to help if I can.
Registered: 1444060919 Posts: 637
The pain gets worse before it gets better. When my dog Tum died I was an emotional wreck at first but I was in shock and there were times I would zone out and get some relief by being in another world. I was unaware of what was really happening because I was in such shock and so emotional. However...as time progressed and I started to come out of the shock, I was forced to face the reality that she was indeed dead and not coming home I got much worse. That time period was the most difficult
and lasted the longest. Much harder than the beginning. Like you, I was alone in my misery. It was the worst time in my life and I had no one to go through it with. That made it all the more painful. I could not believe I was having the worst loss of my life and that I wasn't close to anyone enough such that they too would consider this a crisis. That really added to my stress. I had to hold everything inside and yet inside I was dying. I was so hurt and sad that no one cared that my best friend was dead and that I was in extreme distress because of it. This was a huge event in my life and no one cared because prior to her death I had no friends and have a family where the members were and are estranged all from one another. To answer your question, the pain got better on it's own. This loss will run it's course. But it can take years. For me I thought I would never recover from the pain. I was in such deep pain I saw no end in sight and had no tools to help me cope. The only thing that "helped" was calling the free pet loss hotlines. But during the summer months they have strange hours. I am not even sure if they are operating due to the pandemic. This is the list I used: https://www.petloss.com/phones.htm I would be glad to talk to you anytime. I am very sorry for this severe crisis you are going through. I know how you feel and I understand the depth of despair, depression, anger, sadness and hopelessness. Stephanie
Registered: 1593650361 Posts: 16
Hi, I am sorry for your own loss. They are truly Family and these times are very difficult. I hope you have been able to find comfort in the good times and the great life you had together.
I lost my dog on Sunday, it was my fault I am stricken with grief and feel a huge sense of loss, I am truly heart broken. Can you tell me about your dog and her personality?