Registered: 1593012951 Posts: 1
hi. this is so hard to write. about 2 months ago i lost my boys to a hot spring that was 180 degrees. we had no idea it was that hot and they jumped in. my fiancé jumped in after them to save them - they didn’t make it and my fiancé spent over a month in the hospital learning to walk again. we were devastated and it was the worst day of my life. we had been through the process and things were just starting to get better
now what’s brought me here...my last baby. she was a french bulldog. my theia. my nugget. my absolute best friend who i did everything with. my fiancé forgot he had her in the car and left her in the car for hours. she was only 4. i am in so much pain. she was the best dog. she went everywhere with me and she filled my heart with so much joy. she was mamas girl. i don’t know how to cope with the fact that my fiancé forgot her in the car. i just don’t understand how because i always talk to her in the car i am so angry and don’t know how to get past it. i love him so much and don’t want this to break us. but this was the worst thing imaginable. the worst thing he could do. she was my lifeline. please i need support.
Registered: 1586291565 Posts: 37
I'm so sorry for your losses as well as the circumstances which are clearly so difficult. Theia sounds like she was one of those who crossed the line from pet to soulmate, and you were just beginning to work through your grief over your two boys. Your
fiancé was a hero trying to rescue the two in the water, and I'm imagining he's a wreck over forgetting about Theia. Sadly this happens to even good parents. Of course you're extremely angry, mixed with grief and traumatic loss. I think it would be worth considering counseling for the two of you, but make sure it's with a real animal person. (I made the mistake of seeing someone who said "Can't you just get another kitty?") Again, I'm so sorry. This will take a long time to get through for both of you, but it will happen eventually. I hope you can find whatever support the two of you need.